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DH doesn't want to officially try anymore...
He thinks this is stressing us out too much. He might be right.
He thinks I only want to have sex when I'm o'ing. I thought that was the point of "trying" but he feels I am just using him for that now.
So I think we are sort of done for now, which is sad, but it's not like trying has been successful anyway, so.... 
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Posted 3/10/09 3:05 PM  |
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katiebug
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Re: DH doesn't want to officially try anymore...
how long have you been trying? Would be he open to seeking help after a year?
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| Posted 3/10/09 3:10 PM |
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maybeamommy
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Re: DH doesn't want to officially try anymore...
TTC can definitely take it's toll on a relationship.
Sorry to be so forward, but how is your sex life when it comes to non-baby-making time?
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| Posted 3/10/09 3:12 PM |
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MetsGirl07
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Re: DH doesn't want to officially try anymore...
i am so sorry to hear this.. i really hope things can be worked out
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| Posted 3/10/09 3:42 PM |
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MRSBA
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Re: DH doesn't want to officially try anymore...
The first 3-5 months of TTC my DH didn't want to "actively" try. He didn't want to know anything about OPK's or timing or anything like that. It was too much pressure and he felt "used". I completely understood and just initiated BD when I knew it was on the "better" days. We had a pretty active BD schedule as it was so it wasn't necessary for me to tell him about "o".
Now, that it hasn't happened for us yet, he takes a more active role in TTC - he wants all the details, goes to the dr's appt's with me, tells me I better not be too tired because we need to try the next 3-4 days in a row, etc.
Just figure out what works for the both of you.  
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| Posted 3/10/09 3:49 PM |
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Re: DH doesn't want to officially try anymore...
I am sorry-maybe a month off might help. And then recollect and come back!
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| Posted 3/10/09 4:01 PM |
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diva7531
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Re: DH doesn't want to officially try anymore...
Aw, I know what you mean. DH has said this to me more than once! We "took a break" but I always knew my O time and made sure we BD'd on those days!
Good luck, hopefully this "break" will be what you need.
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| Posted 3/10/09 5:49 PM |
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thiadora
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Re: DH doesn't want to officially try anymore...
Posted by MRSBA
The first 3-5 months of TTC my DH didn't want to "actively" try. He didn't want to know anything about OPK's or timing or anything like that. It was too much pressure and he felt "used". I completely understood and just initiated BD when I knew it was on the "better" days. We had a pretty active BD schedule as it was so it wasn't necessary for me to tell him about "o".
Now, that it hasn't happened for us yet, he takes a more active role in TTC - he wants all the details, goes to the dr's appt's with me, tells me I better not be too tired because we need to try the next 3-4 days in a row, etc.
Just figure out what works for the both of you.
We're in the early months of TTC, and I'm currently using the same method. I ended up missing my window last month because it would have seemed too forced. I was sad at the time, but as I look forward I feel better that I didn't.
My DH also works many late nights. So I can only expect to BD 1x once I get my surge. I accept that it will possibly take longer and am working at keeping the BDing enjoyable in the mean time. (Yes, there are moments that I feel frustrated and feel like I'll never get PG- but they pass pretty quickly.)
I also hope that you can find something that works for both of you.
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| Posted 3/10/09 7:40 PM |
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wants2bmommy
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Re: DH doesn't want to officially try anymore...
DH FELT THE SAME WAY JUST DONT LET THEM KNOW WHEN U ARE OING JUST MAKE IT SEEM LIKE U WANT HIM AND ONLY HIM DONT BRING UP THE BABY AND IT MIGHT WORK. AROUND O TIME MAKE A ROMANTIC DINNER HAVE SOME WINE ETC TO GET HIM IN THE MOOD
BEST OF LUCK
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| Posted 3/10/09 8:30 PM |
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Re: DH doesn't want to officially try anymore...
This guy knows my cycles better than I do!
 MAM - to answer your question, our sex life has been so  lately because we are so busy and tired.
The fact that all of a sudden I've been so peppy and raring to go on certain days p isses him off.
We talked tonight - he said he wants to take a few months off, and I think I do too. I would like to figure out what the hell is wrong with me anyway that AF decided to not really show herself!!!
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| Posted 3/10/09 9:42 PM |
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jam11308
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Re: DH doesn't want to officially try anymore...
I'm sorry that you're going through this stress, but wish you guys the best of luck
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| Posted 3/11/09 9:52 AM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: DH doesn't want to officially try anymore...
I think everyone who has been TTC for a while goes through these things from time to time. At least you are both in agreement to take time off
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| Posted 3/11/09 10:18 AM |
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