Anyone consider getting a surrogate mother?

I'm having such a difficult first pregnancy that I am having REAL doubts on being able to do this again in the future. DH and I both want more than one child.

I told DH that I will give up living in a nicer home to get a surrogate mother for a second child. DH doesn't seem to think this is an option and just ignored my suggestion.

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It sounds like your pregnancy has not gotten fun yet, and neither has mine. I have been feeling awful, but I know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. You will probably be feeling better soon, and the sickness will be a distant memory. Also, every pregnancy is different, and while you could have a yucky one this time around, next time might be alot easier. Try and think to yourself that you feel sick b/c the baby is strong and healthy. Try and feel better. Oh, I found something else that has helped a little bit-- Celestial Seasons Maternity Partner tea. It helps the nausea a bit and it is very healthy for you.

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I'm sorry things are so hard for you....

Personally, I would avoid a surrogate situation at all costs, becuase the hormones of pregnancy cause a huge emotional bond between the surrogate mom and the baby... not only does that affect your bonding, but it also creates icky legal situations where the surrogate could want to sue for custody or visitation rights


the only reason I would go the surrogate route is if my womb was really not functional (such as following a hysterectomy) and pregancy is not possible AT ALL.

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I wouldn't. Here's the thing........right now you're in the thick of this pregnancy thing and if it's been a rough pregnancy that makes it so much harder to get through the 40 weeks BUT..........your brain is a remarkable little organ. It WON'T let you remember all this bad stuff in pregnancy, all the discomfort and misery.....you'll remember all the good parts and you'll look at your little baby with love and admiration and something in you will want to do it all over again and it won't even matter how hard it was the first time. Anyone I know who has ever been pregnant, no matter how difficult or challenging it was, without hesitation said they would do it again in a second to have another beautiful child in the their life. I think once you get through this and you have your baby you'll see what a miracle it was to carry and nurture that baby inside of you and you'll do it again. I feel so close to my baby already and I can't imagine not having this experience of he/she growing inside of me. No matter how uncomfortable I am it's a miracle and every time I feel this baby kick or poke I'm reminded of how amazing this all is and how lucky I am.

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No but I've been thinking adoption for the next

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I'm not sure if I'd look into surrogate for myself, but I never really thought about it either.

I know that would, if I needed to, be a surrogate for a family member if they needed it. Not sure about for a family I didn't know. I might have to be done with having my own children first. And I would want to at least see the baby every once and a while to see the baby's progress.

I went off on a tangent...sorry.

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I wouldn't unless it was medically necessary. I just wouldn't want anyone else having that much of a physical bond with my child.

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Are you kidding me?? I tell DH everyday that this will be an only child

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I would not unless it was completely impossible for me to carry another child.

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Let me tell you I love my DS and love kids but I am not a pregnant person at all!!!! I really don't enjoy it. Didn't with DS and really not with this baby either.

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Absolutely not. I had a very hard time concieving, it took 2 years, and knew if I couldn't carry my own child, the only other option for us would have been adoption. Neither my husband or I had any intention on using a donor eggs or a surrogate.

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I would. Only and Only if I myself couldnt carry the child.

I would also be a surrogate mother for a sister or a close friend or family member. If I could, I would love to be able to offer the joy of mother hood to someone else!

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No but I have considered being one. Pregnancy has really been a wonderful experience and I would do it again and again and if that means being able to give someone else the chance at parenthood then I am all for it.