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hazeleyes33
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Re: How much to give for a wedding out of state?
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I'm probably so cheap, but I think if you are travelling a long distance and paying for hotels etc, a token gift is all thats needed. So $25 - $50 maybe.
I had about 15 people travel from the UK to come to our wedding and I would have been mortified had they spent $100 on us, same with my family from out of town.
Well this is a very good friend. My parents knew them for 40 years. My mom is paying the airfare and hotel so this would be my only expense. I don't think I could give that low. My dh and I were actually thinking $300!!
You see, I agree with your first thoughts. Even though it's only you going, the gift is still from both of you. Also, considering that you are not footing the bill for the trip, I would give what I normally would at a local wedding. Since they are also former NYers (I am assuming), they would appreciate the monetary gift.
JMO!
She is a former NY and her mom (my godmother), herself and brother came for my wedding and her mom and herself came to my sister's wedding. I wouldn't give as much if I wasn't so close for so many years.
I spoke with my sister and since she is taking her kids and in the wedding, she said she is going to give $300-$400. She thinks $200 should be fine since I am the only one going BUT I want the gift to be from me, my dh and kids.
I will need a dress and some spending money (but not much since I will only be there for the weekend).
I would give what you would normally give from you and your family. Once Dh and I were serious, I started giving gifts from both of us. That continues even though one of us may not attend a function. I went to a wedding in Maryland last year solo and gave the same gift. I drove down, stayed over in a hotel and got my hair done down there.
The problem is, I have not been to a wedding in almost 5 years!! I don't know what the standard is anymore.
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Re: How much to give for a wedding out of state?
I would base it on what your sister is giving. I agree with your original number more or less.
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Re: How much to give for a wedding out of state?
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I always give what I would give at a New York wedding.
Me too
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Re: How much to give for a wedding out of state?
I guess its a nice gentle reminder not to invite me to your out of town wedding!!!
I travelled to Rochester about 4 years ago for a wedding, it probably cost me around $1200 to get to the wedding and to stay...so a nice pair of Wedgewood Salt and Pepper shakers were all the gift I could afford after that!
To be honest, I find it quite shocking that people "expect" a certain amount of money or money spent on a gift. I got married and had a wedding to share my happiness and joy with everyone that I love! I couldn't give two hoots if I did or didn't get a present to be honest...I registered at Fortunoffs but only because someone asked me to register, I wasn't bothered. I guess I just run in a different kind of circle...
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Re: How much to give for a wedding out of state?
Posted by racheeeee
I guess its a nice gentle reminder not to invite me to your out of town wedding!!!
I travelled to Rochester about 4 years ago for a wedding, it probably cost me around $1200 to get to the wedding and to stay...so a nice pair of Wedgewood Salt and Pepper shakers were all the gift I could afford after that!
To be honest, I find it quite shocking that people "expect" a certain amount of money or money spent on a gift. I got married and had a wedding to share my happiness and joy with everyone that I love! I couldn't give two hoots if I did or didn't get a present to be honest...I registered at Fortunoffs but only because someone asked me to register, I wasn't bothered. I guess I just run in a different kind of circle...
I know that I got a gift from an out of towner at my wedding mostly because they did not know that in NY you give money. I was very happy with it.
The amount is usually calculated by the price of your meal, even though I hope my money does not go to pay for the wedding but for other things like a new home, savings, etc.
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Re: How much to give for a wedding out of state?
Posted by hazeleyes33
I know that I got a gift from an out of towner at my wedding mostly because they did not know that in NY you give money. I was very happy with it.
The amount is usually calculated by the price of your meal, even though I hope my money does not go to pay for the wedding but for other things like a new home, savings, etc.
Just interesting, in the UK £100 (Sorry, thats around $100) is a VERY generous wedding gift. People throw (what we consider) big weddings and a cash gift is not expected.
But it takes all sorts right!
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hazeleyes33
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Re: How much to give for a wedding out of state?
