Besides feeling bad for you...

Do you also feel bad for your DH when each month you don't get your BFP?

I focus so much on my feelings that I tend to neglect how DH feels. He stays strong for me and tells me it's okay, it will happen and all that other good stuff I wanna hear. He doesn't stress over it at all but sometimes I just look at him and feel bad that he is going through it too, he wants a baby and it's just not happening.

Re: Besides feeling bad for you...

When we first started ttc I really didn't only bc it really wasn't bothering him. He is a very rational person so when we got BFN's for the first few months he had the attitude of "it's no big deal it takes most people longer than this". Then after 3 failed clomid/timed intercourse cycles it started to effect him a little. After our failed IVF I think was when he started feeling the same way as me. Now after 15 months of ttc I definitely feel bad for him as much as myself. Even though he doesn't express the way he's feeling as much as I do I know it kills him. We actually talked about it a little last night and he opened up a lot and even got emotional.

Re: Besides feeling bad for you...

Posted by MrsDeVito

When we first started ttc I really didn't only bc it really wasn't bothering him. He is a very rational person so when we got BFN's for the first few months he had the attitude of "it's no big deal it takes most people longer than this". Then after 3 failed clomid/timed intercourse cycles it started to effect him a little. After our failed IVF I think was when he started feeling the same way as me. Now after 15 months of ttc I definitely feel bad for him as much as myself. Even though he doesn't express the way he's feeling as much as I do I know it kills him. We actually talked about it a little last night and he opened up a lot and even got emotional.

Re: Besides feeling bad for you...

Of course! My DH wants this just as much as I do!

Re: Besides feeling bad for you...

I dont feel bad at all.

we want to parents.....but no so much that our lives are devistated every month. We just WONT do that to ourselves.

We have decided if it happens, its a blessing and we will be happy.

If it does not, we will be happy and live our lives and be happy.

I just cant get to a place where I pin all my hopes and dreams on one thing. Baby, lottery, better job. Our relationship is the most important thing to us and we wont let something like not being able to have a LO get in the way of us.

Re: Besides feeling bad for you...

Posted by PennyCat

Of course! My DH wants this just as much as I do!