Claims of hitting, pushing, etc..

Ryan's new thing is yelling "ouch, you're hitting me/pushing me", etc. when you lightly touch him or sometimes don't even make contact with him. It's when he doesn't want to do something. We went to dinner last night and he was having a fit about playing a video game. DH guided him out the door and Ryan yelling "stop pushing me"

How do you deal with this? No one is hurting him. We don't even believe in spankings. Someone is going to call CPS on us for holding our kid's hand -

Re: Claims of hitting, pushing, etc..

My nephews went thru a phase like that. I remember my sister having a serious talk about the difference between getting really hurt by someone or an adult disiplining them. Something like that.

I think they need to know the importance of really getting hurt, pushed, shoved, etc vs a punishment from a parent they know. Also, to say that accusing someone of hurting you is very serious and if anyone really ever hurts you that you need to tell mom and dad... etc. Always feel comfortable to go to mom and dad for anything, etc.

I think it lead to how police arrest bad pple and mom and dad are here to protect. Sort of went off the subject of him making the accusation of being hurt when they're not b/c they need to understand the difference.

If that helps you at all...


ETA... depends on the age. If he's young then it's a phase. My nephew was doing this at 6 - 7.

Message edited 8/17/2010 2:57:13 PM.

Re: Claims of hitting, pushing, etc..

DS went through this. He would constantly say things like that.

Now that I'm thinking about it, he doesn't really do it anymore. He will be 3 next month and he was probably saying those things around 2 1/2.

I think it's a phase.

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Kaydyn is going through this right now. I'll pick her up and she'll say "Ouch you pinched me" when all I did was lift her on the couch, or in her high chair...etc. I try to explain to her that I didn't pinch her and she turns around and says "Yes you did". I basically just ignore her at that point. She does it with hitting too. I hope it's a phase.

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Elizabeth LOOOVES to scream "STOP PUSHING ME" if I put my hand on the back of her head to guide her somewhere - usually when she's being a scutch and not holding my hand while I'm carrying DS and can't carry her too.

Completely unrelated, but last night when she was refusing to brush her teeth and we were 'discussing' it, she put her finger up and scolded ME to be a good girl.

Why did we teach these kids to talk???

Re: Claims of hitting, pushing, etc..

I would try telling him how it is- if you keep saying these things, even though they are not true, it could cause you to be taken away from us by the city. I might even try and explain how some kids have bad parents that really do hurt them etc. and that's why people who overhear his comments/ a city agency would take it very seriously.

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I remember this phase! DS's favorite phrases were about touching and hitting. One day my brother picked up DS and moved him away from his laptop. DS got upset and said, "Mama, uncle touched me!". This went on for a couple weeks- the slightest nudge or tap resulted in him telling me or DH that he was being touched or hit. My all time fav was in a public restroom on the changing table. I was changing DS and he yelled, "Don't hit me mama! Don't touch me there!" I was getting quite a number of looks

We tried to explain the correct ways of using those words, but I'm not sure he totally gets it. He eventually stopped saying it so frequently, but it still happens from time-to-time.

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DD used to do this - esp to DH as he would guide her with his hand on her back. Everytime he touched her she would whine "daddy pushed me!!!!" and sometimes when we were out in public. I am totally laughing now but it wasn't funny then - I thought people would think we were abusing her!

It lasted a few months and that was around the time that we were really into telling her not to hit or push at school. It passed though thankfully!

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TJ does this.

DH gets up with the boys in the morning and the other day TJ came upstairs and said "Mommy, Daddy smacked my face" I went downstairs and asked DH and he said "No, I told him he can't have M&M's for breakfast"

We were laughing but I hope he doesnt go to nursery school and tell his teachers mommy and daddy beat him

Message edited 8/17/2010 8:43:39 PM.

Re: Claims of hitting, pushing, etc..

DD#1 does this when we push her chair away from the table she screams "Don't push me mommy or daddy." I explain to her that we are moving the chair not pushing her.