friends that want to be be called

aunt? i hate it, i don't know why, but one of my friends is always like i had a dream the other night that i came over and Madison ran to the store yelling auntie ***** is here, i like her so u and daddy can go out, she keeps saying how my daughter is going to love her more then us, and it is really starting to bother me bc it is everytime... is it wrong of me to make sure my daughter NEVER calls her aunt? i mean she will have my sister and i don't want her to get confused like we did as kids... hard topic but how do u ladies feel? and i kinda just go ooooooooo really how cute, u dream about my daughter...........

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I have a friend that is ADAMANT that her child only calls actual relatives aunt & uncle. I think it is a very personal thing & if your friend does not agree with your decision too friggin bad. KWIM?

Not to be rude, but it's your kid

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crashing your board--say something next time, just to lay the groundwork. Tell her that you are reserving the "auntie" title for family and that your own family will be offended any other way. It's hard but she's being so repetitive about this, without knowing if you even approve of it.

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My child will be calling my friends aunt and uncle. Their kids calls me aunt so that is the way it will be. When I was growing I called my parents friends aunt and uncle even to this day.

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thanks girls!! it is really hard bc she is one of those friends with millions of issues and i am so scared if i say something she will go deeper into her depression and "ACT" she puts on for attention.... I will do it soon, before the baby comes,,,, THanks again!

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annoys me as well. my daughter doesn't even call her real aunts and uncles "aunt sue."

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This one is a tricky topic for us as well. My SIL is the only one who will be a true Aunt by blood relation. However, my best friend will be the only one of my friends to be called Aunt but that is because I am closer to her than anyone and do not have siblings. Any other friends will be called by their first name because I don't think just anyone should be called Aunt/Uncle. It's an honor in my opinion.

ETA: I think you should just tell her you and your DH have decided only family will be called aunt/uncle to avoid confusion.

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I have always been one who appreciates terms of respect for adults though i am not a fan of loosely using "Aunt" and "Uncle.". For my friends and acquaintances, I would prefer my children to use 'Mr. and Mrs." but I am very old fashioned in that respect.

I think it is an honor to be an aunt too. I am one four times over. Initially, it was very difficult for my nieces and nephews to articulate so many syllables. I was always referred to as "Aunt Leslie" by adults in front of the children, but they couldnt say it. I was called "Sessie," "Wessie," "Wesslie" and "Lesswie". As their speech and language developed, their understanding of relationships did as well. They know the difference between blood relatives and others who they call "Aunt" and "Uncle".

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i remember being a little girl and really didn't understand the need to call a non fam member aunt / uncle. i remmeber one instance, my mom told me one time to call her friend aunt blah blah blah. i asked if she was related to us.. i wasn't too keen on labeling every joe and jane schmoe aunt and unc.

i never thought of this for my son who will be born in March. maybe those who are really close to both hub and i i'll consider having them call them that.

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That's up to you!!!!!!! For me, growing up meant calling everyone Mr and Mrs so-and-so. My DH always called everyone's parents by their first names. For close friends that already had children, we are already Aunt and Uncle to their kids. I think it will be the same for them. Do what is best for you.

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My friend calls me Aunt Steph to her daughter. I think it is cute, I do not mind at all

When I was growing up, my parents had these friends that we used to call Aunt Mary and Uncle Peter and they were not related to us at all. I knew that they were not my "real" aunt and uncle when I got a bit older.....

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For me, it honestly wouldn't be a problem. I would expect that my friends children would call me "aunt" and my children would call them "aunt", but if I have a friend who opposed it, I wouldn't care as long as their children aren't disrespectful.

In my culture, the word "aunt" and "uncle" is a very loose term. You call everyone older than you "aunt" this and "uncle" that, never mattered that they weren't related to you, but you always know the ones that are related though. Also, my family takes it one step further, I call all my mom's sisters and their husbands "mom" and "dad". Yes, growing up it was a bit confusing because if they were all in the same room and you said "mom", they all turned around and so we just started saying "mummy...and their first name"...same went for the dads. My mom's family is insanley close, so this works for us. We cousins refer to each other as brothers and sisters. For instance, on my wedding program, I honestly couldn't imagine leaving any of them off, so I have them listed under "honorary mothers" and "honorary fathers".

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It doesnt matter much to me. Me and my friends are all very close and all plan to call or say "aunt". But its not a big deal, if they dont either.

But just because your friend says that your daughter will call her "aunt", doesnt necessarily mean that once your daughter is old enough to speak, that she will. So I wouldnt worry. Let your friend say what she wants.

Your daughter is only going to do what you teach her anyway. I'd let it go.

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I dont get that really. Why should she be expected to be called Auntie? She is not a relative. I can see if she was your best friend in the whole world and you were just like sisters. But you didnt mention that in your post so I am assuming she is just a friend. I would be weirded out if someone other then me, my husband and immediate family said they dreamt of my kid. That's just my opinion though.

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I think my children will call my closest friends "aunt" and "uncle." To me, they are my family too so I feel it's appropriate. This is how I grow up (and still refer to my parents friends this way) and look forward to my future children doing the same.

ETA: I do think it is inappropriate for your friend to assume however!

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I think it def. depends on the relationship with the people. My parents have so many friends that they have known for 30+ years and to me they are "Aunt and Uncle" as their children are my cousins. That's what is natural for us. I think that is a case by case thing.

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Our child will be calling our close friends aunts and uncle as well!

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very close friends/family friends my DD calls them Aunt or Uncle.

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thanks girls!! we have been friends for 6 years but i don't really see her that often but do talk to her at least 1 time a week when time allows, she was in my wedding and stuff, but i hate that she jumps into things, i know she lives not only threw me but my sister as well since we are both married and she can't find the guy she wants, being very picky, but i think i am going to let it go and just let Madison know when she is older it is her choice but i will never say go see your aunt, unless it is my sister....

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my nephew doesnt even call me aunt.........