Birthday party situation - thoughts

Ok last year around this time I was 5 months pregnant with my son.

Dh's friend and his wife were planning their daughter's one year b-day party.

We found out that we were not being invited due to the fact that they were only having family and people with kids. At first I was ok with it, thinking it was going to be at a kiddie place or something. Come to find out they had it in a catering hall and there were 100 people in attendance.

I was a bit annoyed because DH and this guy have been friends for like 20 something years. Also, although we did not have kids at the time we were almost there lol. Also to invite 100 people and not include a good friend of yours- kid or no kids is not cool, JMO.

Anyway this year for their daughters 2nd b-day party we get an invite. It is a house party this year.

We are going to go because I am not the tit for tat type person, and I love their daughter, but a part of me wonders if they are inviting us because they think we are having something for DS 1 year b-day in a few months and they want to make sure they score an invite. Speaking of which since I am still unemployed, we have no plans to do anything big for him.

Curious to hear your thoughts? Would you go? People have told me they would not even go.

Message edited 9/16/2009 12:05:23 PM.

Re: Birthday party situation - thoughts

I've never considerd that anyone would actually want to score an invitation to a party at least since elementary school.

I would go to his daughter's birthday party if you're friendly with him and do whatever I originally planned to do for your child's birthday.

I also agree that if they're inviting 100 people & you're not on the list, then I wouldn't consider yourself or DH good friends.

Re: Birthday party situation - thoughts

The only thing I could think of is that you both are being invited bc you NOW have a child. I also had trouble figuring out who to invite for my dd's 1st bday bc I still did have single friends or friends that were just dating and didnt want them to think I was looking for a gift or thought maybe they would be bored at a kids party. The "100 person party" is probably heresay. I am sure it was a big party but you dont know who was there and what was there so you are probably making alot of assumptions. I would consider yourself invited bc you have mutual children invited. Life goes on dont let it bother you. Your kids will probably end up boyfriend/girlfriend

Re: Birthday party situation - thoughts

Posted by PrincessP

The only thing I could think of is that you both are being invited bc you NOW have a child. I also had trouble figuring out who to invite for my dd's 1st bday bc I still did have single friends or friends that were just dating and didnt want them to think I was looking for a gift or thought maybe they would be bored at a kids party. The "100 person party" is probably heresay. I am sure it was a big party but you dont know who was there and what was there so you are probably making alot of assumptions. I would consider yourself invited bc you have mutual children invited. Life goes on dont let it bother you. Your kids will probably end up boyfriend/girlfriend

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Re: Birthday party situation - thoughts

Posted by nrvbrd

Posted by PrincessP

The only thing I could think of is that you both are being invited bc you NOW have a child. I also had trouble figuring out who to invite for my dd's 1st bday bc I still did have single friends or friends that were just dating and didnt want them to think I was looking for a gift or thought maybe they would be bored at a kids party. The "100 person party" is probably heresay. I am sure it was a big party but you dont know who was there and what was there so you are probably making alot of assumptions. I would consider yourself invited bc you have mutual children invited. Life goes on dont let it bother you. Your kids will probably end up boyfriend/girlfriend

I got the details straight from the mother herself, so no hearsay or no assumptions.

Like I said, we are going to go to the party. I

I brought it up because I mentioned to a couple of friends in conversation that I had to buy a costume for him to wear to the party and that is when they said they probably would not go, so was curious to hear other opinions.