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Can someone please nicely help me understand...
co sleeping.
Thank you. I honestly want to know. I am not judging but like to hear other peoples way of thinking.
TIA
Also, how long will you do it for and what happens when you have more then one child?
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Re: Can someone please nicely help me understand...
I believe it is for the comfort and security of both baby and Mom and Dad. I think it's a "new" theory but I don't know what it really accomplishes.
It's not for me
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Dragonfly75
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Re: Can someone please nicely help me understand...
Oh, I just answered you on the other thread.
Here's the link I posted.
Co-sleeping
Personally, I co-sleep mainly for bonding and safety reasons. We have a big bed and we all sleep well.
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| Posted 3/26/08 1:00 PM |
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SuzyQ
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Re: Can someone please nicely help me understand...
Posted by BabyCote2006
I believe it is for the comfort and security of both baby and Mom and Dad. I think it's a "new" theory but I don't know what it really accomplishes.
It's not for me
I agree. We were away this weekend and had trouble getting DD back to sleep when she woke up in the middle of the night 2 of the nights. She did finally fall asleep in our bed, but I moved her back to her crib because I knew I wouldn't be able to sleep that way. It works for some people for many reasons, some as mentioned above by Katie. I always say, whatever makes Mommy & Daddy happy and works for the family is best for them. No judging here. 
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Dragonfly75
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Re: Can someone please nicely help me understand...
Posted by BabyCote2006
I believe it is for the comfort and security of both baby and Mom and Dad. I think it's a "new" theory but I don't know what it really accomplishes.
It's not for me
You know what is totally ironic? Co-sleeping has been the norm for centuries and crib sleeping is actually a new way of doing things, but we're so used to crib sleeping in our culture that we forget (or are unaware) of the fact that co-sleeping has been the norm for centuries and still is in many countries.
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Ambersmom
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Re: Can someone please nicely help me understand...
I have been co-sleeping with Amber since she was an infant.
I was deadly afraid of SIDS while she was a newborn/infant and had her next to my bed in the bassinet. As she outgrew the basinett and I transitioned her into the crib, there were nights where she would scream and scream for hours. Since I was working two jobs and on the verge of exhaustion every day, I would usually try to fall asleep next to the crib (on a pullout bed) and then try to transition into my own bed when she would go down. Well, sometimes that worked and sometimes it didn't. If I was lucky enough to even make it to my bed, at some point during the wee hours of hte night my STBX would blare the TV, crash bang around the kitchen, vacuum the floor or get the dogs to bark and wake her up. I would have to go into her room and start the process over of getting her to sleep or drag her into bed with me. It was a nightmare and I was living a very unhealthy lifestyle as a result of lack of sleep. When I had her with/near me, she would fall off without a problem. Just in an effort to survive (and to also gain some physical comfort since there was none in my marriage), I made the mistake of dragging her into bed with me. It made things easy in the short term; we both got some sleep and we both drew comfort from having each other near. I got to share little stories/talks with her before we fell asleep and nothing was better than waking up to her little fingers curled into mine.
With all the transitions she's endured over the last two years, it made her feel secure. However...at almost four years old, it's definitely a challenge. Some night's you can tell she "needs" Mommy to snuggle a little before she falls asleep and some nights she falls asleep all on her own. I find when she comes home from vistation with her father, she's definitely more needy. Maybe it's the confirmation she needs that Mom is there for her, etc. We're definitely not in the old routine we used to be in, but we try to work out what is best for everyone. At least she has boundaries now of what is Mom's bed vs. what is her bed.
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KPtoys
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Re: Can someone please nicely help me understand...
I co slept out of convenience in the beginning. I had C/S's with all 3 and getting out of bed was torture. I would nurse them and we would fall right back to sleep. I found they slept better. I slept better because I wasn't worried about them. I felt that closeness and comfort was good for all of us. I have a mini co sleeper attached to the bed where they start off at night but when they wake up I just reach over and bring them into bed with me.
Emma was 2 when she moved into her big girl bed when I was 5 months pregnant with Jeremy. When he came along Jeremy co slept till he was 2 when I was ready to pop with Lukie. Lukie is still in bed with me.
We are a family bed type of family. We all like to snuggle. It works for us
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Re: Can someone please nicely help me understand...
Thank you all for sharing
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dm24angel
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Re: Can someone please nicely help me understand...
Thanks for sharing too, I was wondering myself.
I guess I was always nervous, especially isnce Noah fell off the bed a week or two ago after I let him sleep with us. And so I always was a fraid of it....as a NB afraid of a pillow covering him etc.
Do the co-sleepers sleep with pillows and blankets?
Jsut curious, NO judgements at all.
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Stacey1403
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Re: Can someone please nicely help me understand...
I co-sleep with both my children. I did it because my son BF frequently and I needed to get sleep too. My DD is in a co-sleeper part of the night and comes into the bed to nurse at night. We all sleep very good together and my DH and I love to have our children in our bed with us. It works for us, not for other people. They won't want to stay in our bed forever, but we will enjoy it while it lasts
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hbugal
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Re: Can someone please nicely help me understand...
Posted by dm24angel
Thanks for sharing too, I was wondering myself.
I guess I was always nervous, especially isnce Noah fell off the bed a week or two ago after I let him sleep with us. And so I always was a fraid of it....as a NB afraid of a pillow covering him etc.
Do the co-sleepers sleep with pillows and blankets?
Jsut curious, NO judgements at all.
We dont co-sleep per se but DS does wind up in bed with us from time to time....smack in the middle..pillow, blankets, the whole 9 yards...
