Discipline at Daycare

Recently, my DS has been having bad days at Daycare. It usually happens every 7-10 days. He tends to be too aggressive with the younger kids in his room. He is the oldest in his room (3 years, 10 months) - the younger kids are 2 years, 10 months. He plays well with the kids that are around his age.

Yesterday he had a “bad” day so I didn’t let him watch TV. This usually corrects his behavior. Today, he woke up and said that today was going to be a good day. Well, I pick him up and not so much. I guess he was pushing people and wouldn’t listen to the teachers. He was better after lunch.

So, if your DC had bad days at Daycare, how did Daycare/you handle it? The teachers think he is acting out because he is “bored” in this room and is ready for to move to the next room. They are planning on moving him over in March so we need to implement something that will keep him on track for the next few weeks. I literally dread pick up because I do not want a bad report.

The teacher wrote me a note and suggested a sticker chart to improve his Behavior. I’m open to anything!!!

Discipline at Daycare

He is definitely in the wrong room. There is a world of difference between a 3 year old and a 2 year old or a 4 and 3 year old. Why can't they move him now instead of waiting until March? I would work with the teacher and at home to do a sticker chart. If he get a sticker each day for the wk he can get a small prize etc... They all have bad days. I know a bad report sucksss ( I have been there) but finding the trigger - tired, hungry, in the wrong age grp, bored, etc will hopefully lessen the bad days.

Message edited 2/9/2018 7:40:38 PM.

Discipline at Daycare

Right now, he is in the 3 year old room. They usually move kids up 1-2 months before their birthday (aka need to make room in the infant and/or toddler room) so that’s why kids on the cusp of 3 are in there. My DS is also in the 90th percentile for height and weight, while the younger boys are all so petitie so he is towering over them.

He doesn’t exhibit most of the behaviors at home so it is hard for me to do much at home. I was wondering how to set up the sticker chart for Daycare. I think small time frames might be good so he can have immediate feedback. I’m going to speak with the teacher on Monday. Part of my issue is The teacher is not there at pick up - she leaves before 3 and we all know drop off is crazy. I drop off right when they open as do several other parents.

Message edited 2/9/2018 8:25:00 PM.

Discipline at Daycare

I think they need to figure it out and move him asap. That is a gigantic age difference. Of course he's acting out, he's bored out of his mind. Can the teacher give him different things to work on/play with? Something to keep him focused and less bored?

We're having the boredom issue with DD. Her teacher says she's mostly well behaved but is clearly bored and it can be tough to keep her engaged. She (the teacher) is trying to give her different things to do- she has different puzzles and books. She also has a separate set of flash cards for her because they were having issues with her answering questions for the other kids and not giving them a chance.

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For my daughter I photocopied a calendar and asked the teacher to put a smile face on each day that was a good day and at the end of the week she would get a prize. You can set up prizes based on how many good days like 1 good day maybe limited TV 2 smiles a trip to carvel etc...

you can pick the prizes based on what is more special to him.

Usually when moving a child to a different class they transition them maybe see if they can put him in the class for an hour here and there to see if it changes his behavior.

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I don't see why they can't move him earlier.

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I would have them move him now and see if that changes things bc he is probably bored being a year older than the rest of the kids.

imo (and what my daycare had told me last year when I was having trouble with ds) is that punishing/rewarding him at home is not necessarily the right thing bc by the time he gets home the bad (or good) action is forgotten. He needs more immediate disciple - perhaps a "thinking" chair at school. Or having a system in place at school (ours uses a red/yellow/green light system - they start out at green every morning and if they misbhave them get moved to yellow for a warning and then to red for really bad behavior which means 2 mins in the thinking chair)
But i would use this as a last resort and push to have him moved sooner

ETA - is that even legally correct to have him in that group? Last week my daycare had a teacher out and they told me legally they could not combine the 3yo class with the younger class (which for us is 18mo - 3). They had to bump the 3yo group into the 4yo group for the day.

Message edited 2/12/2018 11:13:19 AM.

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