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05mommy09
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Can I have some guidance from my LIF girls??
Ok - so we all know the story about my pg. friend and her bach. party and wedding I backed out of...- right? (a little refresher if you must )
Well- its been months- we have exchanged several emails re: some things of mine she has- All have been really nice- but simple... in one of the email she states she is having some real "complications"- so of course Ive been a little worried or whatever...
Last week I was at a friends house (who lives 1 block from the mother to be house) so I called this old friend and offered to pick my things up- since she was having "complications"- there was no answer- so I just left a message...
Well tonight- (1 week later)- she called me back... It was a very nice convo. and a little sad...She is having some major issues in her pg. and she is currently seeing a hematologist (sp?) because of her white blood count is astronomically high- had some test done to rule of leukemia along with a few other pg. related issues....
We talked about what happened- she swears she never planned to drink that night, and has not touched a drink since she got pg.- She still cant understand why the other BM said those things to me... We agreed things could have been handled differently on both our parts...
We agreed we missed eachother- and its sad how things turned out for a like 13 yr. friendship...
Anyways- she asked me to go by tomorrow to get my stuff- to see eachother- etc..
I just dont know what to do...
I kinda feel like so much has happened it will never be the same- but I also feel like we owe to ourselves to work things out..
I love her- and I do miss her- and it totally sux how things turned out...
I feel like I have so much to offer- just going through being a 1st time parents- I have tons of rec'ds on things- I would just love to share with her....
At the end of our convo she said she'd like things to go back to the way it use too.... and honestly I would like the same- but not sure if that is possible...
That whole thing happened with her DH cursing me out(meanwhile I was truely only looking out for his unborn child) The past just isnt gonna go away!
What should I do? Cut my losses- and dont go- forget my stuff and call it a day? Or should I go and try these thing again...
I look so far into things- but now hearing that shes so sick- I feel like is everything happening like this for a reason???
I do believe that being a mom- can totally change a person... and maybe getting ready for motherhood is changing her???
Im so confused...if we try things again- are things always gonna be wierd???
Please help- what would you do?
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Redhead
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Re: Can I have some guidance from my LIF girls??
honestly...i think you have to follow your heart
and if i had to guess...it would be to give it a second chance
SOME friendships are worth it
SOME aren't...
but only YOU can decide that...
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| Posted 12/4/06 9:12 PM |
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Samlove
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Re: Can I have some guidance from my LIF girls??
I am not one to just say forget it. I would go see her and take it from there.
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| Posted 12/4/06 9:16 PM |
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05mommy09
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Re: Can I have some guidance from my LIF girls??
Posted by Redhead
honestly...i think you have to follow your heart
and if i had to guess...it would be to give it a second chance
SOME friendships are worth it
SOME aren't...
but only YOU can decide that...
I love her and always will so I feel like no matter what happens my heart will always say give it another chance- ya know?
I mean - I feel like no matter how many chances i give it- Ill still be able to say- I couldve tried harder or again- KWIM?
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| Posted 12/4/06 9:18 PM |
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Libragal07
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Re: Can I have some guidance from my LIF girls??
Posted by Redhead
honestly...i think you have to follow your heart
and if i had to guess...it would be to give it a second chance
SOME friendships are worth it
SOME aren't...
but only YOU can decide that...
I agree with her...
You have to think about your past..
Do you really think it can get better??? Or have you done this before and became friends again and go back to drama??
Only you can make this decision, and you have to think about what kind of people you want your son to be around too. Thats another thing sweetie..
Good Luck!!
Message edited 12/4/2006 9:20:01 PM.
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| Posted 12/4/06 9:19 PM |
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Stefanie
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Re: Can I have some guidance from my LIF girls??
I say go...listen to her and see what's going on. Then see what happens from there..
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| Posted 12/4/06 9:24 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: Can I have some guidance from my LIF girls??
