Do you ever feel like...... (a vent)

Maybe you want this more than DH?

I think I was O'ing this past weekend, and whenever I made advances toward DH, he went on about how he wasn't in the mood, was so tired, etc. Then when I told him we were going to miss the window, he got upset with me for making him feel guilty I told him that I guess we don't actually want the same things, to which he responded he did, but his actions are telling me otherwise. He went on about how he's not used to me being this forward with sex and how he's not used to having it this much. So he complained when it wasn't enough, and now he's upset that it's too much? I just don't get it.

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mr fh wants it more than anthing but he doesnt want to do all the during the window.

its a little different now since he knows how things really work but i get upset that i always need to make the first move or be on top not that i mind

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my dh was like that in the beginning. it's a big change in habits so it will take him a little getting used to!

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this is only out 4th month (i should say cycle since my cycles are really long apparently)... but right after cycle 2 we were in a similar situation. It took a nice long, calm heart to heart and some things needed to be explained to DH and now it seems we are on the same page (atleast this cycle). I was feeling exactly the same way as you... I really didn't think he wanted this and was so hurt and sad. Take a deep breath, open a bottle of wine and have a nice chat...make sure he "really' understands when/why you have to when you have to. DH was saying he did and never really understood it all He really does want it as much as me... boys are just bad with all the stuff!

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I feel this way too! DH got upset with me because I bought OPK's. He said that we we had agreed to just have fun and if it happens it happens. I don't understand the big deal with wanteing to know when I ovulate so I can at least have a good idea as to when is beneficial. He did make a good point that when people try too hard and get all stressed about things then they don't get pregnant. I just have to do my thing without him knowing and then seduce him when I we need to ! I think my big mistake is that now we are going weeks without so he gets all focused on the time when we do . I think I should just every few days all the time and then when it's every other day or everyday he will be happy about it not suspicious that I'm "Trying too hard"

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My husband used to complain when it was never enough and now he is happy I am making the first move (I make the advances when the O time happens so I know I get it in the right window) but I don't tell him it is window time (we both agreed to try for another baby but he said he doesn't want to feel like a machine ~ take the fun out of it) so last week was my O time and I wanted to get another night in and he didn't want to (he was working crazy hours) I was really upset at first but I just have to put my hands up and whatever happens happens!