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Budjeg11
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Birthday Party - Guest List- Looking for opinions
My daughter is in 1st grade and we have invited all the girls from her class to her birthday party as well as some friends outside her class (all girls). She would really like to invite a few of the boys in her class but not all the boys. Is this ok at this age? or is it still all or none in terms of inviting the class/ or one gender?
ETA: The invites are going out by email not handed out.
ETA: Since you guys were so helpful with my original question, I have a follow up im hoping you can help with =)
Looks like we are having an all girls party except for a couple of boy cousins. We have neighbors who we would like to invite to the party but one of the neighbors happens to be a boy in my daughters class.. (they have a boy and a girl) what to do with that situation? Just invite the girl or invite both even though we are not inviting the other boys from the class?
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kmr6107
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Re: Birthday Party - Guest List- Looking for opinions
The rule in our school if u arent inviting the whole class u have to mail the invites. I think it is totally fine to not invite whole class
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LuckyStar
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Birthday Party - Guest List- Looking for opinions
I am a big proponent of inviting the whole class. Kids that age will talk about the party and I would feel so guilty if I were the reason a child felt left out. I have a friend whose children started in a new school last year and are left out of everything and I see the toll it takes not just on the kids but on my friend as well.
No one on here is going g to agree with me, but personally I would invite all the boys or none of the boys.
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Budjeg11
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Re: Birthday Party - Guest List- Looking for opinions
Posted by kmr6107
The rule in our school if u arent inviting the whole class u have to mail the invites. I think it is totally fine to not invite whole class
Thanks. I hate feeling obligated to invite all the boys if my daughter just wants a couple of them there but I also dont want to hurt feelings. She wanted to invite all but one of the girls in her class and i told her she cant do that! But thinking this scenario is a little different.
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Budjeg11
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Re: Birthday Party - Guest List- Looking for opinions
Posted by LuckyStar
I am a big proponent of inviting the whole class. Kids that age will talk about the party and I would feel so guilty if I were the reason a child felt left out. I have a friend whose children started in a new school last year and are left out of everything and I see the toll it takes not just on the kids but on my friend as well.
No one on here is going g to agree with me, but personally I would invite all the boys or none of the boys.
I don't totally disagree with your opinion- as part of me feels the same way as you! Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
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Aries14
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Birthday Party - Guest List- Looking for opinions
I think if you were just picking a few boy/girl friends - fine. (even though I still personally feel bad picking and choosing at such a young age) BUT if you are inviting ALL girls and then some boys - then you are really leaving out only a handful of kids from the entire class and THAT I think is wrong.
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| Posted 11/20/18 10:37 AM |
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Budjeg11
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Re: Birthday Party - Guest List- Looking for opinions
Posted by Aries14
I think if you were just picking a few boy/girl friends - fine. (even though I still personally feel bad picking and choosing at such a young age) BUT if you are inviting ALL girls and then some boys - then you are really leaving out only a handful of kids from the entire class and THAT I think is wrong.
Good point. Thank you.
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StaceyWill
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Re: Birthday Party - Guest List- Looking for opinions
Posted by LuckyStar
I am a big proponent of inviting the whole class. Kids that age will talk about the party and I would feel so guilty if I were the reason a child felt left out. I have a friend whose children started in a new school last year and are left out of everything and I see the toll it takes not just on the kids but on my friend as well.
No one on here is going g to agree with me, but personally I would invite all the boys or none of the boys.
I agree 100%.
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EricaAlt
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Re: Birthday Party - Guest List- Looking for opinions
Posted by Budjeg11
Posted by Aries14
I think if you were just picking a few boy/girl friends - fine. (even though I still personally feel bad picking and choosing at such a young age) BUT if you are inviting ALL girls and then some boys - then you are really leaving out only a handful of kids from the entire class and THAT I think is wrong.
Good point. Thank you.
