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Mom1234
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Constant hitting and pushing
DS is 22 months old. He is a hitter. He hits, pushes, throws things. He's definitely frustrated. He talks and says words, but he doesn't speak sentences yet and it seems a lot of his anger is stemmed from that.
However that doesn't mean he can go around hitting and throwing things at people. We are very consistent in reprimanding him and putting him in timeout when he hits someone.
We try positive reinforcement whenever we have the opportunity. And it seemed to be getting better.
And then today I got the report he was terrible.
I'm at a loss. I need advice. A book to read. A person to call. A method to follow. Anything please
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Posted 3/27/17 3:58 PM  |
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mbg1007
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Re: Constant hitting and pushing
Have you had him evaluated by EI? Speech therapy might help in his frustration
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| Posted 3/27/17 6:28 PM |
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NYCGirl80
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Re: Constant hitting and pushing
You say you try positive reinforcement, but have you tried time outs? Around that age DS bit a child in school. After the second time he got time out and never did it again. We do 1 minute of time out for each year old he is. So 2 mins for 2 years old.
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| Posted 3/28/17 9:10 AM |
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FranM
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Constant hitting and pushing
I would rule out anything physical first (ears, throat tummy upset), if the behavior is fairly constant I would request an evaluation from EI. As pp said maybe some help with speech will do the trick.
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| Posted 3/28/17 8:48 PM |
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Mom1234
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Re: Constant hitting and pushing
Posted by FranM
I would rule out anything physical first (ears, throat tummy upset), if the behavior is fairly constant I would request an evaluation from EI. As pp said maybe some help with speech will do the trick.
I've thought about getting him evaluated.
How do I go about that?
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| Posted 3/28/17 10:55 PM |
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nycgirl
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Re: Constant hitting and pushing
He's 2. He's not going to be speaking sentences. Ask your ped before you go through the hassle of EI eval. I think 2 is 2 words stuck together "me book"... but there are plenty of kids that don't do this.
Be strict with punishments that are short. Repeat "no hitting".
It's a normal phase (goodness... I'm on my third round)! My DD used to chase her big brother with her mouth open to bite. She was smaller and had no recourse. She's a wonderful child now. No issues what-so-ever.
Funny story, DD also got bit by an older child by the time she was 2.5. She looked at the girl and scolded her "mama says no biting"... so it sinks in!
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| Posted 3/29/17 8:09 AM |
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PitterPatter11
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Re: Constant hitting and pushing
Posted by nycgirl
He's 2. He's not going to be speaking sentences. Ask your ped before you go through the hassle of EI eval. I think 2 is 2 words stuck together "me book"... but there are plenty of kids that don't do this.
Be strict with punishments that are short. Repeat "no hitting".
It's a normal phase (goodness... I'm on my third round)! My DD used to chase her big brother with her mouth open to bite. She was smaller and had no recourse. She's a wonderful child now. No issues what-so-ever.
Funny story, DD also got bit by an older child by the time she was 2.5. She looked at the girl and scolded her "mama says no biting"... so it sinks in!
I agree with this. My DS bit other kids a handful of times at daycare between 1.5 and 2. He had a handful of words, but could not communicate effectively. The daycare lady told me that the few times he bit, he was "justified" (meaning a kid stole his toy or was aggressive towards him). They did an excellent job of shadowing him to ensure that it very rarely happened. It was hard for me to punish him at home since he never exhibited the behavior there and I did not feel like he would understand a time out 5 hours after the incident occurred. He completely outgrew the biting phase in a few months.
If the behavior continues past 2/after he gets a big word explosion, I would be concerned. My DS' daycare class had a serial biter. She had an extensive vocabulary and was almost 3. I'm pretty sure that's where he and a few other kids picked it up - once she moved up to the next room, no one bit/was bit again.
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| Posted 3/29/17 8:31 AM |
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Mom1234
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Re: Constant hitting and pushing
Posted by PitterPatter11
Posted by nycgirl
He's 2. He's not going to be speaking sentences. Ask your ped before you go through the hassle of EI eval. I think 2 is 2 words stuck together "me book"... but there are plenty of kids that don't do this.
Be strict with punishments that are short. Repeat "no hitting".
It's a normal phase (goodness... I'm on my third round)! My DD used to chase her big brother with her mouth open to bite. She was smaller and had no recourse. She's a wonderful child now. No issues what-so-ever.
Funny story, DD also got bit by an older child by the time she was 2.5. She looked at the girl and scolded her "mama says no biting"... so it sinks in!
I agree with this. My DS bit other kids a handful of times at daycare between 1.5 and 2. He had a handful of words, but could not communicate effectively. The daycare lady told me that the few times he bit, he was "justified" (meaning a kid stole his toy or was aggressive towards him). They did an excellent job of shadowing him to ensure that it very rarely happened. It was hard for me to punish him at home since he never exhibited the behavior there and I did not feel like he would understand a time out 5 hours after the incident occurred. He completely outgrew the biting phase in a few months.
If the behavior continues past 2/after he gets a big word explosion, I would be concerned. My DS' daycare class had a serial biter. She had an extensive vocabulary and was almost 3. I'm pretty sure that's where he and a few other kids picked it up - once she moved up to the next room, no one bit/was bit again.
Thanks ladies. Yes, I didn't mean full sentences, I meant stringing words together.
My husband and I talked to daycare and made a list of the words he says and it's actually pretty lengthy when you list it out. I'm just frustrated bc I know he's frustrated.
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| Posted 3/30/17 5:11 PM |
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VickiC
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Constant hitting and pushing
Try sign language. Teach him some basic signs and that might help him communicate better and be less frustrated. My son went through the hitting stage also at 2 YO and he didn't have a word explosion until around 28 months. We taught him some signs and that helped his frustration and the hitting decreased.
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| Posted 3/30/17 5:38 PM |
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