Any advice from BTDT Moms-- The "new" baby's room

While I still have several months to go, I am starting to get organized and prep Sasha's room to become a big girl room, and make the "guest room" the new nursery.

Problem is-- Sasha LOVES the guest room. She loves playing on the bed in there, which will go into her room-- but when asked, she wants it there and NOT in her room.

I have put away some baby toys and books in there also-- she loves playing with them in there. When asked if a new baby can move in there, she says no, I want to stay in here AND my room.

I know she's only 2.5, and doesn't get it. I am not really even trying to explain anything to her yet-- but just trying to see if she's excited about the prospect of some new and exciting changes-- new big girl princess room, baby to play with.

I am also worried about her being upset to see her crib in another room that's not her's, etc.

The kids will be exactly 3 yrs apart, so I know a lot will change in the next 6 months with her. Alllll of her friends either just had a baby sibling or will right around the same time. So everyone is getting big beds and little brothers. I hope this will help things.

Any advice on how to prep and deal? She's a pretty easy baby, so I am not expecting it to be crazy, she just doesn't seem receptive now.

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No advice just wanted to ask, am I correct in reading this, that you are pg? If so, I did not know and congratulations!!! When are you due?

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Re: Any advice from BTDT Moms-- The "new" baby's room

I'll tell you this much - I was freaking about setting up the boys in a shared room this weekend.

We moved Ryan's furniture to Colin's room (better room for sharing) and Colin's nursery stuff to Ryan's room.

I ordered a matching bed to Ryan's set from PB Kids and we did the swap Friday. I now have Colin sleeping in what was Ryan's room, and will be the nursery, in his crib, but Ryan is in Colin's room and it's set up for both of them for when he's ready.

Ryan kept telling me, "but I like my room, I don't want to come out of my room..." I felt really bad and cringed to think how it would go.

Well, he there was NO problem whatsoever - they both went to their new rooms no problem. Ryan was really excited to see the room set up as it will be when they share and did the obligatory bed diving

My point is - it was me that was worried, they are both fine.

So, I suggest doing it with some time for her to adjust but not giving it too much thought. Like everything, we worry more about their transitions than we need to. I'm sure she'll be really excited when you set her up. I would let her be apart of the decorating both rooms.

Good luck!!

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If memory serves me correctly we did this together last time as well. Congratulations! We did the move VERY gradually. We got DS's big boy bed in May and let him transition slowly into it (naps at first, then sometimes at night) at his own pace. He's been in his big boy room for about a month now. We just did everything we could to make his new room exciting. We got him wonder pet sheets, set up his toys, made it really all about things he liked unlike the nursery which was really for "the baby" RHys now calls his old room "the baby's room" and while he LOVES to play in there with all the baby stuff we brought back out (swing, exosaucer, etc.) he knows that it's the baby's room. He's a really laid back kid as well and it went much easier than I thought it would.

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This may be a stupid idea but is there any way you'd consider making the guest room Sasha's room and keep the baby room as a baby room? If she likes playing on the bed in the guest room, maybe you could tell her that would be her new room and the room with the crib is for a baby and she is not a baby anymore? Just a thought...

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Congratulations! I would make a big deal about getting a big girl bed, with new bedding, accessories and really play it up. As for the other room, well I would start closing the door so she can't get in there a little bit. See how that goes and if she will play elsewhere.

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DS was a few months shy of 3 when the twins were born.

We just made a SUPER big deal about his BIG BOY bed. We did the furniture switch after naps one day (naps he has always been finicky with, but never at bedtime). We put the bed together and moved the crib into the girls room. He was confused at first but with the new bedding, decor, etc he got so excited he didn't care the crib wasn't there anymore.

By the time the girls came I think he forgot he ever even slept in a crib. I was about 4 months pregnant when we did the switch.

By the way, congrats!!

Re: Any advice from BTDT Moms-- The "new" baby's room

my niece was very much the same way. my mom took her for the day and my sister and bil set up both her new big girl room and nursery before she got home. she had no issues

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Re: Any advice from BTDT Moms-- The "new" baby's room

DD was 2 little over 2.5 when DS was born. We moved her to her "princess big girl bed" before he arrived. We hyped up the big girl bed A LOT. She was great with it. Plus she got the new dresser and night stand too. So her room was totally different. But she LOVED it.

In your situation, I wouldn't even discuss the guest room. Just really concentrate on her room and how amazing it will be.

Also, maybe don't put the crib back up until she is in love with her new room. You have plenty of time for her to adjust.

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No advice just wanted to ask, am I correct in reading this, that you are pg? If so, I did not know and congratulations!!! When are you due?

yes! Due 2.6. Praying my kids don't have the same birthday!!! I just "came out". I'm 15 weeks.

OMG! I didnt know either! Congrats to you!!! I remember when Sasha was born bc I was about 20 weeks then! Wonderful news!!!

Re: Any advice from BTDT Moms-- The "new" baby's room

I agree with the other posters with making a big deal of the big girl room. I would dismantle the crib when she gets her new bed & wait a few weeks before setting it up in the new baby's room. She's less likely to associate it as "hers" that way. If you have new bedding, even better.

One thing I would do right away is to close the guest room off. I would start out by making this a rule about the room, not about the baby. Tell her that you have a new rule. She can play in the x, y or z room but she is not allowed to play in that room. I wouldn't even explain it's the baby's room or reference the baby in any way. That way when the baby comes, she's already gotten used to the idea that it's not "her" room & no one "took it" from her.

If she gets upset about it, I would say "I know. I don't like all of the rules either but we have to follow them. I wish I could do whatever I wanted too sometimes."

I used to blame "the schedule" for why my kids had to wake up, get dressed & go to daycare. Rather than focus on they didn't like going to daycare, they used to say "I hate the schedule!" & I would wholeheartedly agree that I hated it too & I wished I could stay home.