Need advice...kind of long

background: when my husband and I were dating I agreed to move to florida w/him to be closer to his son (then 3 yrs old). It was rough being away from my family, but it was evened out b/c we were able to buy a house and establish our careers and we are both very happy where we work.

He's been able to bond with his son (now 8 yrs old) very well and they have a great father/son relationship. However, now that we have a child together, I feel for my son who is far, far away from his grandparents (he's my parents only grandchild) and from his aunt and uncles. I was always raised around my family and they still get together every sunday for dinner so we're very close...

Now the dilemma: we could move back to NY and live in my parents apt building (they own a brownstone) rent free and wouldn't have to pay for day care as my parents would be more than willing to watch DS. We could both work and make ALOT more $ then we are making now with fewer responsibilities - however, it would mean leaving his son who we see 2x per month and occassionally during the week for a little league game.

We figure that my husb can fly down 1 wk and my stepson can fly up another, but we're not sure if..

1 - we should risk leaving our jobs (which don't pay well) that we're happy at b/c of the environment?

2- is it too early to leave his son?

3 - will his son feel resentment towards us b/c we're moving - essentially for me & our son?

tia

Re: Need advice...kind of long

I'm just thinking the younger his son is, the easier it would be for him to get used to his father living farther away from him. Seems like teenagers get more resentful of that stuff. But that's JMO.

I could understand you wanting to be closer to your family. You made a big sacrafice.

Re: Need advice...kind of long

we figured that he wouldn't want to spend every other weekend w/his dad anyway as he gets older b/c he'll be out w/his friends ( as it is, he's missed some weekends with us so he could have playdates )

i just don't want him to resent any of us for this decision, which will ultimately benefit him via seeing more of his family more often (dh's family is in NY too)

thanks for the advice