I did something insenstive-what should I do?

My nephew fell off the bed very late on sunday night and cut his eyebrow. My BIL called my Dh and told him. He had to get stiches- he is 2. So Dh told me and of course Ive been very concerned and finding out the details thru my Dh. I have been really sick my self the past 2 days- fever, flu, vomiting pretty bad that Ive been home from work- something I never do. Well I just talked to Dh and I asked how nephew was and he asked me if I had called over there and I had said no, Ijust havent had the energy to do anything until just recently. Well his BIL said something to my Dh about me not calling and how it was not nice etc. SO when I heard this I just left a message apologizing and expressing my concern for them but I feel really bad. It wasnt on purpose and I was finding out all the updates from Dh so I knew that everthing was ok but the fact that they said something to Dh makes me think that they are really upset. I know that I should have called earlier but I have been reallly ill myself. I dont know what to do now.

Message edited 9/11/2007 4:49:00 PM.

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I would leave it as is, and if they make an issue of it next time you hear from them/see them, you can let them know that you thought it was insensitive of them not to call you since you were so sick.

I don't think you were being insensitive. I think they just wanted to make you feel bad that they didn't tell the story first hand to everyone they encountered.

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I honestly do not think they should be upset with you.
Your DH has been getting the updates, correct? Why do they want both of you to call?
I hope I am not sounding mean, I just think its silly they want you both to call.
Did they call YOU to see how YOU are feeling?

ETA: I hope you and your nephew feel better soon.

Message edited 9/11/2007 4:47:56 PM.

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He fell and got stitches, not a case of appenicitis (sp?) where they have to rush him for surgery or something. I think they are making a big deal out of nothing, especially since you were sick. Do they send out flares when he gets a cold?!?

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There's nothing else to do. You were really sick yourself. You apologized.

Your DH should have told BIL that you were really sick and passed along your concerns and get well wishes and called it a day.

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Message edited 11/11/2011 5:04:18 PM.

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I think they blew it a little out of proportion as far as your BIL telling your DH that it wasnt nice you didnt call to check on their son.

I mean, come on here? Especially since you were sick. I dont really see the need for an explanation here.

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Thanks everyone, I actually felt that way too but Dh and then made me feel so guilty that I was starting to get a complex...They are very much Drama seekers.

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Message edited 11/11/2011 5:10:07 PM.

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Antoinette...I got it. Now that BIL knows YOU are sick, give it a day...when they don't call you to monitor your every sneeze, tell DH that his brother is a real creep for not keeping you on speed dial.

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Posted by Lanabean

Antoinette...I got it. Now that BIL knows YOU are sick, give it a day...when they don't call you to monitor your every sneeze, tell DH that his brother is a real creep for not keeping you on speed dial.

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Message edited 11/11/2011 5:10:37 PM.

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They are over reacting. I would not expect my inlaws AND siblings to all call to check up on my kid. I would expect my sister and brother to relay the message.

You have nothing to worry about.

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How are you insensitive? You were ill, you DH was keeping you informed, there was nothing you could do to make the situation better, so what is the problem?

I think you apologized enough.

ETA: My 15 month old niece fell at the park two days ago and broke her wrist. I did not call over there at all figuring she enough going on. I sent an email today asking how she was.

Message edited 9/11/2007 5:27:35 PM.

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I don't think you did anything wrong. They are being babyish about the whole thing - you know everything was ok from your husband, why did you need to call yourself? Some people are way to sensitive about these things.

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Wow really? Jeez....I hate when someone is made to feel bad when they did nothing wrong. I don't know you but I don't doubt for a second that you have concern for your nephew. Why would your BIL question it? Silly IMO...

Aw! I hope your nephew did OK with the stitches. My DS got his first stitches when he was around 16 months, the little ones can be such troopers though.

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They should be more concerned about their little boy than about you not calling. I'd understand if NEITHER of you called, but to have BOTH of you call is silly

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I'm confused.......what are they mad about? That you didn't show "enough" concern for your NEPHEW. It's not your child and you have every right to not call them right away...YOU are sick. Have they called you and expressed "enough" concern for you? This is tacky, and childish. I would be offended that they think they are more important........just my opinion

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Just to reiterate what the other posters have already said. You have done nothing wrong. They are wrong to make you feel guilty.

With us, if there's a minor incident (yes, 2 stiches is minor....), the blood relative does the checking up. I check on my sister's husband, not DW. DW checks in on her brother's daughter. It just makes sense. We relay the info to each other. No need for both of us to call.

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Are they always this dramatic?

You didn't do anything wrong - they will have to get over it. I agree - if they say something about it next time you talk to them, then tell them how upset you are about them not calling you when you were sick.

Not for nothing, but stitches in the elbow really isn't that insanely serious.