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"Attraction" question...
spinoff to a convo I had today with a co-worker...
If your DH told you he wasn't very attracted to you, or if you weren't very attracted to your DH, but everything else in your relationship was good,do you think that's a marriage ender?
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Posted 3/9/06 4:43 PM  |
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twobabies
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Re: "Attraction" question...
oh boy. i dont think it would end my marriage. but it would sure hurt like hell to hear that from my dh.
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| Posted 3/9/06 4:49 PM |
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MichaelsMommy
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Re: "Attraction" question...
yes - I believe that two people should be emotionally AND physically attracted to each other in order for their marriage to work... JMO 
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BaroqueMama
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Re: "Attraction" question...
Maybe not right away, but eventually, yes, I think it would end it. That's such a huge part of a relationship.
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| Posted 3/9/06 4:51 PM |
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Jessica
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Re: "Attraction" question...
Posted by prncssrachel
Maybe not right away, but eventually, yes, I think it would end it. That's such a huge part of a relationship.
ditto
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| Posted 3/9/06 5:03 PM |
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Bri
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Re: "Attraction" question...
Posted by prncssrachel
Maybe not right away, but eventually, yes, I think it would end it. That's such a huge part of a relationship.
My feelings exactly
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| Posted 3/9/06 5:06 PM |
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Janice
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Re: "Attraction" question...
I would try and change to be more attractive to him as much as I could, but I don't see a marriage really working without attraction.
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| Posted 3/9/06 5:07 PM |
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MrsPorkChop
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Re: "Attraction" question...
i dont think i could live my life with a partner im not attracted to..
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| Posted 3/9/06 5:08 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: "Attraction" question...
Posted by Scotty-CassidysMom
spinoff to a convo I had today with a co-worker...
If your DH told you he wasn't very attracted to you, or if you weren't very attracted to your DH, but everything else in your relationship was good,do you think that's a marriage ender?
good question....i am not sure
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DRMom
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Re: "Attraction" question...
Welll does that mean no sex? Then yes. BUT if it was a temporary thing like pregnancy or weight gain or something like that then no we would work through it.
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saraH
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Re: "Attraction" question...
would it end immediately? no, but over time i think it would end.....
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monkeybride
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Re: "Attraction" question...
I don't think its a marriage ender but inevitably it will lead to problems. I would think without attraction your intimacy will go down and then one or both people can feel unsatisfied, etc.
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| Posted 3/9/06 6:04 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: "Attraction" question...
I'm not sure and am trying to figure it out myself.
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CathyB
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Re: "Attraction" question...
Posted by nrthshgrl
I'm not sure and am trying to figure it out myself.
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kms717
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Re: "Attraction" question...
Wow, honestly, it wouldn't be a marriage ender for me if I weren't attracted to my DH anymore, but without a doubt it would be a marriage ender if DH weren't attracted to me anymore. I love him to death, but he's very shallow about stuff like that.
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| Posted 3/9/06 9:42 PM |
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MissJones
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Re: "Attraction" question...
First of all, are we talking about an "OHNO, I just don't feel attracted to you" or an "Um, I'm sorry, but you could use a makeover" type of situation? Because the latter could be ammended, but the first one may be more. While I don't think it would be a relationship ender, but it would be indicative of some serious counseling. I think there normally comes an attraction when you love someone. I mean, we've all wondered about couples "how on earth did THEY get together?" and maybe some are for alterior motifs, others may be genuine. Anyway, what I'm getting at is what did someone do to become less attractive? Is it less exterior and more a personality thing?
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MrsERod
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Re: "Attraction" question...
Posted by BNL2005
would it end immediately? no, but over time i think it would end.....
i agree.
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| Posted 3/9/06 9:54 PM |
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Mushpot
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Re: "Attraction" question...
It could eventually end the marriage. Not sure if it would do it right away, but it would be the straw that broke the camel's back type of thing.!! And.. I agree, it would hurt like heck for DH to say that...
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| Posted 3/9/06 10:14 PM |
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Palebride
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Re: "Attraction" question...
I think if my Dh told me he wasn't attracted to me, I wouldn't be able to continue in the relationship and it would end the marraige.
Attraction, as I see it, isn't just about physical appearance. Even if someone is going through a rough patch and not looking their best - there should be other parts of their personality that keep you attracted.
It would break me if DH ever told me that.
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| Posted 3/9/06 10:17 PM |
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KarenK122
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Re: "Attraction" question...
yes definately. that is why my first marraige failed. He basically told me one night that he wasn't attracted to me in the way a husband is to a wife but he loved me and we could still be married. I was like ummm no thanks, I don't need a roommate. (It was a little more complicated than that but you get the drift).
It took a while (and many men  ) to get my self esteem back but it all worked out for the best. Now I'm with my darling DH.
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SoinLove
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Re: "Attraction" question...
Posted by prncssrachel
Maybe not right away, but eventually, yes, I think it would end it. That's such a huge part of a relationship.
I agree
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