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Samira0407
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How much does your DH/SO know about this whole process?
Right now we're just "not NOT trying" no temping; OPK's etc. I just chart so I know when I'm fertile and when to expect AF.
This last cycle I was 5 days late and I really thought it was our month and I told DH and we were waiting either for a BFP or for AF to arrive this past weekend. Part of me now just feels like why set him up for that disappointment? Maybe just wait until I actually get a BFP? I come on here to share all my crazy symptoms and I confide in one close friend. Maybe I should just not let DH worry about all the unnecessary stress?
What does everyone else do? How involved are your men in all of this? Well of course other than the obvious 
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Re: How much does your DH/SO know about this whole process?
i love my dh, but until saturday he was clueless!!! i mean he knows we are trying but saturday he made a comment about doing a lot of  next week while we are away (taking a late honeymoon) so that we can have a honeymoon baby. i told him that the timing isnt right so there is no way we will have a honeymoon baby. i saw the clueless look in his eyes so i gave him a quick tutorial and know he gets it 
he said he wants to know when I expect to O next month so we can dtd every night (right now we dtd every other night). of course i agreed!
as far as how im feeling, i dont share my craziness with him...he doesnt need to know that my boobs hurt or anything like that
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Samira0407
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Re: How much does your DH/SO know about this whole process?
LOL!!!
that's too funny!! But so sweet that he wants to know when you "O" !!!
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| Posted 2/13/12 3:37 PM |
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Re: How much does your DH/SO know about this whole process?
DH is pretty involved, I'd say. This past cycle, AF was a few days later than I was expecting, and DH kept up with the positivity, even though I told him I felt AF cramps. And then when AF came, I knew he was just as disappointed as I was. He said something to me about how frustrated he was, but that he didn't want to talk to me about it because of my own frustrations. So that kind of made me feel bad...I have this board, and he doesn't have anyone (since we're keeping TTC private).
For this cycle, he asked me to let him know when I'm going to be O'ing so that he can wear boxers instead of boxer briefs (apparently he's been reading stuff on the internet!).
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Re: How much does your DH/SO know about this whole process?
Posted by jams92
i love my dh, but until saturday he was clueless!!! i mean he knows we are trying but saturday he made a comment about doing a lot of next week while we are away (taking a late honeymoon) so that we can have a honeymoon baby. i told him that the timing isnt right so there is no way we will have a honeymoon baby. i saw the clueless look in his eyes so i gave him a quick tutorial and know he gets it
he said he wants to know when I expect to O next month so we can dtd every night (right now we dtd every other night). of course i agreed!
as far as how im feeling, i dont share my craziness with him...he doesnt need to know that my boobs hurt or anything like that
We went on a belated honeymoon just a few weeks ago and wanted a honeymoon baby, too! Unfortunately, it WAS the right time for my body, just not for a baby 
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shellbebaby
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Re: How much does your DH/SO know about this whole process?
Because of DH's work schedule he knows it all, how it works, where I am in my cycle... its more then he wants to know I am sure, but it is pretty necessary because when I say PLEASE try to come home, he knows its important.
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IveGotAFeeling
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Re: How much does your DH/SO know about this whole process?
my DH thinks you can take a pregnancy test the day after you and it would give you a +/- if you were pregnant 
I had to "educate" him on the birds and the bees this weekend 
I swear he must have really believed the stork brought children up until he was 15
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Lillies
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Re: How much does your DH/SO know about this whole process?
He doesn't really know ab all of my 'behind the scenes' things.. just that we are enjoying to make a baby! I figured it's best not to keep the pressure on him so we can sort of enjoy the experience. Also I really want to surprise him when the day comes that we are pg! Luckily his schedule is normal so we don't have to schedule
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caps612
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Re: How much does your DH/SO know about this whole process?
I tell him everything...but he only retains about 20%
its actually getting annoying now 
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Re: How much does your DH/SO know about this whole process?
When we first started TTC I tried not to tell DH too much, but now that we're seeing a RE he knows a lot more! There are still some things I dont tell him. For example - he doesnt know I'm on this site! But it's great that I can come on her for support and to learn about others experiences.
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readyornot2
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Re: How much does your DH/SO know about this whole process?
At first, he knew nothing. We talked about stopping the pill, I stopped, and I think he thought he was going to impregnate me the very next day. He's not the type to handle that kind of pressure well if you know what I mean so I never said a thing to him. Last month I used OPks but didn't tell him. By the 3rd time I got AF (2 full cycles off BCP) he was bewildered as to how it hadn't happened yet so now I let him know when it's a good time to BD. It's so much easier now that he knows.
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babyfever24
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Re: How much does your DH/SO know about this whole process?
All he knows is positive opk then
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MrsKelly
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Re: How much does your DH/SO know about this whole process?
he didn't know a whole lot... until we (a) miscarried after trying for 6 months and then (b) haven't gotten pregnant again for way too many cycles... sooo... now he knows EVERYTHING - especially since he just had to fill out a 6 page questionnare of every. single. detail. for the urologist specialist he's going to see and also since we work completely opposite schedules and can go 5 days without seeing one another... there's nothing discreet about saying "wake me up when you get home from work at 1am" - when he knooows i wake up for work at 4am, and would never say that otherwise!
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MammaPajama
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Re: How much does your DH/SO know about this whole process?
Posted by IveGotAFeeling
my DH thinks you can take a pregnancy test the day after you and it would give you a +/- if you were pregnant
I had to "educate" him on the birds and the bees this weekend
I swear he must have really believed the stork brought children up until he was 15
that is hilarious!!!! I tell DH pretty much everything he's actually started to retain some knowledge
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MrsM429
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Re: How much does your DH/SO know about this whole process?
My DH is very involved since we've been working with an RE
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mrssoto
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Re: How much does your DH/SO know about this whole process?
When we started, basically we had, had a convo months before about we wanted to start in January. Then in December, I said, so were still on for Jan, right? And he said Yes,. january came and i decided not to say a word and the first time we BD, he obviously knew because I told him to not pull out. Yes, so this was our "convo" lol.
From that point until the 2ww, we had a lot of bd time so he knew obviously because we never bd that much. Then of course, he really knew because I couldnt help but talking about it during the 2ww.
Well then I got pg but then I had a mc, so now basically he knows everything.
I am sad because going forward it definately wont be the same as it was at first. I have to get over that...I just dont want it start to affect us badly.
This is silly but I still wont use the word ovulate around him, I feel its too scientific for him to stay iin the mood. So I will just say, good days, not as good days, etc. lol
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