I need some help advice for a friend....

I was talking to my gf today and she is very upset. I really want to help her and steer her in the right direction.

So her and her husband have been trying for a little over 6 months...a few months ago she went to her OB for painful heavy periods and because she wanted to start trying. The doctor did a bunch on blood work on her and a sonogram. She said he said that everything checked out ok. He told her to go home and try.

He did suggest she may have endometrosis...and they would do a test where they inject a die and see if it goes into the tubes...i don't really know? She hasn't been back and they are just trying and she temps. She said that it is hard to temp because she works late and doesn't get home to 1 in the morning and wakes up at all different times and is having a hard time sleeping. So it's hasn't been accurate.

She said she is scared and doesn't know what to do...Does she go back to her ob...does she go to a fertility specialist...how does insurance work...Someone please give me some insight on this because I told her I would try and help her as much as I can because she doesn't want to tell anyone. She was hysterical on the phone today and it really broke my heart. I want her to get her BFP.

Thanks for reading this far.....

Any info you can give me...thank you

any specific good doctor she can see if she has to go to a fertility specialist...what is an RE??

Re: I need some help advice for a friend....

If she can't temp then the things she should use are ovulation predictor kits. That will tell her the best days to BD. It is a bit more reliable than temping in her situation.

I don't know if an RE would see her since it hasn't been a year. It depends on her age. If she is over 30 than maybe they would. Some do, Some don't.

She would have to call her insurance company but, most won't do much until you have been trying for a year. She could fudge the numbers a bit. Some companies give coverage, some give little to none. Once she calls them they can tell her if they have providers that they may cover more for. For instance, mine covered 100% if I used specific providers.

Honestly, My RE told me that temping was a waste. I know some people have had success but, it can be unreliable due to human error and it only tells you AFTER you ovulate. The Ovulation Predictor kits tell you before. THe digital one is the best one. It is so much easier to read than the other kinds. Target has the cheapest prices.

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Re: I need some help advice for a friend....

THe exam that the doctor is referring to is an HSG. It is where they inject dye into your fallopian tubes, to see if they are blocked (often times a side effect of endometriosis)

If she has that test, it will determine whether or not her tubes are blocked. If they are blocked, she can have a recanilization to unblock them, depending on what the blockage is from and if it is fixable (I just had this done myself)

As for temping, if her schedule is that erratic, she should use OPKs, which might be easier for her.

If she is uncomfortable with her OB/GYN, then she should seek a new one. And as for a fertility specialist and how much it costs, she'll need to check with her insurance. If she wants to go that route, her OB/GYN can recommend an RE (so can girls on this site)

However, before she does anything, she should find an OB/GYN who she is comfortable with, and will steer her in the right direction as far as any possible diagnosis. She hasn't even been diagnosed with endometriosis yet, so some of the tests I mentioned above are probably premature.

And, as for 6 months of trying, that is not abnormal. Many of the girls on here have been trying for a lot longer, and take longer than 6 months for their BFPs. Anything over a year and she should ask about an RE, and if she's over 35, 6 months.
Good luck to your friend!