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VirginiaDeb
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High School grudges...
On my class' myspace group... there has been some going back and forth about this guy that we graduated with (dad was head football couch fresh-senior year... and, suprise suprise, son was starting quarterback all four years)... but i digress... one guy posted about this kid being an a-hole to him (calling him fat, that he should just kill himself, etc.) and now it's going back and forth... half the people posting that he's right, and that the kid will have what's coming to him, and others saying that he's being petty, that's high school, and to get over it...
so, i'm wondering, what are your thoughts on this? Does someone several years out of high school have the right to still feel hurt/angry, or should they just 'get over it'?
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Re: High School grudges...
IMO...i think it is time to get over it.
And i think the people that are holding onto, discussing or debating "HS BS" need to get a life
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| Posted 3/26/06 7:38 PM |
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VirginiaDeb
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Re: High School grudges...
i actually don't even know how it started... it's on a thread asking what everyone is doing now 
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| Posted 3/26/06 7:40 PM |
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neenie
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Re: High School grudges...
for me, i say It was HS... just get over it, its time to move on
BUT i also never had anyone say things like that to me, or treat me like that, so i really can't say how i would (nevermind how the other person should feel) if that were the case.
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| Posted 3/26/06 7:43 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: High School grudges...
Nope they have the right to feel upset but it's much healthier for them to let it go.
I was hoping that the girl that everyone picked on would show up to our high school reunion, rich & drop dead gorgeous for this very reason. Of course, she didn't show up at all. Part of the problem was that so many people had tried to "befriend" her & were horrible to her. If you were nice to her, she didn't know how to take it. The only person that was sucessful at being nice to her was our friend who won "Class Best Looking". She was the sweetest person - and the girl that was picked on finally trusted her enough.
eta. My DH was one of the bullies in school. We've had numerous conversations about the kid he picked on, how horrible he feels. This kid was the one of the only reasons he went to his HS reunion...to apologize.
Message edited 3/26/2006 7:45:14 PM.
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Snozberry
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Re: High School grudges...
If you don't deal with the person or people then, what can you really do 5-10 years after the fact?
I think that unless the person does serious bodily harm to you, you have to let it go.
Posted by nrthshgrl
Nope they have the right to feel upset but it's much healthier for them to let it go.
You make a great point.
Message edited 3/26/2006 7:45:07 PM.
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Kate07
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Re: High School grudges...
To be honest, I think they still have a right to be angry.
I'll mention the flip side. i discovered a group on MySpace with several people I went to high school with and I saw one thread that mentioned me and making fun of me and where I probably was now. I was shy and quiet in high school, not antisocial or anything. Seeing my first and last name and some of the things they wrote and people replying "hahahaha". I was sick to my stomach and in tears. It brought me back ten years.....
I don't like MySpace for the fact that all those people can congregate - this time I can actually see what they are saying - so I choose to stay off the site completely.
Message edited 3/26/2006 8:02:09 PM.
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| Posted 3/26/06 8:01 PM |
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jaysee00
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Re: High School grudges...
Posted by Kate07
To be honest, I think they still have a right to be angry.
I'll mention the flip side. i discovered a group on MySpace with several people I went to high school with and I saw one thread that mentioned me and making fun of me and where I probably was now. I was shy and quiet in high school, not antisocial or anything. Seeing my first and last name and some of the things they wrote and people replying "hahahaha". I was sick to my stomach and in tears. It brought me back ten years.....
I don't like MySpace for the fact that all those people can congregate - this time I can actually see what they are saying - so I choose to stay off the site completely.
I feel awful that this happened to you. 
I think people have a right to be upset. Those kind of hurtful experiences can stay with you. However, it is definitely up to them to move past it. As an adult, I think a person needs to realize that only the way he/she reacts to a past situation is all that really matters. Easier said than done though. In high school, I was quiet and only interacted with a small group of friends. It used to really bother me the way people got made fun of. I think though that when someone at that age goes out of their way to hurt others it's because they are really feeling terrible about themselves or have something going on in their lives to make them act that way. Although in high school no one realizes it at the time.
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| Posted 3/26/06 8:26 PM |
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Holly
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Re: High School grudges...
I think the grudges still remain..
I found a lot of my classmates on My Space too..and we were discussing doing our 10 year reunion this year...
But then when I go look at their profiles, they are THE SAME as they were 10 years ago..its like nobody grew up...
and then reading some "bulletins/surveys" one girl was talkinga bout kicking someones @ss and her hatred for this girl...10 years later..it made me sad to realize nothing has changed...and the girl she is talking about, is one of my best friends
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| Posted 3/26/06 8:37 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: High School grudges...
Posted by Kate07
I was sick to my stomach and in tears. It brought me back ten years.....
There are people that reached their glory in high school - and can't get past that. I think it is absolutely pathetic to hope nothing for the best for people. And as goody two shoes as that sounds, I want to go kick these people in the head for you.
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| Posted 3/26/06 8:38 PM |
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dpli
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Re: High School grudges...
Posted by Kate07
Seeing my first and last name and some of the things they wrote and people replying "hahahaha". I was sick to my stomach and in tears. It brought me back ten years.....
I find it hard to believe that these people have nothing better to do with their time than to rehash this BS 
I went to a reunion recently and I found it interesting to see that some of the "hotties" in HS were not doing to well these days, but those who were the geeky or weird ones were very successful and so nice to talk to. One woman, who was a tomboy in HS, looked like a model - so beautiful that I didn't even recognize her. I understand why people would still be hurt, but I would hope that they could see how sad and pathetic these other people are, that they still derive pleasure from putting people down that they haven't seen or talked to in years
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| Posted 3/26/06 8:45 PM |
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Re: High School grudges...
I agree! I cant believe that happened to you!
Something that hurtful, of course it would still affect someone in their current life.
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| Posted 3/26/06 8:49 PM |
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saraH
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Re: High School grudges...
funny thing - i saw a girl i went to hs with a few weeks ago at burtons. she knew who i was and did not say hello, and its not like we fought or whatever. we gradutated over 11 years ago...time to get over it
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| Posted 3/26/06 9:32 PM |
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JenniferEver
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Re: High School grudges...
I think people definitely have a right to still feel hurt and upset. ABeing teased in HS can have lifelong implications. Is it healthier to move on> yes, but you shouldn;t deny people their feelings.
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