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You know what I think is even tackier? The fact that the friend who texted mentioned who paid.

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The update kinda of confused me. Why isn't someone else asking for the money. Did the host ask for it first.

Also she added a DJ?!??? Wth I assume this is why all of sudden she is asking for money. If she wanted to do that she should have sent a text out saying hey what does everyone think of chipping in for a DJ and then see who would have said yes great idea or no I think it's too much.

I may be annoyed enough to not respond back where not going to be able to make it sorry

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I think bringing the Vodka is enough.

If she is such a close friend why not just ask why she is requesting $40 this yr

Message edited 6/23/2017 8:42:52 PM.

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Meh. I'd just be out. I'd take my 40 bucks and not go to her party. That's just me,

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I wouldn't go. If she asked for 40 originally I would have paid. No way would I bring $100 vodka drink and pay $40. The dj sounds unnecessary so if the $40 is going towards that I would be annoyed.

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It is sounding more to me like this is a party for a group of people with one person offering to host it. If I'm reading that correctly, I think everyone should contribute.

I don't necessarily think that the request for money was executed in the best way, but also, I wonder if the host feels like guests (in general, not necessarily you, OP, I know you said you're bringing the vodka drink) haven't contributed enough in the past to a communal party.

The hiring of a DJ does throw me off a bit though. Was that a move that the larger group suggested or something that she did on her own?

Message edited 6/24/2017 10:22:54 AM.

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Posted by Hofstra26

I wouldn't mind contributing IF it was decided before the get together was officially planned that ALL families would be chipping in.

If she decided to throw a party on her own without it being agreed upon that the cost would be split, then she is 100% responsible for the costs incurred to host a big party. Also, you do NOT ask only SOME of the families to contribute while others do not have to. That's tacky.

I think $100 in vodka is more than enough of a contribution!

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Did you discuss with the host that you would bring infused vodka or did you decide on your own and bringing as a surprise? If host was/is aware than it is nervy of her to ask for an additional contribution.

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Message edited 6/26/2017 10:15:51 AM.

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Posted by oldtimerocknroll

It is sounding more to me like this is a party for a group of people with one person offering to host it. If I'm reading that correctly, I think everyone should contribute.

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Is this a party for whole families to attend? Siblings and parents?

I'd be more inclined if it was my whole family to give $40.00 then and not make a big deal with a good friend (even though I'll totally gossip about you to my husband and the tacky move lol)

For my kid to attend for $40.00 to your backyard when we could've rented a place out for cheaper per head at a party place then that...nahh I don't think so.

Sounds like your friend wanted to keep up with the Joneses throwing some big end of the year party complete with infused VODKA at a children's party and got in over her head and now needs a bail out with everyone elses money.

If she wanted you guys to pay for the party then the party should of been planned by all of you and agreed upon earlier on.

Also tacky to have someone be her "muscle" calling and hunting down for money

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Ugh, my street is trying to plan a block party with a similar situation. Only certain houses are contributing, yet all the others will sit out at their tables and enjoy the DJ that I paid for. It makes me so annoyed.

I would contribute to the party, but I would air my annoyance that not everyone is contributing.

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On another note- can you share the infused vodka recipe???

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Did you end up paying? How was the party?

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Posted by Laura1976

Posted by blu6385

Did you end up paying? How was the party?

Yes, we went and had a good time.
Within minutes of arriving, I was asked for my money by one of my friends (not the host) because the pizza man was there and had to be paid.
When she asked me I was talking to another mom and she turned to her and asked her for her money. The other mom had not been on the text and had no idea what she was talking about! AWKWARD!!!

I ended up not saying anything to my friend the host. In the days leading up to the party, I was away and just didn't have a free minute to do anything.

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Posted by Laura1976

Posted by blu6385

Did you end up paying? How was the party?

Yes, we went and had a good time.
Within minutes of arriving, I was asked for my money by one of my friends (not the host) because the pizza man was there and had to be paid.
When she asked me I was talking to another mom and she turned to her and asked her for her money. The other mom had not been on the text and had no idea what she was talking about! AWKWARD!!!

I ended up not saying anything to my friend the host. In the days leading up to the party, I was away and just didn't have a free minute to do anything.

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Posted by MC09

Posted by Laura1976

Posted by blu6385

Did you end up paying? How was the party?

Yes, we went and had a good time.
Within minutes of arriving, I was asked for my money by one of my friends (not the host) because the pizza man was there and had to be paid.
When she asked me I was talking to another mom and she turned to her and asked her for her money. The other mom had not been on the text and had no idea what she was talking about! AWKWARD!!!

I ended up not saying anything to my friend the host. In the days leading up to the party, I was away and just didn't have a free minute to do anything.

Wait, so were the guests who weren't on the text asked for the money directly at the party with no heads up?! That is super awkward. And why are so many other people asking for the money instead of the hosts themselves? Her bff that texted you, now this lady.... Nell is right, total clusterfuk. Next year I hope she's better organized.

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Next year I wouldn't even go...lol....

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Edit realized its $600. 15 each times 40. Still seems high. Asks people to bring a dish. Would be cheaper then ordering all that food

Message edited 7/6/2017 11:13:46 AM.

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Posted by Hofstra26

I wouldn't mind contributing IF it was decided before the get together was officially planned that ALL families would be chipping in.

If she decided to throw a party on her own without it being agreed upon that the cost would be split, then she is 100% responsible for the costs incurred to host a big party. Also, you do NOT ask only SOME of the families to contribute while others do not have to. That's tacky.

I think $100 in vodka is more than enough of a contribution!