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RainyDay
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Daycare - Would you say something?
Dd is 9 months old and in daycare all week. There is another girl who is a little over 1 that I have caught a few times hurting DD or another child in class.
First time DD was just a few months old and the girl crawled over and poked her in the eye. I figured she didnt know better. I told her no and she crawled away. In the past month i have seen her multiple times either poking another kid or pulling hair. Last week she slapped DD in front of the teacher.
Today it was just her and DD. I was standing there talking to the teacher and I see the girl push DD hard enough where she fell over and started to cry. I didnt make a big deal out of it but I mentioned it to the teacher.
Im not sure if this is just normal behavior for a 1 year old. Should I speak up? I get kids are rough but I dont see any of the other kids in her class acting like this way. I dont want to be one of those parents that complains about everything.
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Posted 8/10/17 8:22 PM  |
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LuckyStar
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Daycare - Would you say something?
We had a girl like this in DD's old class. She was known to be very aggressive and I know the teachers had mentioned it to the girl's parents but really what were they supposed to do? She was about 15/16 months old and didn't know any better. Same stuff as the kid in your DD's class- poking, pushing. We used to joke around and call her Regina George. She eventually left and another kid- this time a little boy became the aggressive one and DH caught him pushing DD over once and got mad but again, what is anyone supposed to do?
Point is, ALL kids that age will push or poke or throw something at another child at one time or another. They're babies. They don't know any better. And can you really discipline a child that age?
If they're doing this at 4 or 5, yes I would absolutely cause a fuss. But a year old? That's just a 1 year old being a 1 year old.
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| Posted 8/10/17 8:54 PM |
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RainyDay
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Re: Daycare - Would you say something?
Posted by LuckyStar
We had a girl like this in DD's old class. She was known to be very aggressive and I know the teachers had mentioned it to the girl's parents but really what were they supposed to do? She was about 15/16 months old and didn't know any better. Same stuff as the kid in your DD's class- poking, pushing. We used to joke around and call her Regina George. She eventually left and another kid- this time a little boy became the aggressive one and DH caught him pushing DD over once and got mad but again, what is anyone supposed to do?
Point is, ALL kids that age will push or poke or throw something at another child at one time or another. They're babies. They don't know any better. And can you really discipline a child that age?
If they're doing this at 4 or 5, yes I would absolutely cause a fuss. But a year old? That's just a 1 year old being a 1 year old.
Thank you! My initial reaction was to just leave it alone.
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| Posted 8/10/17 9:01 PM |
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olive98
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Daycare - Would you say something?
At that age they are babies and it's normal. Nothing you can really do. If she was 3 then I would say something
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evrythng4areason
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Daycare - Would you say something?
What could they even do? They're babies. I mean, I guess they could
Individually quarantine each one to keep them all safe?
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| Posted 8/11/17 7:01 AM |
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alli3131
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Daycare - Would you say something?
They are babies and unless my child or another was injured I wouldn't say anything. My DS spent 5.5 years in daycare and has had bites, bumps bruises. It happens. They are kids and will get knocked down and bumped and poked.
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| Posted 8/11/17 8:46 AM |
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blu6385
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Re: Daycare - Would you say something?
Babies are babies but at one you can redirect and tell them its not nice etc. Did the teacher do anything to address or just completely ignore it?
If she made an attempt to address it then I wouldn't make a fuss about it cause kids are kids they will get bit pushed etc and your kid could be receiving it one day or doing to someone else one day.
If she ignored it I would simply say I get my kid is going to get hurt but i feel the teacher is not paying attention and just ignoring the behavior.
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| Posted 8/11/17 9:22 AM |
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dianadrw
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Re: Daycare - Would you say something?
Posted by blu6385
Babies are babies but at one you can redirect and tell them its not nice etc. Did the teacher do anything to address or just completely ignore it?
If she made an attempt to address it then I wouldn't make a fuss about it cause kids are kids they will get bit pushed etc and your kid could be receiving it one day or doing to someone else one day.