Posted by Princessmaris
Posted by Redhead
honestly...i think you have to follow your heart
and if i had to guess...it would be to give it a second chance
SOME friendships are worth it
SOME aren't...
but only YOU can decide that...
I love her and always will so I feel like no matter what happens my heart will always say give it another chance- ya know?
I mean - I feel like no matter how many chances i give it- Ill still be able to say- I couldve tried harder or again- KWIM?
If i spoke that lovingly about someone
Then i say give it another chance 
Message edited 12/4/2006 9:26:44 PM.
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| Posted 12/4/06 9:25 PM |
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05mommy09
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Re: Can I have some guidance from my LIF girls??
Like I talked to her tonight- and was so sad and missed her so much-
But I just re-read that thread- and Im like Oh my god- what am I getting into again?
Why is this so hard?
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| Posted 12/4/06 9:26 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: Can I have some guidance from my LIF girls??
Posted by Princessmaris
Like I talked to her tonight- and was so sad and missed her so much-
But I just re-read that thread- and Im like Oh my god- what am I getting into again?
Why is this so hard?
because some friendships just are
I recently started talking to a friend that i had lost touch with after my wedding..
she was very self absorbed (still a single gal who kinda resented that i wasn't)
But i am sooo happy that we did. It took a death for us to start talking but we truly missed each other
We aren't and probably will never be the friends that we once were...but i would kinda for now rather have her in my life than not...
and ultimately that is what it comes down to...
I can tell you that there have been people that i thought were true friends...who ended up being the furthest thing from it
Like i said...FOLLOW YOUR HEART..
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| Posted 12/4/06 9:30 PM |
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LBG30
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Re: Can I have some guidance from my LIF girls??
I would def. try and give it a try again..If things don't work out you know that you tried. Good luck!!
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| Posted 12/4/06 9:35 PM |
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05mommy09
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Re: Can I have some guidance from my LIF girls??
Posted by Redhead
Posted by Princessmaris
Like I talked to her tonight- and was so sad and missed her so much-
But I just re-read that thread- and Im like Oh my god- what am I getting into again?
Why is this so hard?
because some friendships just are
I recently started talking to a friend that i had lost touch with after my wedding..
she was very self absorbed (still a single gal who kinda resented that i wasn't)
But i am sooo happy that we did. It took a death for us to start talking but we truly missed each other
We aren't and probably will never be the friends that we once were...but i would kinda for now rather have her in my life than not...
Thanks!
You have no idea- how much this truely helped
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| Posted 12/4/06 9:35 PM |
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IrishTracy
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Re: Can I have some guidance from my LIF girls??
I'd say go. Then (if you decide to cut your loses) you will always know that you tried.
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| Posted 12/4/06 9:38 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: Can I have some guidance from my LIF girls??
Good Luck
Friendships can be just as hard as good marraiges
But in the end totally worth it
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| Posted 12/4/06 9:39 PM |
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SoinLove
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Re: Can I have some guidance from my LIF girls??
Posted by IrishTracy
I'd say go. Then (if you decide to cut your loses) you will always know that you tried.
I agree. At least you won't look back and regret not trying then.
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| Posted 12/4/06 10:14 PM |
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rose825
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Re: Can I have some guidance from my LIF girls??
Posted by Princessmaris
I love her- and I do miss her- and it totally sux how things turned out...
this is your answer
Message edited 12/4/2006 10:18:29 PM.
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| Posted 12/4/06 10:17 PM |
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2PreciousBlessings
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Re: Can I have some guidance from my LIF girls??
Posted by rose825
Posted by Princessmaris
I love her- and I do miss her- and it totally sux how things turned out...
this is your answer
Ditto!!!
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| Posted 12/5/06 6:55 AM |
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TeddyBear922
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Re: Can I have some guidance from my LIF girls??
I think you should meet with her, try to talk things out and see where that goes. You may never have the friendship you once had, but you will be friends.
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