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I know that I got a gift from an out of towner at my wedding mostly because they did not know that in NY you give money. I was very happy with it.
The amount is usually calculated by the price of your meal, even though I hope my money does not go to pay for the wedding but for other things like a new home, savings, etc.
Just interesting, in the UK £100 (Sorry, thats around $100) is a VERY generous wedding gift. People throw (what we consider) big weddings and a cash gift is not expected.
But it takes all sorts right!
It's so weird how different it is around the country AND world! My mom is in GA and the receptions last an hour with punch and cake. They give gifts. My mom's boss did not understand what they were going to do for 5 hours at my sister's wedding-lol!!
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Re: How much to give for a wedding out of state?
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I know that I got a gift from an out of towner at my wedding mostly because they did not know that in NY you give money. I was very happy with it.
The amount is usually calculated by the price of your meal, even though I hope my money does not go to pay for the wedding but for other things like a new home, savings, etc.
Just interesting, in the UK £100 (Sorry, thats around $100) is a VERY generous wedding gift. People throw (what we consider) big weddings and a cash gift is not expected.
But it takes all sorts right!
It's so weird how different it is around the country AND world! My mom is in GA and the receptions last an hour with punch and cake. They give gifts. My mom's boss did not understand what they were going to do for 5 hours at my sister's wedding-lol!!
Sorry £100 is $200. Also, in the UK they do something very interesting. So they have a wedding breakfast in the day (thats what the meal is traditionally called, its because its the first meal they eat as man and wife so its breakfast...even though its dinner) and they have the meal and then they have the evening do. NOW, if you are on the A-List you get invited to the whole shebang, the daytime party and the nighttime disco. If you are on the B-List you only get invited to the nighttime disco. Now, for me, its not really a wedding unless you see the couple getting married...so I hate just being invited to the nighttime do...but you still have to go. There is usually a buffet meal and a cash bar (this is the norm in the UK) if you are really lucky and go to a wedding in Scotland or Ireland, you get a damn good traditional shindig in the evening time...
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hazeleyes33
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Re: How much to give for a wedding out of state?
Posted by racheeeee
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Posted by hazeleyes33
I know that I got a gift from an out of towner at my wedding mostly because they did not know that in NY you give money. I was very happy with it.
The amount is usually calculated by the price of your meal, even though I hope my money does not go to pay for the wedding but for other things like a new home, savings, etc.
Just interesting, in the UK £100 (Sorry, thats around $100) is a VERY generous wedding gift. People throw (what we consider) big weddings and a cash gift is not expected.
But it takes all sorts right!
It's so weird how different it is around the country AND world! My mom is in GA and the receptions last an hour with punch and cake. They give gifts. My mom's boss did not understand what they were going to do for 5 hours at my sister's wedding-lol!!
Sorry £100 is $200. Also, in the UK they do something very interesting. So they have a wedding breakfast in the day (thats what the meal is traditionally called, its because its the first meal they eat as man and wife so its breakfast...even though its dinner) and they have the meal and then they have the evening do. NOW, if you are on the A-List you get invited to the whole shebang, the daytime party and the nighttime disco. If you are on the B-List you only get invited to the nighttime disco. Now, for me, its not really a wedding unless you see the couple getting married...so I hate just being invited to the nighttime do...but you still have to go. There is usually a buffet meal and a cash bar (this is the norm in the UK) if you are really lucky and go to a wedding in Scotland or Ireland, you get a damn good traditional shindig in the evening time...
Very interesting.
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Re: How much to give for a wedding out of state?
Posted by racheeeee
I guess its a nice gentle reminder not to invite me to your out of town wedding!!!
Honestly, I had no expecation of a gift from anyone that came to my wedding and quite a few people didnt give a gift!
However, if someone asks me what I would do, I tell them what I would do. It doesnt mean that is what I would be expecting in return... Just how I would handle the situation.
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