If she ignored it I would simply say I get my kid is going to get hurt but i feel the teacher is not paying attention and just ignoring the behavior.
This.
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| Posted 8/11/17 9:49 AM |
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MrsM84
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Re: Daycare - Would you say something?
Posted by alli3131
They are babies and unless my child or another was injured I wouldn't say anything. My DS spent 5.5 years in daycare and has had bites, bumps bruises. It happens. They are kids and will get knocked down and bumped and poked.
I would agree with this but my opinion changes a bit when it comes to repeated events of biting. DD is 2 and has been in daycare since she was 12 weeks. In one of her classrooms, there was a boy who was a biter. I'm not talking a "once in a blue moon, on rare occasions" biter - he bit DD about 6x, all unprovoked according to the accident reports I signed, 1 of which broke the skin. I was very friendly with many of the parents in that room and know that their children were also bit multiple times by the same child. When possible, the daycare would put an extra assistant in the room to shadow that child, but the biting still took place because it only takes a second for it to happen and its unrealistic to think that someone can watch someone without blinking or turning away at some point. After repeated interventions and communication with the parents (of all the children involved), the child was asked to leave the daycare and find alternate arrangements because he was deemed too high of a risk to the safety of the other children.
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| Posted 8/11/17 2:19 PM |
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alli3131
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Re: Daycare - Would you say something?
Posted by MrsM84
Posted by alli3131
They are babies and unless my child or another was injured I wouldn't say anything. My DS spent 5.5 years in daycare and has had bites, bumps bruises. It happens. They are kids and will get knocked down and bumped and poked.
I would agree with this but my opinion changes a bit when it comes to repeated events of biting. DD is 2 and has been in daycare since she was 12 weeks. In one of her classrooms, there was a boy who was a biter. I'm not talking a "once in a blue moon, on rare occasions" biter - he bit DD about 6x, all unprovoked according to the accident reports I signed, 1 of which broke the skin. I was very friendly with many of the parents in that room and know that their children were also bit multiple times by the same child. When possible, the daycare would put an extra assistant in the room to shadow that child, but the biting still took place because it only takes a second for it to happen and its unrealistic to think that someone can watch someone without blinking or turning away at some point. After repeated interventions and communication with the parents (of all the children involved), the child was asked to leave the daycare and find alternate arrangements because he was deemed too high of a risk to the safety of the other children.
I agree with repeated biting. I always asked when he got bit if it was the same kid as before...they can never tell names but that can at least tell you if its a repeat offender.
At the age the OP is speaking about the kids are young so the actions of the daycare would be completely different.
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| Posted 8/11/17 2:44 PM |
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CookiePuss
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Re: Daycare - Would you say something?
Posted by MrsM84
I would agree with this but my opinion changes a bit when it comes to repeated events of biting. DD is 2 and has been in daycare since she was 12 weeks. In one of her classrooms, there was a boy who was a biter. I'm not talking a "once in a blue moon, on rare occasions" biter - he bit DD about 6x, all unprovoked according to the accident reports I signed, 1 of which broke the skin. I was very friendly with many of the parents in that room and know that their children were also bit multiple times by the same child. When possible, the daycare would put an extra assistant in the room to shadow that child, but the biting still took place because it only takes a second for it to happen and its unrealistic to think that someone can watch someone without blinking or turning away at some point. After repeated interventions and communication with the parents (of all the children involved), the child was asked to leave the daycare and find alternate arrangements because he was deemed too high of a risk to the safety of the other children.
I agree with this. If there is a child that is continuing to repeat behavior like poking an eye, biting, etc. the daycare should be trying to provide safeguards for the other children.
While biting and hitting and poking are all age appropriate behaviors, continued and systematic aggressive behaviors are not. I went through this with DS. There was a boy who continually sought out my son to bite or hit him. After the 3rd time of broken skin via scratching; I don't the daycare that they had to do something or I needed to find alternative care as I can't tolerate those behaviors and actions.
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| Posted 8/11/17 3:30 PM |
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