Outstanding RSVP question

Hi,

Just wanted to see what most people do when it comes to bday party RSVP's. This is the first year we decided to throw my son a bday party at a place (he has special needs and wasn't sure if he would be able to tolerate it , so we just did casual things at home w/ family in years past). When the RSVP date rolls around and you have outstanding responses, do you chase people down for responses or assume they are a no? I was talking to my sister and she told me for her kids parties, anyone who didn't answer she just puts them down as no. RSVP date is early next week, I only heard back from 3 parents so far, so I'm hoping people are just last min responders, but was just curious about what most people do with the outstanding responses. Thanks!

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If i know them and have their cell number, I will text them a few days after the response date and just say- hey, just need to give the place a head count so I was wondering if x was able to make X's party.

Because I have assumed no response has meant no before and been burned with people just showing up who never replied.

So I get a bit OCD about getting an answer one way or the other from everyone

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We've only done one kid party so far but for the ones that didn't RSVP I texted them to follow up. I would say about half that hadn't rsvp'd were a yes. I'd text once to follow up, if you don't hear anything back assume they are a no. You might need to chase people down because it's summer.

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Just went through this with DS's 5th birthday a few weeks ago. Sent 20 invites to his preschool. By the RSVP date (a week before the party) I had heard from 6 people. Unfortunately, he was no longer in the school as he is in camp so I couldn't even stalk people at pick up or anything. I had the # for two people from parties I'd RSVP'd to before so I just texted them. One said sorry, she forgot and the other said she never saw the invitation and they ended up coming.
So, I don't know if other people didn't get it or what, but It was super annoying. One RSVP of yes didn't show and I didn't have any no replies show up. I had tried to see if the school could give me emails or #'s for people when I had them give them out in case I didn't hear, but they didn't have emails and wouldn't give numbers.
Good luck, It was so stressful to me. Why people can't just respond is beyond me.

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I just sent out texts for my DDs party because most people didn't respond. I got responses from oh misplaced invite to never received or meant to text.

Several that hadn't responded are coming so I would definitely reach out via text. I think especially in the summer people aren't as on top of things.

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I hunted them down. 3/4 were a yes.

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I've found most people RSVP on the last day, or the day after - especially for summer parties.
If they don't respond, I text them, because it makes it easier for me to not have people showing up that I didn't know were going to.

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I usually follow up

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If I could, I would follow up and ask. If not, I would just count them as a no.

We have a bday party next month and the mom just reached out on FB and asked if we were coming. I guess I didn't realize the RSVP date was an entire month before the party. She prob thinks I'm a jerk for not rsvping on time. I didn't even look at the rsvp date when we got the invite. I thought it would be the normal 1-2 weeks before.

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I reach out right away... I need to know and it’s rude to not get a response.

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Count them as a no. And if they’re rude enough to show up anyway, I’d send them on their way. I’m sorry but that’s OBNOXIOUS... why should you have to hunt them down?
“Oh sorry... when you didn’t rsvp, I assumed you were unable to make it. We’ve only prepared and paid for X amount of kids. Maybe next time”
Harsh perhaps but I’m so over people. I am so glad my kids are older and don’t have parties anymore.

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Outstanding RSVP question

If I have their contact info, then I reach out to find out if they’re coming. I’ve had people ravp 2 days before a party. Of course I didn’t turn them away, but it’s annoying.

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If I can follow up with them I do. Its very annoying. Esp. Since I write RSVP yes or no. I have gotten yes the night before!

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I usually use evite or punchbowl for invitations for kids parties so I just send a reminder email through them after the rsvp date (and right before also). I have also texted those that I felt close enough to contact or had their number handy.

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Posted by itsagoodlife

Count them as a no. And if they’re rude enough to show up anyway, I’d send them on their way. I’m sorry but that’s OBNOXIOUS... why should you have to hunt them down?
“Oh sorry... when you didn’t rsvp, I assumed you were unable to make it. We’ve only prepared and paid for X amount of kids. Maybe next time”
Harsh perhaps but I’m so over people. I am so glad my kids are older and don’t have parties anymore.

I would feel sooo bad doing that to the kid though
It's not their fault their Mom can't be bothered or forgot to RSVP.

TBH I have certain family members that never RSVP and they are almost always late. So I guess I'm just use to it and I accommodate them. I'm the type that is always prepared for extra guests. I always have extra favors etc. We've always have the attitude of "the more the merrier". So as much as I hate late rsvps or someone showing up after not rsvping... I would never turn them away. I try to have an accurate head count, but I always make sure the venue can fit a few extras just in case.

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We had a few last minute rsvps for my Dds party and a couple responded a day or 2 late as well. I think a lot of people wait til the RSVP date to respond, and some forget bc they bc stuck the invitation somewhere out of sight. I think it's fine to send a text on or after the RSVP date.