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Re: Can someone please nicely help me understand...
DS co-sleeps sometimes but not every nights.
When he is under the weather, had a bad dream, teething, etc... The norm for us is that if he cannot fall back asleep in his crib, I take him to our bed and he sleeps with us.
It's never really a full night. Either the second half of the night or the beginning then transfered to his crib.
He falls asleep in our bed every night and transfered to his crib.
He knows how to sleep in our bed. We adapted to his needs (for SIDS) as he grows up. Now he sleeps on a pillow but he did not start with that. He sleeps between us and we know how to sleep with him.
He loves sleeping with us and feels safe. He sleeps great with us. I can feel him reaching for us with his hand in his sleep to make sure we are next to me.
But again this is only when he is not himself.
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rojerono
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Re: Can someone please nicely help me understand...
Posted by 5ofClubs
co sleeping.
Thank you. I honestly want to know. I am not judging but like to hear other peoples way of thinking.
TIA
Also, how long will you do it for and what happens when you have more then one child?
I think the idea behind co-sleeping and attached parenting has been explained nicely already - so I will skip that part! 
I actually did not intend to co-sleep. I had a beautiful nursery all set up when I was pregnant with my son. And then - when he was born - I simply could not get enough of him. Rob and I would prop him on the bed and just STARE at him all day long while he was sleeping. The first few nights I put him in his crib - but I found that I longed for him. I literally ACHED. I know it sounds weird - but it's true.
So I read about co-sleeping and learned that my mother had done it. So I decided to give it a whirl. From the first moment we did it - it CLICKED. It felt absolutely right and we knew that we would continue to do it.
We never offered the information that we were co-sleepers - but it got leaked somehow. BOY did we get grief! People would say "Are you going to sleep with him when he's 22?" and "What are you going to do when you want to have sex?" And a million other questions not borne from curiousity - but out of a sense of superiority that their way was better than ours.
The truth was - we didn't KNOW when we were going to stop co-sleeping. But we figured when it no longer felt right we would stop.
I got pregnant again almost as soon as I stopped Breast Feeding my oldest son at 16 months. We weren't sure how we were going to handle 2 in a bed - or IF we were going to handle 2 in a bed. We bought a Toddler bed for Robbie and kept the crib up just in case with for the new baby.
When Noah was born we decided we wanted to co-sleep with him too. But a 2 year old and a newborn together in a bed didn't seem like a good idea. Robbie wasn't having the Toddler bed - so we ordered a King size bed and Robbie slept on one side with Rob and Noah slept next to me.
The opportunity and right time to move them presented itself when we bought our first house. They were 4 and 2 years old at the time. We let them decide the decor of THEIR bedroom. We bought bunk beds. Every night before we moved into the house we would do a countdown to show when they were going to get their own bedroom. We talked it up and made it seem that it was the most special and amazing thing ever. They were excited.
When we moved into the house they went IMMEDIATELY to their own room. There were some tears (from me too!) but we knew it was important to be consistant in the first week or so. And I also new that this was the best time and circumstance to really get them into their own space. So we stuck to it.
Two years later they sleep in their own beds every night. We still have family cuddle and they are invited into our bed for 15 minutes before bedtime to cuddle, talk about our day, sing, tickle or whatever. But then we pack it in and carry them across the hall to their room for sleepy time.
It worked well for us and as I have said - I would TOTALLY do it again. But I would have a side co-sleeper for safety.
I hope this helps!
ETA: Rob and I got rid of our fluffy and decorative pillows and our puffy comforter when Robbie was an infant. Rob slept with his own slim blanket. I used just my own PJ's. Once he was about 8 months old I started using a blanket again. When he was a year I used a pillow. When Noah came along we went bare again with Robbie and Rob using a blanket on one side and me being bare with a swaddled baby on the other side. NOW I have the thickest darn blanket I can find plus and EXPLOSION of pillows!
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We do not co-sleep unless DS is really sick, and I fight with my husband to keep him in our bed. (sometimes I kick him to the couch, dh that is )
DH and I argue about this all the time. I love love love to sleep with my son... Why... because I miss him. When he sleeps with me I can hold him and everything feels right and calm.
DH however, hates co-sleeping. He thinks it is uncomfortable, the baby kicks him, what if he falls off the bed... Blah, blah,blah.
Either way Lance sleeps better and longer in his crib. That being said if it were the other way around I would keep him in my bed. I personally don't believe co-sleeping can be defined as good or bad... It is just a matter of what works for the child & the family. JMO
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dm24angel
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Re: Can someone please nicely help me understand...
Posted by hbugal
Posted by dm24angel
Thanks for sharing too, I was wondering myself.
I guess I was always nervous, especially isnce Noah fell off the bed a week or two ago after I let him sleep with us. And so I always was a fraid of it....as a NB afraid of a pillow covering him etc.
Do the co-sleepers sleep with pillows and blankets?
Jsut curious, NO judgements at all.
We dont co-sleep per se but DS does wind up in bed with us from time to time....smack in the middle..pillow, blankets, the whole 9 yards...
same here....and I always worry, well not so much now, but when he was younger I did.
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partyof6
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Re: Can someone please nicely help me understand...
I wil be honest...I did it by accident---I fell asleep out of exhaustion.
I slept on the couch with max---in a way where I couldnt drop him so i thought and did,,,thank god ok..
it also became a bad bad habiit for us---we had to have him cry it out===he was so used to it he did it for months and I felt lonely
Upstairs....I fed jake fell asleep and he fell off the bed--thankfully in a boppy...
two close calls---too scary
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