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So a good frined of mine had a baby on Tuesday. I tried callin the hospital on Wed but they said she wasn't there. Huh?? So tried her cell and no answer...ok so I leave a message saying Congratulations adn I have some gifts for the baby. Here it is Sat and she STILL has no returned a call or an e-mail. Fine she's busy, but not to busy to go on her myspace???? I went out and bought her the Chicco stroller she needed/wanted and some cute outfits. So I call her today and leave another message saying what I bought her and that she prob doesn't want company but the next time Travis is at work to let me know so I can give the gifts to him.......So here I am and on her myspace it says she's married! She did a survey that says she's married also!? WTH?????? They have been dating but they weren't engaged and now they're married??? I would understand if we weren't that close but she was my partner for 2yrs and I co-hosted her baby shower. Don't I atleast deserve a return phone call, and email or something to say hey thanks for the gifts and oh yea we're married! They have been hiding since the birth and will not return ANYBODIES phone calls. I am so hurt! I get that they don't want a big tado with work people, but we're friends.....I am so mad and feeling betrayed right now I almost want to return the gifts and say nevermind. What should/would you do?

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I would give her a few more days leeway... i'm sure she's swamped with family visits.

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I know it's hard not to take this personally (I probably would too!), but I would also give her couple more days.

Also, can you just call her hubby? That's what I did when my friend had her baby.

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Give her a few more days. And I wouldn't necessarily read too much intot he whole married thing. I know a few people who aren't married, but say they are on myspace. Drives me nuts because I don't understand the point to it. Sorry you're feeling this way.

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I'm thinking there might be something wrong with the baby, maybe it is in the NICU?

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It sounds like you're pretty close, and you've done a lot for her. I'd be mad, how long does it take to pick up the phone and call you?

People change when they have kids, I've seen it. I guess sometimes you give too much and get taken advantage of

I would stop calling...she'll come around (I hope) and then maybe she'll explain herself

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I think i would give your friend a break. she just had a baby FIVE days ago. there may have been complications, she could be very sore and tired, etc. etc. She is also probably utterly exhausted.

yes, it does sound a bit shady how she has acted to peopel from work, but she has a 5 day old infant... i would cut her some slack.

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My thoughts are:
* I hope Im wrong on this one, but, maybe the baby is in NICU and they are just *saying* everything is fine.
* If she had a C Section, she may only get released today. It's possible that maybe they told the nurses no calls.
* I'd give her maybe another week. If you still here NOTHING then I'd definitley be returning the stuff.
I'm sorry. That's not a good friendship and I'd be pizzed.

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Well....you said you called the hospital and they said she wasn't there, but now it seems she is married? Did you give theright name then? Maybe she IS still at the hospital under her new, married name?

I think you need to just relax. A million things could be going on. I don't even remember the five days after DS was born, who was there, whatever. I am sure it will all work out

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Posted by KateDevine

Well....you said you called the hospital and they said she wasn't there, but now it seems she is married? Did you give theright name then? Maybe she IS still at the hospital under her new, married name?

I think you need to just relax. A million things could be going on. I don't even remember the five days after DS was born, who was there, whatever. I am sure it will all work out

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Posted by medic6809

Posted by KateDevine

Well....you said you called the hospital and they said she wasn't there, but now it seems she is married? Did you give theright name then? Maybe she IS still at the hospital under her new, married name?

I think you need to just relax. A million things could be going on. I don't even remember the five days after DS was born, who was there, whatever. I am sure it will all work out

If they are married then yes I gave the wrong last name, and yes she did have a c-section. She was released on Thursday..delivered on Tuesday evening. She had a small welcome home party Thursday night for 3 people from work and some family to see the baby. This is what is bothering me. They get not only a phone call but the y get to go over and see her and the baby while here I am her "friend" and I don't even get an e-mail saying hey thanks for thinking of us and Wow you didn't have to do anything else! Sorry maybe i'm being spoiled rotten I just feel so

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Posted by medic6809

Posted by KateDevine

Well....you said you called the hospital and they said she wasn't there, but now it seems she is married? Did you give theright name then? Maybe she IS still at the hospital under her new, married name?

I think you need to just relax. A million things could be going on. I don't even remember the five days after DS was born, who was there, whatever. I am sure it will all work out

If they are married then yes I gave the wrong last name, and yes she did have a c-section. She was released on Thursday..delivered on Tuesday evening. She had a small welcome home party Thursday night for 3 people from work and some family to see the baby. This is what is bothering me. They get not only a phone call but the y get to go over and see her and the baby while here I am her "friend" and I don't even get an e-mail saying hey thanks for thinking of us and Wow you didn't have to do anything else! Sorry maybe i'm being spoiled rotten I just feel so

ITA. I know many women who had c-sections and none of them were out in 2 days.

Who told you about this party? Is it something you believe?

If she had a section I'd be shocked she'd get out that quickly. I had a v birth and I was there longer than that!

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Yeah- with a vaginal birth you are out in 2 days- C-section is more than 3 days. I think someone might be messing with you and fibbing about a so-called party that you weren't invited to.

Is it possible that some of the "work difficuties" you've previously spoken about might be causing this situation?

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I have to agree with the above posters. If she had a c section Tues. night, no way could she be let out thurs..at least I don't think...I was in 4 nights.
I don't know, something is not adding up

I am so sorry

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Nope it's true and her myspace photos are up, and many people are asking me why I wasn't there adn did I know they were married on Monday...I swear it gets worse and worse as the day goes on...

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Posted by medic6809

Plus her "hubby" is an a**hole and everybody hates him. She'll be divorced and a single mom by this time next year. I know that's horrible but it's the truth. She loves him and is happy so that's all that matters and I don't say much about their relationship because I don't have much nice to say. Let me put it this way...he's giving her 3months to be her pre pg size or he can start cheating this is not a joke..ask his ex-wife

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I would be upset too. I never understood this. I had a c-section and welcomed people and phone calls. I never went into "hiding". Especially if a good friend called and said Congrats and that they had gifts. I am on that. I loved sharing the news and Andrew with everyone.

Sorry. I think it is rude of her.

Maybe the baby is ugly and she is embarrassed. I'M KIDDING

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I don't get it- first you say she's not returning ANYBODY'S phone calls from work, then you say she had 3 people from work over.....?

I'm still confused how its possible that a woman who had a C-section is out just a day and a half later.

If what you say is true- it seems that she knows your feelings about her husband (or maybe he does) and is acting accordingly. If someone who is supposed to be a close friend said the things you've said about her husband to me (have you said these things to anyone else- someone who might have told them?), I wouldn't want to talk to her ever again either.

Hope you figure everything out

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