Are you still bitter about your pregnancy and/or birth?

I was talking to my BFF earlier and we were talking about how we are bitter.

I am still bitter about my pregnancy and how utterly terrible it was and she is bitter about her emergency c-section and the experience.

Are we the only nuts, or are other people like this?

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Me I had one issue after another starting at week six until the day I delivered via Emergency C Section. My doctor was awful and I should have switched, but was too nervous to change late in pregnancy - worst mistake ... To cap it off, my OB cut my son's penis at circumcision and he had to have a stitch. The OB lied and said it was scar tissue (however the nurses told me otherwise ....) .... I don't know if I'll ever get over the whole experience.

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i wouldn't say bitter, per se, but i get sad from time to time knowing that i'll never be able to have a vaginal birth since rocco was breech and i needed a c for it. sometimes i feel like i was ripped off, even though i know i shouldn't feel that way b/c he is the better than i ever imagined - but i think it will take me some time to mourn the fact that i won't ever delivery naturally, kwim?

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You are nuts - that goes without saying!

I'm not bitter at all - just don't know that I am ready to do it again just yet.

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I had the WORST morning sickness, but when I look at my baby boy I forget it all! So not at all.

I am ready to do it all over again

I DO, however, miss my old figure

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I wouldn't say bitter, but I don't have warm, fuzzy feelings about either, and my pregnancy really wasn't bad. I didn't love being preggo though, and the delivery, ohhh, what a livin nightmare.

But DS is here, so it was all worthwhile.

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I dont know if I'd say bitter. I have mixed emotions. I do know that it taught me how strong I am and I never would have known. Would I do it again..ask me again a few years from now lol

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My pregnancy was great!!!!!!! I AM FURIOUS over my delivery and hospital experience. I am way beyond bitter. Maybe I will calm down when I can live my life again without numbness and pain.

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I think I am still traumatized by my labor/delivery. I had to have a c-section after 36 hours of labor. The scary thing was that after the surgery, the breathing receptors in my brain began to "shut down" and I actually stopped breathing a few times without knowing it. I was alone in my room after my parents and DH went out to get something to eat after DS was born.

Luckily, a nurse noticed this and literally saved my life. She noticed that my breathing was shallow/erratic, turns out it was due to an overdose of narcotics given during labor. So they gave me Narcan to leach the drugs out of my system, and put me on oxygen and monitored my heart rate for 12 hours until I stabilized. it was scary because I was alone when it happened, and also sad because my DS stayed in the nursery while I was getting better..I still feel so sad about that- we didn't get to bond that first night.

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I don't think I'd say bitter, but sometimes I second guess my decision for my induction. DD was 6 days late, maybe I should have waited for her to come on her own. Then maybe I wouldn't have needed the c-section. I had some complications at the end of the c-section, but the recovery was a breeze. I really think I would have ended up with the c-section anyway though. Just a feeling. And sometimes I'm relieved I didn't have to push out 8 lbs, 6 oz.

ETA: The pregnancy was terrific. I truly loved it. I felt great almost the entire time. Hopefully my next one will be as good, but I know I won't get so lucky especially since I'll be chasing DD around.

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Well, yes, in a big way. Its a hard topic for me, and many dont understand either...and I get that but am still sensitive to it.

My Pregnancy was hard to achieve...2 yrs of tests and procedures before spending thousands on IVF...... Im bitter I had to pay to get Pregnant.....

Then my pregnancy was so awful, its hard to describe.

I was sick from the beginning to the end and hospitilized a few times and had an IV drip for 14 weeks...and thrice weekly specialist appointments, yet Im not bitter about any of that, b/c I would have done ANYTHING to have my child.

BUT

Im bitter about my C/S.... VERY.

Its hard to get over and I think about it CONSTANTLY and try to come to terms with it as best I can.

My birth experience was awful. My Dr. Was AWFUL. The Drs didnt realize what was going on with me till too late...And My C/S Was just awful...We had no camera to take pictures in there, they didnt show me him till like 15 min's after he was born....etc etc.

My dream was to have a natural birth. I had one 10 yrs ago but due to premature delivery and unfortunatly my daughter died.

I wanted that NOW with Noah. It didnt happen and I am and was crushed by how I couldnt have just one part of my experience to be what I wanted.

It ended a 3 yr culmination of pain, shots, injections, medications BADLY and for that, Yes I am still very very bitter and sad.

I can never have a natural birth and Im sad about it.

Sorry so long, venting helps.

Message edited 4/18/2008 8:19:57 PM.

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I'm not bitter about my pregnancy but I am a little about the birth.

We chose to have help from induction even though I was having early labor contractions already. I think it made it worse and longer, and I couldn't get an epidural. I should've just waited for her to come naturally and been more firm about alternative methods of pain management. They wouldn't let me get out of bed and I was miserable sitting in that bed for 24 hours and using a freaking bedpan.

