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DebG
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Frienships
If you stop being friends with someone and almost a year and a half later they email you asking what happened what do you do?
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Posted 3/7/06 9:19 PM  |
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MrsERod
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Re: Frienships
tell them to leave a message at the sound of the "BEEEEEP"
 
seriously, i guess i would just respond with, 'hi, i've been great, what about you? etc.'...
is this a friend that you'd rather NOT get back in contact with?? 
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| Posted 3/7/06 9:22 PM |
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DebG
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Re: Frienships
Posted by MrsERod
tell them to leave a message at the sound of the "BEEEEEP"
seriously, i guess i would just respond with, 'hi, i've been great, what about you? etc.'...
is this a friend that you'd rather NOT get back in contact with??
Exactly, I would rather not rekindle it...when I needed a friend (who had been in my situation) she was no where to be found... now she wants to hang again..I would rather avoid confrontation though
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| Posted 3/7/06 9:24 PM |
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MrsERod
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Re: Frienships
then just don't respond to the email.
eventually, she/he will get the hint. 
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| Posted 3/7/06 9:25 PM |
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thewinterone
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Re: Frienships
I wouldn't respond then.
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| Posted 3/7/06 9:26 PM |
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DebG
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Re: Frienships
I tried that...she first emailed me in Jan...she has since called 4 times and emailed 6
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| Posted 3/7/06 9:26 PM |
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CathyB
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Re: Frienships
If it was someone I didn't want to continue a friendship with I'd just ignore it. I'm pretty non-confrentational.
If it was someone I wanted to get back in touch with I'd just say something like "Things have been crazy the past few months." and leave it at that. Who's not crazy between work, family, etc?
ETA: Sorry, didn't see your last post. I guess you just have to say something like "To be honest, when I needed you to be supportive I didn't feel like you were here for me. I had to learn to get through it myself and don't want to look back or rehash it at this point."
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| Posted 3/7/06 9:26 PM |
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thewinterone
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Re: Frienships
Posted by DebG
I tried that...she first emailed me in Jan...she has since called 4 times and emailed 6
It may be a little hard to avoid a confrontation then. Hmmm... you could always email her a pic of your avatar titled GO AWAY.
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| Posted 3/7/06 9:32 PM |
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DebG
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Re: Frienships
Posted by woozshle
Posted by DebG
I tried that...she first emailed me in Jan...she has since called 4 times and emailed 6
It may be a little hard to avoid a confrontation then. Hmmm... you could always email her a pic of your avatar titled GO AWAY.
that would be hysterical.
Although then she would ask me 5 bazillion times why.
ugh
I just dont wanna deal.
wah wah wahwah
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| Posted 3/7/06 9:34 PM |
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Snozberry
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Re: Frienships
I was in this situation - the ex-friend didn't get the hint when I ignored her calls/letters/emails. I finally wrote her a letter telling her that we'd grown apart and that I felt it was best to just go our separate ways. After that, she left me alone.
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| Posted 3/7/06 9:34 PM |
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You know, I am sort of in your friend's spot with someone I've not spoken to in a long time. I wasn't as good a friend as I could have been, I regret letting the friendship go, and I don't have the guts to get back in touch with her.
I would just tell her honestly how you feel and wish her well, and ask that she not contact you again.
Message edited 3/7/2006 9:35:31 PM.
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| Posted 3/7/06 9:35 PM |
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MrsERod
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Re: Frienships
Posted by DebG
I tried that...she first emailed me in Jan...she has since called 4 times and emailed 6
maybe just respond, but be very short in your email???
'hey, nice to hear from you. been very very busy. all is well with us. hope you're good too. take care. talk to you soon".........
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| Posted 3/7/06 9:35 PM |
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DebG
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Re: Frienships
Posted by MrsERod
Posted by DebG
I tried that...she first emailed me in Jan...she has since called 4 times and emailed 6
maybe just respond, but be very short in your email???
