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lipglossjunky73
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Re: 40 and up having kids

I know someone who had an unplanned pregnancy at 44!!! For the first time! She was rold she could never have kids... She had an amazing pregnancy and looked great after the baby!

ETA - one of the moms I worked with on an EI case had her baby at 46!

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Posted 1/26/11 9:35 PM
 
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Diana712
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Re: 40 and up having kids

Had DD at 43 turned 44 1 month later..
Its just how it happened, IF played a role in it and I also got married at 39 ..
Do I wish i was younger when i had her yes.. ONLY because all of my family and friends are done.. All of there kids are so so so much older.. And she has no cousins her age.. Is it the end of the world no.. But I have great memories of my cousins and sleep overs so it makes me sad sometimes..

Posted 1/27/11 8:09 PM
 

Carol-B-2008
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Re: 40 and up having kids

DH and I have no children yet. We got married when I was 38. I will be 41 next month. Just wanted to say, I enjoyed reading this thread...it gives me hope and in spiration.

Posted 1/28/11 8:28 AM
 

Ian&EmmesMommy23
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Re: 40 and up having kids

the ONLY reason I say yes is because my grandma had my aunt at 42. her and my mom are 17 years apart. people think my mom is her mom. and my aunt is only 8 years older than me.

My aunt is now 39 and my grandma is 81. My grandparents moved to florida to retire when my aunt was 21 and left her on her own. she had to eventually move in with us. I see how my aunt feels more like their caretaker than daughter. she doesnt have kids yet and is not married, so who knows if my grandparents will be around to see that. Chat Icon

BUT...other people may have a different experience with this. but its because of this that i do not want my second too far away.

Posted 1/28/11 8:40 AM
 

maybesoon
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Re: 40 and up having kids

Posted by SpiceGirl

We can start a spinoff to this post and ask...is having a baby under 25yrs old too young???




my parents had me when they were 20. now they are 53 living the LIFE bc my sister and I are in our 30's and they have nothing to worry about . makes me wish I had my kids before 30 Chat Icon I had #1 when I was 30 and #2 at 32.

Posted 1/28/11 9:05 AM
 

Nifheim
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Re: 40 and up having kids

Posted by SpiceGirl

We can start a spinoff to this post and ask...is having a baby under 25yrs old too young???



Honestly i couldn't imagine having a child under 25. What about college? Career? Just regular fun b/s I did from 25 and under - i wouldn't of had that. I mean I realize some work around having a kid under 25 and yet accomplish a lot in life but for me I wouldn't of.

Posted 1/28/11 9:50 AM
 

CucumberGirl
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Re: 40 and up having kids

Posted by mommybear

Of course, there are issues with having children at 40+. Facts are facts. The risk for birth defect, children with special needs, etc.. if much higher. At 40 yo you WILL be considered a high risk pregnancy.

But I don't think many women really try posponning until they are 40 to start having children.



so true, and yes, it's true that statistics are not on your side, but you never know. i had issues at 28-29, my SIL had no issues at 39. i agree that i wouldn't count on it if i could help it, but you just never know.

to answer the op, no, it's not too old. dh wants 4 kids and i don't want them too close so if we get there, i'll probably be in my low 40s for the last one, which i'm fine with. dh's mom had his sister in her 40s and she's still a very active grandma in her 60s - she's actually in the best shape of her life right now. age is mostly just a number.

Posted 1/28/11 10:26 AM
 

TripletMom
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Re: 40 and up having kids

Posted by Diana712

Had DD at 43 turned 44 1 month later..
Its just how it happened, IF played a role in it and I also got married at 39 ..
Do I wish i was younger when i had her yes.. ONLY because all of my family and friends are done.. All of there kids are so so so much older.. And she has no cousins her age.. Is it the end of the world no.. But I have great memories of my cousins and sleep overs so it makes me sad sometimes..



Diana you always have us.....Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 1/28/11 11:17 AM
 

BeachMom
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Re: 40 and up having kids

Definitly not, as long as there are no medical issues. But medical issues can happen at any age so i would say the same thing no matter what the age. But if you know the benefits and risks, why not.

Posted 1/28/11 11:33 AM
 

Diana712
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Re: 40 and up having kids

Posted by TripletMom

Posted by Diana712

Had DD at 43 turned 44 1 month later..
Its just how it happened, IF played a role in it and I also got married at 39 ..
Do I wish i was younger when i had her yes.. ONLY because all of my family and friends are done.. All of there kids are so so so much older.. And she has no cousins her age.. Is it the end of the world no.. But I have great memories of my cousins and sleep overs so it makes me sad sometimes..



Diana you always have us.....Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon



Thank you Paula!!! Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

I want to take you up on this ... Chat Icon

Posted 1/28/11 11:36 AM
 
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