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Posted by babymakes3

I'm not bitter about my pregnancy but I am a little about the birth.

We chose to have help from induction even though I was having early labor contractions already. I think it made it worse and longer, and I couldn't get an epidural. I should've just waited for her to come naturally and been more firm about alternative methods of pain management. They wouldn't let me get out of bed and I was miserable sitting in that bed for 24 hours and using a freaking bedpan.

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Posted by chmlengr

Posted by ziamaria

i wouldn't say bitter, per se, but i get sad from time to time knowing that i'll never be able to have a vaginal birth since rocco was breech and i needed a c for it. sometimes i feel like i was ripped off, even though i know i shouldn't feel that way b/c he is the better than i ever imagined - but i think it will take me some time to mourn the fact that i won't ever delivery naturally, kwim?

why? My son was breech and delivered via c/s and my next child was a vaginal delivery. It is possible!

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I wouldn't say bitter. I guess I'd say a little sad.
I had a GREAT pregnancy. When it came time to deliver, I experienced the water breaking, but that was it.
Even with the inducing, I felt no contractions. I have no idea what one feels like (Yes, I am strange for saying that)..After 30 hours, I only got to 2CMs and ended up with a C Section.
The Anxiety was unreal. I didn't get to experience the "pushing the baby out".

My dr. did cut in a way, so, that if I want to next time, I can try V Bac.
I am terrified though. I think I'll just go right for the C Section. I don't think I can go through all that anxiety again.

They told me I fell asleep after DS was born. Thank GOD I didn't miss him being born. I would have been devastated. I didn't realize I took a snooze..LOL. I woke up being rolled into recovery.. DH was in the nursery with DS. I basically took a snooze while they were "Putting me back together". Which is fine. LOL.

Message edited 4/18/2008 8:34:49 PM.

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Wow - I'm surprised by how many people are bitter about their birth. I am bitter about my c/s experience too.

When I was 32 weeks I considered changing drs and chose not too and when I was 38 weeks I realized that I really should have. Now post partem, I definitely wish I had changed. there were so many things I would do differently - but i love my little girl - so I'm thankful that we are both healthy and have recovered so well from the experience.

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I am bitter in some ways. I am upset with myself for being so scared of having the baby in the room with me and not knowing how to care for him. Then he went to the NICU and he never got to be in the room with me. Now I hate the fact that I never had that experience.

I am bitter about the heart condition that I had while pregnant and the fact that I did not cut myself a break when I was feeling lousy. I worked up until the day before I had him and when I look back, none of that work was as urgent as I felt it was at the time.

On the upside, our lives now could not be better.

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I regret that I spent so much time worrying about everything that I didn't always take the time to enjoy being pregnant. I'm bitter about two weeks of anxiety caused by Dr. Mitchell Kramer who chose to jump ship and leave his practice in the middle of the night causing havoc for the other OB patients in the practice. I am bitter and FURIOUS over being kept in recovery for 4+ hours without DD and then having the nursery nurses decide I should rest and not see her overnight so she was given forumla instead of being brought to me to BF.

Other than that, I'm great.

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I'm not necessarily bitter, but more upset over my c/s. After having my water break & being in labor for 36 hours & not progressing past 6, they went ahead w/ the c/s. I truly wanted to experience the pushing & having a natural delivery.Then b/c I was in labor so long, DD was in NICU & I never had the chance to have her in my room & they started her on formula.

I was also QUITE upset w/ the foreign pediatrician in the OR who was talking to me w/ his mask on w/ his thick accent & all I heard was trouble breathing & NICU & I panicked....I truly thought something was terribly wrong w/ DD, yet later I found out they did it as a precaution b/c my water broke 36 hours b4 & I was in labor so long. Yet for 2 hours I was in tears & DH was trying to comfort me & we didn't go out & even tell my parents until I could calm down.

Yet looking back my C/S was great & I recovered no problem & I'm glad I at least experienced my water breaking & contractions.

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Would I say bitter? No. I loved beign pregnant and am happy that things played out the way they did.

My birth story, however, is incredibly tramautic for me and it's hard to talk about. I basically went into labr at 32 weeks 5 days and delivered DD via c/s 7 weeks early. I had to leave her at the hospital wihich is more painful that I can begin to describe.

But my c/s was fine, no cpmplications and my OB was great.

I am upset b/c I missed the last few months of being pregnant. I literally went to bed the night of my shower and woke up and had my baby. Surreal.

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Not one bit and I had some awful things happen.

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I am not bitter at all.
I thought I would love pregnancy and I hated it. For no reason really as I had a pretty easy/uneventful pregnancy.
I dreamed of the moment I would go into labor but I never progressed and the thought of waiting another week to have a 10+lb baby didn't appeal to me so after days of crying I had a c-section. But had a very easy recovery.
But honestly none of it is even a thought in my mind, I love my DS and being a mom and I would do all of it again just to see his smile.
I guess I just don't understand how I could be bitter with all I have been blessed with.