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How Do You Tell Someone They Smell?

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How Do You Tell Someone They Smell?

We are very clean people in our office, we all shower daily and we don't smell. There is a new person that STINKS. He smells like pooh (seriously). We gag around him. This person is a lawyer and I just cannot imagine the higher ups having a conversation with him telling him he smells.

Posted 2/11/08 2:04 PM
 
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Re: How Do You Tell Someone They Smell?

You don't take situations like these into your own hands. Talk to HR and let them handle it.

Posted 2/11/08 2:05 PM
 

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Re: How Do You Tell Someone They Smell?

Are you sure he didn't just fart? Chat Icon


Does he really smell like poo all the time?? Maybe he needs to do laundry more often.

Posted 2/11/08 2:06 PM
 

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Re: How Do You Tell Someone They Smell?

Posted by Kara

You don't take situations like these into your own hands. Talk to HR and let them handle it.



*I* wasn't going to say anything. I'm just curious as to HOW you tell someone they smell without offending.

We don't have HR Chat Icon

And yes..it's a nasty pooh, I don't wash my butt, kind of smell Chat Icon We all want to die when he comes around

Posted 2/11/08 2:08 PM
 

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Re: How Do You Tell Someone They Smell?

Posted by Summerrluvv

Posted by Kara

You don't take situations like these into your own hands. Talk to HR and let them handle it.



*I* wasn't going to say anything. I'm just curious as to HOW you tell someone they smell without offending.

We don't have HR Chat Icon

And yes..it's a nasty pooh, I don't wash my butt, kind of smell Chat Icon We all want to die when he comes around

Unfortunately, there is no way that you can say he stinks without offending.

Knowing myself, though, when he came around, I would probably throw a hidden innuendo by spraying my area with air freshener. Chat Icon

Message edited 2/11/2008 2:10:11 PM.

Posted 2/11/08 2:08 PM
 

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Re: How Do You Tell Someone They Smell?

You can just do this whenever he walks by

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Posted 2/11/08 2:09 PM
 

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Re: How Do You Tell Someone They Smell?

What a horrible situation. I would have the boss/manager say something. Chat Icon

Posted 2/11/08 2:09 PM
 

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Re: How Do You Tell Someone They Smell?

you could always put a clothes pin on your nose. LOL Sorry to laugh but Gross!! Maybe leave a bar of soap in his office. Or spray perfume around when he comes.Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 2/11/08 2:15 PM
 

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Re: How Do You Tell Someone They Smell?

He smells like a cute little bear who loves honey??
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Posted 2/11/08 2:18 PM
 

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Re: How Do You Tell Someone They Smell?

we had someone like this at the last firm I worked for. Here's the not nice version of how co-worker approached it:

So...."John" what cologne are you wearing?

I didn't put any on today.

Oh, so you WANTED to smell that way?

IMO there is NEVER a nice way to tell someone that they have bad hygenie. The only more tactful way to do it is to have someone who is most friendly with him inquire as to his health.

Posted 2/11/08 2:29 PM
 

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Re: How Do You Tell Someone They Smell?

Is there a way you (or a co-worker) could leave a typed note on his desk anonymously so that you could avoid embarrassing him in front of everyone?

Posted 2/11/08 2:33 PM
 

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Re: How Do You Tell Someone They Smell?

Posted by Domino

we had someone like this at the last firm I worked for. Here's the not nice version of how co-worker approached it:

So...."John" what cologne are you wearing?

I didn't put any on today.

Oh, so you WANTED to smell that way?

IMO there is NEVER a nice way to tell someone that they have bad hygenie. The only more tactful way to do it is to have someone who is most friendly with him inquire as to his health.




Oh dear Chat Icon

Sometimes I seriously wonder how people that smell like that cannot smell themselves. We have A LOT of smelly clients too. My boss actually told one of them he couldn't come back to the office because the smell was making the girls sick and that he couldn't appear in court because they won't have that there (his hearing was done by telephone).

Posted 2/11/08 2:36 PM
 

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Re: How Do You Tell Someone They Smell?

I would suggest you be nice about it. Don't try to make them feel awkward...

...just print this out and leave it on their desk...

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Everyone thinks bunnies are cute!

Posted 2/11/08 2:36 PM
 

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Re: How Do You Tell Someone They Smell?

Posted by bomb-blast

Everyone thinks bunnies are cute!



good to see you are finally catching on Chat Icon Chat Icon

ETA: someone(s) had to have hired this person. since they let the smell in, THEY should address it.

there is no way to avoid embarrassment, unless the person doesn't care at all...so don 't even try. I don't see how an anonymous letter or email would be less embarrassing...or less humiliating than spraying your workspace after a visit, so might as well just come out with it...air it out, so to speak Chat Icon

Message edited 2/11/2008 2:46:07 PM.

Posted 2/11/08 2:43 PM
 

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Re: How Do You Tell Someone They Smell?

Posted by Summerrluvv

Posted by Domino

we had someone like this at the last firm I worked for. Here's the not nice version of how co-worker approached it:

So...."John" what cologne are you wearing?

I didn't put any on today.

Oh, so you WANTED to smell that way?

IMO there is NEVER a nice way to tell someone that they have bad hygenie. The only more tactful way to do it is to have someone who is most friendly with him inquire as to his health.




Oh dear Chat Icon

Sometimes I seriously wonder how people that smell like that cannot smell themselves. We have A LOT of smelly clients too. My boss actually told one of them he couldn't come back to the office because the smell was making the girls sick and that he couldn't appear in court because they won't have that there (his hearing was done by telephone).