'hey, nice to hear from you. been very very busy. all is well with us. hope you're good too. take care. talk to you soon".........
not to sound like a broken record but I tried that one last week.
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| Posted 3/7/06 9:36 PM |
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MrsERod
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Re: Frienships
Posted by DebG
not to sound like a broken record but I tried that one last week.
hmmm...then at this point i think you have 3 choices:
1) completely ignore the emails/calls
2) put her on your block list (that always works for me.. )
3) call her up 12 times a day, send her 12 emails per day, telling her how nice it was to talk to her AGAIN...leave messages for her at her work/home, send her notes "just to say hi"...and arrange to have a fruitcake of the month account opened for her.
if all else fails, send her a "we've moved" card, and put this address:
1600 Pennsylvania Avenue NW
Washington, DC 20500
hth
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DebG
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You are sooo funny!
I was thinking that perhaps I should just reply and let her know that she disappointed me as a friend when I needed her most and I don't want to open myself up for that hurt/disappointment again.
Is that too harsh?
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| Posted 3/7/06 9:46 PM |
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MrsERod
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Posted by DebG
You are sooo funny!
I was thinking that perhaps I should just reply and let her know that she disappointed me as a friend when I needed her most and I don't want to open myself up for that hurt/disappointment again.
Is that too harsh?
no...that actually sounds perfect!!
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| Posted 3/7/06 9:47 PM |
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DebG
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ok I am gonna send that tomorrow.
I have to tell you, I am freading this.
I am such a chicken and such a baby
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| Posted 3/7/06 9:49 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Frienships
No not too harsh, but leaving your self open to "it won't happen again, I've changed, blah, blah, blah".
I personally think SarahsMommy/Cathy said it without leaving a possibility open.
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| Posted 3/7/06 9:50 PM |
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DebG
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Posted by nrthshgrl
No not too harsh, but leaving your self open to "it won't happen again, I've changed, blah, blah, blah".
I personally think SarahsMommy/Cathy said it without leaving a possibility open.
thanks for pointing it out, I hadn't read the ETA part.
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MrsERod
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Re: Frienships
Posted by DebG
Posted by nrthshgrl
No not too harsh, but leaving your self open to "it won't happen again, I've changed, blah, blah, blah".
I personally think SarahsMommy/Cathy said it without leaving a possibility open.
thanks for pointing it out, I hadn't read the ETA part.
yes! very good way to put it!!
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| Posted 3/7/06 9:55 PM |
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Lichi
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Re: Frienships
Deb, just wanted to say that I'm sorry that you had to deal with a friend like that during your time in need, but hey, at least you found out they weren't worth it, right? Don't worry about sounding harsh, because there's no point to waste your & her time.
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| Posted 3/7/06 9:59 PM |
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DebG
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Posted by Lichi
Deb, just wanted to say that I'm sorry that you had to deal with a friend like that during your time in need, but hey, at least you found out they weren't worth it, right? Don't worry about sounding harsh, because there's no point to waste your & her time.
thank you for this...I seem to be soo caught up about hurting her feelings which completly negates the times she made me feel bad.
 you rock!
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Redhead
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Re: Frienships
it depends on the friend....
there are certain people that i would like to hear from...
and then there are certain ones...that when and if i see them, they better run
ETA...i tried to stay friends with one person. But her little 2 year old tantrums i just could not put up with. Her venting on me and yelling at me when she was mad at other people in her live...So IMO the 2nd chance i should have never given
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dooodles
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Re: Frienships
Deb, good luck with this. I actually just deleted the emails when I saw them so I wouldn't get sucked into reading them. It is a very sticky situation to be in
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| Posted 3/8/06 8:42 AM |
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DebG
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Posted by dooodles
Deb, good luck with this. I actually just deleted the emails when I saw them so I wouldn't get sucked into reading them. It is a very sticky situation to be in
That is exactly what I am going to start doing now that I sent out this last email.
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