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Cookiegobbler 
My little love bugs!! 
  
Member since 9/05 5759 total posts 
Name: Nicole 
 
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 Okay... so I just have to ask.. and maybe this is TMI... BUTTT 
I read a lot how people say we're not really "trying", but we're not really careful.... and I find myself thinking... what exactly does that mean?? I'm gonna add a pole, so people dont get embarrased... but if you arent using any type of BC wouldnt that kinda be trying? Or does it mean that you arent charting/temping... etc... I'm confused! LOLOL 
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			Posted 8/7/06 9:01 PM    | 
	
	
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mrsdstowe 
LIF Adolescent 
  
Member since 3/06 699 total posts 
Name: Latrice 
 
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 Re: Okay... so I just have to ask.. and maybe this is TMI... BUTTT 
Altough we are actively TTC.
  When people say that they aren't being careful. I take it as they may not be actively TTC (charting, temping etc.). They are just BD, enjoying BD and IF they get PG, they will be just as happy. But if they dont get PG, they are cool with that too.
  JMO!! 
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			Posted 8/7/06 9:28 PM    | 
	
	
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MrsBlueSash 
Love my sailor 
  
Member since 6/05 5793 total posts 
Name: Christian 
 
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 Re: Okay... so I just have to ask.. and maybe this is TMI... BUTTT 
This is what my friend did.  No BC but no charting or anything like that.  They were 'just rolling the dice' and fine if they got pregnant or not.  They did, and they are so happy, but I'm sure if it had taken longer that would have ok too.  I don't think it always means people pray that they won't, its just a less controlled situation.   
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			Posted 8/8/06 3:20 AM    | 
	
	
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kaklesmay 
Love my baby boy! 
  
Member since 9/05 1151 total posts 
Name: Kim 
 
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 Re: Okay... so I just have to ask.. and maybe this is TMI... BUTTT 
I think it just means that they arent using condoms, BCP, whatever. They arent taking "preventative measures" but they also arent consciously doing the deed for the sole reason to make a baby.  
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			Posted 8/8/06 12:01 PM    | 
	
	
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pmpkn087 
Life is good... 
  
Member since 9/05 18504 total posts 
Name: Stephanie 
 
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 Re: Okay... so I just have to ask.. and maybe this is TMI... BUTTT 
Posted by mrsdstowe
  Altough we are actively TTC.
  When people say that they aren't being careful. I take it as they may not be actively TTC (charting, temping etc.). They are just BD, enjoying BD and IF they get PG, they will be just as happy. But if they dont get PG, they are cool with that too.
  JMO!! 
 
  very well said.  I agree!
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			Posted 8/8/06 12:28 PM    | 
	
	
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Tine73 
  
  
Member since 3/06 22093 total posts 
Name: ********* 
 
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 Re: Okay... so I just have to ask.. and maybe this is TMI... BUTTT 
IMO if you are not using BC then you are TTC! 
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			Posted 8/8/06 2:06 PM    | 
	
	
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Sweetpea130000 
My Love! 
  
Member since 5/05 2375 total posts 
Name: Shandra 
 
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 Re: Okay... so I just have to ask.. and maybe this is TMI... BUTTT 
I am not actively trying, but not preventing.
  For us it means, no charting, just BDing for enjoyment.  If we get PG, that is WONDERFUL, if we don't, we aren't upset about it, when it happens it happens.  When we are ready to actively try, we will probably BD from day 10 on. Hope that makes sense 
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			Posted 8/8/06 2:52 PM    | 
	
	
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pinkandblue 
Our family is complete, maybe  
  
Member since 9/05 32436 total posts 
Name: Stephanie 
 
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 Re: Okay... so I just have to ask.. and maybe this is TMI... BUTTT 
Posted by BackInNewYork
  IMO if you are not using BC then you are TTC! 
 
  well you can chart your cycle and if you BD when you are not ovulating you should be "safe"....this is the natural birth control method   
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			Posted 8/8/06 3:07 PM    | 
	
	
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LuvMy2Girls 
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Member since 5/05 11165 total posts 
Name: Mommy 
 
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 Re: Okay... so I just have to ask.. and maybe this is TMI... BUTTT 
Posted by stephanief
 
 Posted by BackInNewYork
  IMO if you are not using BC then you are TTC! 
 
  well you can chart your cycle and if you BD when you are not ovulating you should be "safe"....this is the natural birth control method    
 
  This is what we do now!  I hate hormonal BCP's, and condoms are for dating people  
  ETA: When we were TTC, we just BD'd for fun, especially in DH's eyes.  He didn't want to be treated as a piece of meat who makes a baby.  I knew exactly what was going on with my body, cause I charted so BD were planned even though  I let him "think"  he ran the show  
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			Posted 8/8/06 3:32 PM    | 
	
	
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