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Nothing wrong with what she is thinking, but does leave a few kids out. I say just stick with all girls. Also makes it easier when getting the goody bags.
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lightblue
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Re: Birthday Party - Guest List- Looking for opinions
I would stick with just inviting the girls, if some boys are invited and some are not, then the ones that are not will feel left out.
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| Posted 11/20/18 10:54 AM |
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b2b777
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Birthday Party - Guest List- Looking for opinions
I agree with pp. I would ask myself in this situation what if my child was one of only a few left out and she came home talking about it? How would I feel about that for her? That would answer my question.
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Budjeg11
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Re: Birthday Party - Guest List- Looking for opinions
Posted by b2b777
I agree with pp. I would ask myself in this situation what if my child was one of only a few left out and she came home talking about it? How would I feel about that for her? That would answer my question.
You're right! Thats what i have been thinking. Thank you all for your insight ladies. I will invite all or none of the boys =)
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NervousNell
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Posted by lightblue
I would stick with just inviting the girls, if some boys are invited and some are not, then the ones that are not will feel left out.
I agree.
If it's all girls or all boys that's fine.
But you can't pick and choose certain boys or girls over others IMO
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| Posted 11/20/18 11:28 AM |
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Budjeg11
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Birthday Party - Guest List- Looking for opinions
Twist on my question- We have neighbors who we would like to invite to the party but one of the neighbors happens to be a boy in my daughters class.. (they have a boy and a girl) what to do with that situation? Just invite the girl , invite both?
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NYCGirl80
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Re: Birthday Party - Guest List- Looking for opinions
DS is in Kindergarten and while a few people have invited the whole class, I also know of at least 2 parties he has not been invited to. He has 21 kids in his class, so it's virtually impossible to invite the entire class unless it's movies or bowling.
I think it's totally find to invite who you want to invite.
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CookiePuss
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Re: Birthday Party - Guest List- Looking for opinions
If you are inviting all the girls in the class and just some boys - I would include all the boys in the class.
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MrsO
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Re: Birthday Party - Guest List- Looking for opinions
Posted by Budjeg11
Twist on my question- We have neighbors who we would like to invite to the party but one of the neighbors happens to be a boy in my daughters class.. (they have a boy and a girl) what to do with that situation? Just invite the girl , invite both?
If he is not the only boy at the party (eg friends outside of class) I would invite him. It is only one and not a few from the class
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MrsO
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Re: Birthday Party - Guest List- Looking for opinions
Posted by Budjeg11
Twist on my question- We have neighbors who we would like to invite to the party but one of the neighbors happens to be a boy in my daughters class.. (they have a boy and a girl) what to do with that situation? Just invite the girl , invite both?
If he is not the only boy at the party (eg friends outside of class) I would invite him. It is only one and not a few from the class
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VickiC
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Birthday Party - Guest List- Looking for opinions
In our school, the rule is you have to invite the whole class, or just all boys or just all girls. You can't pick and choose.
Since the other boy has a sister already coming to the party, I think it's ok to invite him.
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Budjeg11
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Re: Birthday Party - Guest List- Looking for opinions
Posted by MrsO
Posted by Budjeg11
Twist on my question- We have neighbors who we would like to invite to the party but one of the neighbors happens to be a boy in my daughters class.. (they have a boy and a girl) what to do with that situation? Just invite the girl , invite both?
If he is not the only boy at the party (eg friends outside of class) I would invite him. It is only one and not a few from the class
Thanks he would be the only boy besides my nephew who will be thee by default.
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Re: Birthday Party - Guest List- Looking for opinions
Posted by StaceyWill
Posted by LuckyStar
I am a big proponent of inviting the whole class. Kids that age will talk about the party and I would feel so guilty if I were the reason a child felt left out. I have a friend whose children started in a new school last year and are left out of everything and I see the toll it takes not just on the kids but on my friend as well.
No one on here is going g to agree with me, but personally I would invite all the boys or none of the boys.
I agree 100%.
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