Hearing was done by phone because the guy smelled?! Had to be a pretty awful odor. If your boss said it to a client, surely he can tell a staff member! Is it because the guy does not clean his clothes? Get him a dry cleaning gift certificate!

Message edited 2/11/2008 2:45:23 PM.

Posted 2/11/08 2:45 PM
 

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Re: How Do You Tell Someone They Smell?

Posted by bomb-blast

I would suggest you be nice about it. Don't try to make them feel awkward...

...just print this out and leave it on their desk...

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Everyone thinks bunnies are cute!



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Posted 2/11/08 2:46 PM
 

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Re: How Do You Tell Someone They Smell?

Posted by Kerie-is-so-very

Posted by Summerrluvv

Posted by Domino

we had someone like this at the last firm I worked for. Here's the not nice version of how co-worker approached it:

So...."John" what cologne are you wearing?

I didn't put any on today.

Oh, so you WANTED to smell that way?

IMO there is NEVER a nice way to tell someone that they have bad hygenie. The only more tactful way to do it is to have someone who is most friendly with him inquire as to his health.




Oh dear Chat Icon

Sometimes I seriously wonder how people that smell like that cannot smell themselves. We have A LOT of smelly clients too. My boss actually told one of them he couldn't come back to the office because the smell was making the girls sick and that he couldn't appear in court because they won't have that there (his hearing was done by telephone).



Hearing was done by phone because the guy smelled?! Had to be a pretty awful odor. If your boss said it to a client, surely he can tell a staff member! Is it because the guy does not clean his clothes? Get him a dry cleaning gift certificate!



It was really bad. About 1,000 times worse than this guy.

Maybe it's his clothes..who knows, but I can't imagine being a client and actually having to SIT in there with him.

At first we thought it was the garbage, but we took the can out and the smell is still around. Not QUITE as bad, but still smelly, and when he walks by and creates a draft..ick!

Message edited 2/11/2008 2:50:51 PM.

Posted 2/11/08 2:48 PM
 

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Re: How Do You Tell Someone They Smell?

Oh my GOD...this thread is making me laugh!!!Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Seriously...how do you not know your @ss stinks. Don't you smell it?

I would bring it up to whoever hired mr poopy pants.

I feel sorry for his chair....Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 2/11/08 3:38 PM
 

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Re: How Do You Tell Someone They Smell?

Posted by Summerrluvv

Posted by bomb-blast

I would suggest you be nice about it. Don't try to make them feel awkward...

...just print this out and leave it on their desk...

IMAGE

Everyone thinks bunnies are cute!



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OMG LOL Chat Icon

Posted 2/11/08 3:43 PM
 

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Re: How Do You Tell Someone They Smell?

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I feel sorry for his chair....Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon



ME TOO! Or anyone who uses it after him! Chat Icon

Posted 2/11/08 3:46 PM
 

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Re: How Do You Tell Someone They Smell?

I am a definite conflict avoider and could never tell someone they smelled.

Honestly, I would make sure to have a really good supply of fragrant lotion around... whenever he was near, I would lotion up my hands and put them near my nose so that I got the nice smelly lotion smell instead of pooh!

Posted 2/11/08 3:50 PM
 

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Re: How Do You Tell Someone They Smell?

Let a HR (preferrably a male) handle it.

I once had that problem in my corporate fitness center. The minute he started working out the WHOLE PLACE filled with his smellChat Icon I did not even have to look, you knew he was in the center.

They did not want to address the issue, so the best news I got from HR was that he was leaving the company.

Posted 2/11/08 3:52 PM
 

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Re: How Do You Tell Someone They Smell?

Honestly I would FIRST find out if he's not ill.... there are alot of people that have colostomy bags and I've heard that they STINK!!!! there is some kind of carbon in them that can defuse the order but it very well could be a health situation..

IF it's not then the boss needs to address it..does this man go into court smelling like that? Your bosses haven't gotten a whiff???

We had a woman like that years ago in the office and someone left a deodorant stick on her desk when she was out to lunch! Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 2/11/08 4:08 PM
 

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Re: How Do You Tell Someone They Smell?

We had that issue a few years back.

Someone filed an anonymous complaint with HR. And HR sent out a general email about hygiene and it's necessity to comply.

Posted 2/11/08 4:12 PM
 

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Re: How Do You Tell Someone They Smell?

Posted by MamaMia

Honestly I would FIRST find out if he's not ill.... there are alot of people that have colostomy bags and I've heard that they STINK!!!! there is some kind of carbon in them that can defuse the order but it very well could be a health situation..

IF it's not then the boss needs to address it..does this man go into court smelling like that? Your bosses haven't gotten a whiff???

We had a woman like that years ago in the office and someone left a deodorant stick on her desk when she was out to lunch! Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon




So true--I worked with someone years ago who had a colostomy bag. I could not use the bathroom for the rest of the day after she did. I threw up from it once and there were many days I had to skip lunch. She was the sweetest lady, too, so that made it more difficult. Eventually, I got a key to a private bathroom that was supposed to be just for the judges I was working for. I snuck my co-workers into there sometimes, too.

DH had someone from a temp. agency in his office for a while. The guy kept farting and it smelled really bad. He called in sick on his second or third day, saying he was having a "gastronomical problem."

Posted 2/11/08 4:19 PM
 
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