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Blondie805
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Is this bad of me?
My best friend and I have been friends since 4th grade. She and her DH were married first, and bought their house first, before DH and I. Since those major steps in life, I feel that she is always telling me how I should do things since she did them first. She's not mean about it , but kind of "know it all" ish. We are the same age and all, but sometimes, she acts as if she is so much wiser and more experienced then me. So, now yesterday we were talking babies. I thought she and her DH were plan for a baby a year or so after us, but that's not the case. Turns out we are both hoping to have spring '08 babies. DH and I were planning on TTC end of next summer, early fall. She and her DH are thinking of TTC the spring before us. So here's the thing...for ONCE in my life I wanted to be the FIRST one of us, to take one of those major steps in life and AGAIN , looks like she will be first and passing on her "wisdom" to me. Of course I wish them nothing but the best , but I'm kind of bummed that they may beat us to it , AGAIN! Am I terrible or what? Does anyone know what I mean or have a friend/relative in their life like this?
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Posted 11/4/06 11:57 AM  |
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Porrruss
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Re: Is this bad of me?
I don't think it's "bad of you", it's understandable to be a little envious of people. I do think it's a little immature though to base such huge life-altering decisions on "who's first."
Have you ever told her how you feel? Also, I would just assume since she's been married longer, she would likely have had kids sooner (although of course that's not always the case). You should be excited at the prospect of having little ones together!
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| Posted 11/4/06 12:14 PM |
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Blondie805
Life is good :)
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Re: Is this bad of me?
Posted by Porrruss
I don't think it's "bad of you", it's understandable to be a little envious of people. I do think it's a little immature though to base such huge life-altering decisions on "who's first."
Have you ever told her how you feel? Also, I would just assume since she's been married longer, she would likely have had kids sooner (although of course that's not always the case). You should be excited at the prospect of having little ones together!
Yes, I know it's a bit immature, that's why I was venting on it here instead of to my mom or other folks, hehe. I AM excited too that we will have kids together. I wouldn't say anything to her about it, because I feel like it's one of those things that you just can't. She hasn't done anything wrong, she's really only been trying to help I guess. So I should be appreciative. OK, I am inserting foot in mouth now 
Message edited 11/4/2006 12:21:45 PM.
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| Posted 11/4/06 12:21 PM |
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julz33
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Re: Is this bad of me?
Just because she starts trying before you does not guarantee she will get pregnant first... some people get pregnant right away and others it can take along time... so I wouldn't worry just yet.
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| Posted 11/4/06 12:27 PM |
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Mrs
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Re: Is this bad of me?
I agree that its immature BUT very justifyable!!!! you can't help how you feel, and its not like you are basing your decision on when to have kids.. since clearly you decided already, but its just one of those things.
I had a similar situation.. different reason though. I know how you feel.. probably similar to me - feeling a bit upset you don't want to.
The good news is that you will have kids close in age eventually it won't matter who's first. Hey, you can always have the second one first if you really want to
Message edited 11/4/2006 2:14:09 PM.
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| Posted 11/4/06 2:13 PM |
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