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mommyin09
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23 month old sleep issues
DD just turned 23 months and bedtime has turned into a nightmare! For the past 2 weeks or so she screams at bedtime and sometimes at naps. SHe is not sick and not teething. When I mentioned it is bedtime she has told me "no I wanna play." We do the same routine every night. I don't know what to do. I have started CIO tonight and we are 45 minutes in and she is standing up leaning on the crib railing sucking her fingers right now. I have tried other nights going in and it seems to make it worse.
Advice, experiences, suggestions?
Is it common at this age? DD used to go to bed no problem, occasionally whine or cry but not like this!
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Posted 7/25/12 10:23 PM  |
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Re: 23 month old sleep issues
DS will be 2 next week and has been out of his crib for two months. He used to LOVE his crib then one day he just flipped out and wanted nothing to do with it anymore.
While moving him into a big boy bed helped stop DS screaming at night, now he needs one of us to lay in bed with him until he falls asleep.
When he says he doesn't want to lay down or he keeps leaving the room we just put a gate in the doorway and lay in his bed. It's annoying but he eventually just gives in within a few minutes and comes to bed.
It is definitely not my ideal situation but it is what works for now. I'm assuming this is all a stage and it won't be happening forever. lol! I think it's just a needy stage they are going through. Good luck. 
ETA - For a while what helped DS go to sleep in his crib was just sitting on the floor in his room with my back to him. Sometimes he just needed to know he wasn't alone and it totally helped.
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| Posted 7/25/12 10:28 PM |
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Re: 23 month old sleep issues
At around 24 months my DD did the same thing, plus started waking up throughout the night. It turned out that she was afraid of the dark (thanks to an episode of Caillou). We put a night light in her room and converted her crib to a full sized bed with awesome princess sheets from pottery barn. She loved it all so much we couldn't get her out of bed and all day long she would ask to take a nap in her big girl bed  she LOVEs her bed so much and loves being a big girl. We kept her nighttime routine the same with the transition to her bed. She tried to get out of the bed 1 time, but I saw her on the monitor, went in and put her back in bed. She hasn't left the bed on her own since then. Maybe try promoting her to a big girl bed, the novelty might break her of the unwanted behaviors associated with sleeping in her crib. We also hyped up how cool it was to have a big kid bed. We pointed out all her her favorite tv show characters who sleep in big kid beds and told she was going to be a big girl soon. She was so happy about the transition. It also led in to the transition to potty training because big girls dont wear diapers!
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| Posted 7/26/12 6:24 AM |
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cheryl28
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Re: 23 month old sleep issues
hmmmm.... DD is giving me a hard time a nap and bedtime too. She's 26 months but it's been going on for a bit. I wonder if it's the crib?
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| Posted 7/26/12 7:32 AM |
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rkl1130
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23 month old sleep issues
DD is 22 months and she started having trouble sleeping a few months ago.
First off - it's incredibly common and expected at this age to do the whole sleep regression thing. Most kids actually have trouble sleeping for several reasons. There is teething. Their imaginations are also on overdrive at this age so it's pretty much constantly going. This age also absorbs and learns and observes at an incredible rate so their brains are working even harder and it's not necessarily "turning off" at night. Some start night terrors. Some also develop fears - the dark, something in their room, etc...
I'd do a little experimenting. See if maybe putting a nightlight helps or having a sound machine or putting her to bed differently. I know with DD, even though she was never afraid of the dark, we had to start turning on a nightlight and it seemed to be the thing that helped the most.
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| Posted 7/26/12 8:45 AM |
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maymama
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Re: 23 month old sleep issues
what time does she go down at night? Maybe push bedtime back by 30 mins?
My son went through something similar at 24 months and we gave him an extra 30 mins of playtime before bed. Tired him out and no more issues.
Also, give warnings. "5 more minutes of playtime then night night"
DS watches Fresh Beat Band at 7 and then at 7:22 when their last song comes on, he knows he has 2 minutes of the show left. He looks at me every night and says "2 minutes mama" and then as soon as the show ends, off to bed!
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| Posted 7/26/12 9:07 AM |
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mommyin09
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Re: 23 month old sleep issues
Posted by rkl1130
Their imaginations are also on overdrive at this age so it's pretty much constantly going. This age also absorbs and learns and observes at an incredible rate so their brains are working even harder and it's not necessarily "turning off" at night.
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I have thought this too. She is like a little sponge right now that I feel her mind has trouble shutting down for bed.
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| Posted 7/26/12 9:34 AM |
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mommyin09
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Re: 23 month old sleep issues
Posted by maymama
what time does she go down at night? Maybe push bedtime back by 30 mins?
My son went through something similar at 24 months and we gave him an extra 30 mins of playtime before bed. Tired him out and no more issues.
Also, give warnings. "5 more minutes of playtime then night night"
DS watches Fresh Beat Band at 7 and then at 7:22 when their last song comes on, he knows he has 2 minutes of the show left. He looks at me every night and says "2 minutes mama" and then as soon as the show ends, off to bed!
