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RSquared0907
LIF Adolescent
Member since 4/12 712 total posts
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RJ
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am I being unreasonable?
Without getting into the whole story, is it unreasonable of me to insist that my SIL and her BF (whom we have never met) stay in a hotel when they come out from AZ when the baby is born? Besides not wanting anyone staying at the house to begin with, would you be comfortable having a complete stranger staying at your house for a week right after you give birth?
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Posted 8/25/12 12:14 PM  |
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Linda1003
love my 2 boys
Member since 8/08 10923 total posts
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Linda
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Re: am I being unreasonable?
Omg sooo not being unreasonable!!
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| Posted 8/25/12 12:30 PM |
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InShock
life is good
Member since 10/06 9258 total posts
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am I being unreasonable?
Totally reasonable! 
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| Posted 8/25/12 12:39 PM |
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StaceyWill
It's a girl!!!
Member since 6/10 21539 total posts
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Stacey
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Re: am I being unreasonable?
You're not being unreasonable at all.
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| Posted 8/25/12 12:46 PM |
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Atherley
So in Love with my DS
Member since 1/11 1122 total posts
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am I being unreasonable?
Completely reasonable. I don't want anyone in my house after I give birth either, especially a stranger.
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| Posted 8/25/12 12:51 PM |
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LiveItUp
Love my babies!
Member since 8/11 4096 total posts
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am I being unreasonable?
Completely reasonable! I don't want any house guests when we first come home with the baby. In my opinion it's unreasonable for people to expect to be able to stay over. Do you have any other family in the area that they could stay with?
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| Posted 8/25/12 12:55 PM |
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OhBoyorGirl
LIF Adult
Member since 2/12 1789 total posts
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Re: am I being unreasonable?
Definitely not unreasonable. I especially would not want any guy I had never met before staying in my home at such a vulnerable, private time. If it makes you feel better, my MIL and SIL are not even staying with us when they come to visit!
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| Posted 8/25/12 1:05 PM |
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ndblovah
Be happy always
Member since 1/07 1880 total posts
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am I being unreasonable?
Sounds fine to me.
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| Posted 8/25/12 1:41 PM |
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jennarose023
Jack's gonna be a big brother!
Member since 11/08 7769 total posts
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Jenna
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am I being unreasonable?
Totally reasonable to me!
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| Posted 8/25/12 2:12 PM |
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Strawberry2468
It's summatime
Member since 3/09 4739 total posts
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Christine
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Re: am I being unreasonable?
Not unreasonable! I wouldn't worry too much about the stranger aspect if you trust her I'm sure he's fine but just having guests will be stressful. I'd feel the need to clean ip and clean up after them and that is too much pressure. I told dh the other day that his brother is not staying with us when he comes to visit and he needs to stay with his parents. And I know him well but just don't want guests here. I want to be able to loaf around if I want and don't want or worry about people being here. My mom will possibly be staying with us a few nights after dh goes back to work but that's different because I don't care what I look like with her around.
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| Posted 8/25/12 2:15 PM |
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Cheeks24
Living a dream
Member since 1/08 8589 total posts
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Cheeks
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am I being unreasonable?
Totally reasonable.
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| Posted 8/25/12 2:32 PM |
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jessw
LIF Adolescent
Member since 2/11 512 total posts
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Jess
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am I being unreasonable?
Totally reasonable. For me I would almost ask if my sister could come alone so I could have some alone time with the baby and my sister if I didn't even know her boyfriend.
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| Posted 8/25/12 3:59 PM |
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am I being unreasonable?
COMPLETELY reasonable. I'm not even letting my FIL and MIL stay with us when baby comes home!! No one!!! And in your case, I especially wouldn't want some stranger sleeping in the house with my newborn baby. Is your DH giving you a hard time about it?
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| Posted 8/25/12 5:27 PM |
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gdubs
This baby is awesome!
Member since 11/10 2467 total posts
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Gina
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am I being unreasonable?
Completely reasonable... I have already told DH that when his family comes to visit they have to stay elsewhere... there is usually enough drama with just them in the house so I don't need the added stress of having them in the house with a new baby... and they're not strangers. I don't blame you at alll!!
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| Posted 8/25/12 6:48 PM |
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springsandra
Baby girl has a baby brother!
Member since 11/09 7155 total posts
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Sandra
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am I being unreasonable?
No house guests for at least a few weeks. Anyone coming to visit will be immediately put to work, doing/folding laundry, getting groceries, cleaning toilets, making meals. No one is a guest in the weeks following the birth of the baby!
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| Posted 8/25/12 7:14 PM |
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stargazerlily
LIF Adolescent
Member since 12/11 706 total posts
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Lara
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am I being unreasonable?
Um.....who thinks it's reasonable to even ask that of a new mom? No way are you being unreasonable. The only new person in that house should be the baby.
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| Posted 8/25/12 10:37 PM |
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RSquared0907
LIF Adolescent
Member since 4/12 712 total posts
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RJ
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am I being unreasonable?
thanks all, this makes me feel a lot better. DH is pretty much on my side with this, but his sister isn't used to not getting her way. you'd think she was a baby with the tantrums she throws when someone tells her "no", but she's 27....
although my in-laws are looking for a suite-type of hotel so that she and her bf can stay with them, she has already said she will NOT stay with them (they only pay for her entire life and are willing to put her and her BF up in a hotel, how dare they), so my folks have offered to let them stay at their house so we don't have to be put out. they are awesome!
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| Posted 8/26/12 9:16 AM |
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Mrs213
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Member since 2/09 18986 total posts
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am I being unreasonable?
I the it's reasonable
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| Posted 8/26/12 7:07 PM |
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butterfly20
Party of 5 - 2015
Member since 4/06 7390 total posts
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am I being unreasonable?
I wouldn't share a hotel room with dh's best friends girlfriend who we hadn't met....... and we didn't even bring our son on that trip.
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| Posted 8/26/12 9:35 PM |
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