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july06bride
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Godparent Question...advice, kind of long
I am an only child...
Dh has two brothers- one is much younger-so at this time, not a consideration for godfather...and one is my age-he is very close to and will be godfather to our baby girl...
Dh's brother has a girlfriend whom I am NOT close to ...we get along and we are friendly, but she would never be a consideration for being godmother to my child- they live together, but their relationship is unstable-she does not share the same religious beliefs as we do either.
So, it is assumed that DH's brother will be godfather...
now for godmother-
being an only child and the youngest grandchild by MANY years, the only person I would consider in my family to be godmother is one of my cousins- we are close...She has two children who are great- but an unstable marriage- lives not so close to us-very loving and giving-shares religious beliefts
the other option is my best friend- she was MOH in my wedding- I was MOH in hers- she shares religious beliefts-she is in loving marriage- she lives close by to us and would see the baby often-
Basically they are both wonderful options and would be great godmothers and would be honored ...the choice is family vs. friends...
Benefit of friend...
Friend I would see much more often-therefore baby would see godmother often- Very close to BF since neither of us have sisters...
Benefit of family...they are never going anywhere. I don't think I would ever lose touch with BF either- but friends can come and go if they wanted to ...cousin isn't going anywhere and would always be in DD's life
Help me decide please... BF's bday is Tuesday and if I am asking her, I would like to ask Tuesday..
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NoahsArkTummy
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Re: Godparent Question...advice, kind of long
we are in a similar boat....DH is one of 4 boys and is none of his 7 nieces or nephews godparents....his brothers all chose people from the wives side....we arent really close to them and i feel odd having them stand up in church with my boys......we have and always will have amazing friends who have been there for us thru alot....and know how happy we are to be having such a blessing.....we are throwing the rules out the window and most likely choosing my friend from elementary school days for GM and one of our best male friends for GF.....when choosing i just think you have to think that God forbid they have to raise your kids for you they raise them with the same morals and beliefs you both have.....
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| Posted 11/2/08 8:27 AM |
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randella
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Re: Godparent Question...advice, kind of long
Take family vs friends out of the equation.. As individuals who would you rather???
It sounds to me like your best friend is the better choice for you. I would probably do that.
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| Posted 11/2/08 8:59 AM |
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juju
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Re: Godparent Question...advice, kind of long
Posted by randella
Take family vs friends out of the equation.. As individuals who would you rather???
It sounds to me like your best friend is the better choice for you. I would probably do that.
This is how I feel.
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| Posted 11/2/08 9:04 AM |
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july06bride
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Re: Godparent Question...advice, kind of long
Posted by juju
Posted by randella
Take family vs friends out of the equation.. As individuals who would you rather???
It sounds to me like your best friend is the better choice for you. I would probably do that.
This is how I feel.
You are both right--- taking friend vs. family out of it- I would be choosing my Best Friend... but I had such awful godparents- one being my mom's friend (they are still friends-but she is just a nonexistent godmother)
-and my father's brother who had too much going on in is own life to ever really "think" about me... That I want my child to always have godparents in her life...so that's where the toss up is coming from.
Message edited 11/2/2008 9:11:03 AM.
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| Posted 11/2/08 9:10 AM |
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mia818
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Re: Godparent Question...advice, kind of long
It must be a hard decision to make but for me I have no siblings so my friends are like my family so I am picking 2 of them to be godmothers. My dh does have siblings, but they are not close and they barely see my son so I do not feel obligated to pick one as a godparent and neither does he. I would want someone who will always be in their life.
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| Posted 11/2/08 9:18 AM |
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mamabear
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Re: Godparent Question...advice, kind of long
we are choosing friends. I'm also an only child and FH has a half brother. In part I also feel like family will always be there for DD regardless, and by making friends a godparent, you are making them like family to DD, giving her more real adult support throughout life.
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| Posted 11/2/08 9:40 AM |
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Bops
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Re: Godparent Question...advice, kind of long
Hard call but it seems as if maybe your BF would be the best option- Legal guardianship can be whom-ever you choose (heaven forbid you ever needed it) , so if you think BF would be able to play a positive, constant role model for your DC, thats what I would do (unless you think there could be hurt feelings or anything like that)
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| Posted 11/2/08 9:45 AM |
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MrsPowers
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Re: Godparent Question...advice, kind of long
I would go with who you would prefer. Sometimes friends are better options than family members. Both of my godparents are my parents very good friends and I am still extremely close with them today!
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| Posted 11/2/08 10:09 AM |
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Re: Godparent Question...advice, kind of long
Posted by randella
Take family vs friends out of the equation.. As individuals who would you rather???
It sounds to me like your best friend is the better choice for you. I would probably do that.
ITA!
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| Posted 11/2/08 10:43 AM |
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