I did push bedtime back 30 minutes last night. She napped for a good 2 hours yesterday so I put her to bed at 930 instead of her normal 9 thinking it might help. I have also started giving her a warning for naptime. I tell her "5 more minutes of playing then naptime." At least then she knows it is coming and I think this has helped a little bit. And we do the same routine for bed every night.. pjs, she watches 1 episode of dora, fresh beat or mickey mouse (her choice), brushes her teeth, puts her baby dolls in their bed and then she goes to bed. She goes through the whole routine no problem until it is time for her to go to bed.
I feel like she thinks she is going to miss something by going to bed so I have started to tell her mommy is going to bed too so she doesn't think I'm up doing fun things and she is going to bed.
Thanks for the suggestions. I hope we figure it out soon.
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| Posted 7/26/12 9:48 AM |
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Re: 23 month old sleep issues
Posted by cheryl28
hmmmm.... DD is giving me a hard time a nap and bedtime too. She's 26 months but it's been going on for a bit. I wonder if it's the crib?
I fear switching her from the crib to bed. She hasn't attempted to climb and I feel like in a bed she will come out. If all else fails maybe I will consider it though.
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| Posted 7/26/12 9:51 AM |
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maymama
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Re: 23 month old sleep issues
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Posted by maymama
what time does she go down at night? Maybe push bedtime back by 30 mins?
My son went through something similar at 24 months and we gave him an extra 30 mins of playtime before bed. Tired him out and no more issues.
Also, give warnings. "5 more minutes of playtime then night night"
DS watches Fresh Beat Band at 7 and then at 7:22 when their last song comes on, he knows he has 2 minutes of the show left. He looks at me every night and says "2 minutes mama" and then as soon as the show ends, off to bed!
I did push bedtime back 30 minutes last night. She napped for a good 2 hours yesterday so I put her to bed at 930 instead of her normal 9 thinking it might help. I have also started giving her a warning for naptime. I tell her "5 more minutes of playing then naptime." At least then she knows it is coming and I think this has helped a little bit. And we do the same routine for bed every night.. pjs, she watches 1 episode of dora, fresh beat or mickey mouse (her choice), brushes her teeth, puts her baby dolls in their bed and then she goes to bed. She goes through the whole routine no problem until it is time for her to go to bed.
I feel like she thinks she is going to miss something by going to bed so I have started to tell her mommy is going to bed too so she doesn't think I'm up doing fun things and she is going to bed.
Thanks for the suggestions. I hope we figure it out soon.
what time does she wake in the am? Just my opinion but 9 or 930 is late for a 23month old  Maybe she is overtired at that point?
What time is nap time?
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| Posted 7/26/12 10:21 AM |
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mommyin09
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Re: 23 month old sleep issues
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what time does she go down at night? Maybe push bedtime back by 30 mins?
My son went through something similar at 24 months and we gave him an extra 30 mins of playtime before bed. Tired him out and no more issues.
Also, give warnings. "5 more minutes of playtime then night night"
DS watches Fresh Beat Band at 7 and then at 7:22 when their last song comes on, he knows he has 2 minutes of the show left. He looks at me every night and says "2 minutes mama" and then as soon as the show ends, off to bed!
I did push bedtime back 30 minutes last night. She napped for a good 2 hours yesterday so I put her to bed at 930 instead of her normal 9 thinking it might help. I have also started giving her a warning for naptime. I tell her "5 more minutes of playing then naptime." At least then she knows it is coming and I think this has helped a little bit. And we do the same routine for bed every night.. pjs, she watches 1 episode of dora, fresh beat or mickey mouse (her choice), brushes her teeth, puts her baby dolls in their bed and then she goes to bed. She goes through the whole routine no problem until it is time for her to go to bed.
I feel like she thinks she is going to miss something by going to bed so I have started to tell her mommy is going to bed too so she doesn't think I'm up doing fun things and she is going to bed.
Thanks for the suggestions. I hope we figure it out soon.
what time does she wake in the am? Just my opinion but 9 or 930 is late for a 23month old Maybe she is overtired at that point?
What time is nap time?
She wakes up between 8-9am usually around 830am. This morning she woke up at 8:50 since she fell asleep later last night. She sleeps around 11 hours at night. 9Pm is on the late side of what most toddlers on this board go to sleep but she has been going to bed at 9 since before she was 1 years old. Also when I work I don't get home till around 8pm. She naps around 2pm.
ETA- On days she doesn't nap I do put her to bed earlier closer to 8pm.
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| Posted 7/26/12 10:35 AM |
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cheryl28
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Re: 23 month old sleep issues
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hmmmm.... DD is giving me a hard time a nap and bedtime too. She's 26 months but it's been going on for a bit. I wonder if it's the crib?
I fear switching her from the crib to bed. She hasn't attempted to climb and I feel like in a bed she will come out. If all else fails maybe I will consider it though.
I know I'm the same way. I don't want to but maybe I will try it. Not sure.
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| Posted 7/26/12 11:02 AM |
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