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MrsT809
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Is there any nice way to bring up gifts you don't want?
Too late now for Christmas but is there even a way to do this? For example, my daughter is not into barbie. MIL has gotten her many over the last year or two and they go unused or I put them away to donate. Some are in outfits I really don't like for young girls. Now she's getting her the mc2 dolls that come with science activities. The first one she got was dressed in strappy platform shoes and thigh high fishnets.  I can already tell she'll be getting another for Christmas. There are tons of science kits out out there that don't come with risqué dolls and dd would love them. Is there a way that's not rude to hint at skipping these kinds of gifts?
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BargainMama
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Is there any nice way to bring up gifts you don't want?
I actually like the Mc2 dolls...I haven't seen any wearing thigh high fishnets though!
I would just say when they ask that she doesn't really play with barbie type dolls, so maybe get xyz instead.
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| Posted 12/22/16 9:45 AM |
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MrsT809
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Re: Is there any nice way to bring up gifts you don't want?
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I actually like the Mc2 dolls...I haven't seen any wearing thigh high fishnets though!
I would just say when they ask that she doesn't really play with barbie type dolls, so maybe get xyz instead.
Okay so I looked again and they're not fishnets. But it's nude though high stockings with black hearts and trim. Just not necessary for a 4yo imo.
I do set up an amazon list which she picks some things from but understandably she wants to pick some things on her own too. I've mentioned that she loves her anna and Elsa dolls bc they're fully posable and that's ruined barbie for her but it didn't seem to sink in.
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| Posted 12/22/16 10:44 AM |
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MrsT809
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Is there any nice way to bring up gifts you don't want?
Btw have you watched the show? We haven't, just wondering how it is.
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| Posted 12/22/16 10:45 AM |
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BargainMama
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Re: Is there any nice way to bring up gifts you don't want?
Posted by MrsT809
Btw have you watched the show? We haven't, just wondering how it is.
The series is great, my DD loved it. Not sure about a 4 year old though to be honest!
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| Posted 12/22/16 12:31 PM |
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Re: Is there any nice way to bring up gifts you don't want?
I make an Amazon wishlist for my DDs and tell people who historically buy inappropriate things for them to shop that way. If they choose to do their own thing then that's up to them. I don't feel as bad if it doesn't get used.
Last year my MIL bought DD a kitchen that was broken. It was missing pieces and had some sharp areas. I kept it for a few months waiting for it to be fixed. Then I dumped it.
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| Posted 12/22/16 2:05 PM |
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Katareen
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Is there any nice way to bring up gifts you don't want?
I let people buy what they want...if it doesn't interest my kids or if I find it inappropriate then I just donate it. My kids have more than enough toys, so for me it's a win-win.
You could also remove the tights or shoes if you find them inappropriate. Then she could still play with the doll!
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| Posted 12/22/16 3:31 PM |
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jamnmore
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Is there any nice way to bring up gifts you don't want?
I just bring it up in general conversation. There are certain toys that I do not want DS to have and have made that pretty clear. but in a nice positive way. Has not become an issue. People will generally try to oblige.
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| Posted 12/22/16 4:14 PM |
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LSP2005
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Re: Is there any nice way to bring up gifts you don't want?
I would bring it up three or more months before a birthday. I will say the project mc2 show on Netflix is outstanding. My kids love it. It really is an amazing female empowerment, science based show. I would not write it off so quickly. I am giving my own dd a doll and one of the science kits for fingerprinting from that show.
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| Posted 12/22/16 5:55 PM |
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Re: Is there any nice way to bring up gifts you don't want?
WISH LISTS!!!!
BEST thing ever invented!!! It helps out everyone out with their shopping because they have some idea of what my kids are into AND I'm not stuck with a million duplicates and toys my kids won't have an interest in. I've been using the Wish List for years and years and I love it as does my family...............they said it makes their lives much easier because they aren't shopping "blind" and wasting money on something they won't like.
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| Posted 12/23/16 8:32 AM |
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Re: Is there any nice way to bring up gifts you don't want?
Posted by LSP2005
I would bring it up three or more months before a birthday. I will say the project mc2 show on Netflix is outstanding. My kids love it. It really is an amazing female empowerment, science based show. I would not write it off so quickly. I am giving my own dd a doll and one of the science kits for fingerprinting from that show.
I can't wait to tell my DD about this show. I got her some of the experiment kits for Xmas, I had no idea a show went along with them until I was reading the box. She's going to LOVE this!
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Re: Is there any nice way to bring up gifts you don't want?
Posted by Hofstra26
WISH LISTS!!!!
BEST thing ever invented!!! It helps out everyone out with their shopping because they have some idea of what my kids are into AND I'm not stuck with a million duplicates and toys my kids won't have an interest in. I've been using the Wish List for years and years and I love it as does my family...............they said it makes their lives much easier because they aren't shopping "blind" and wasting money on something they won't like.
This would be great is if people in my family followed them. My dad said he does not think a 2 or 3 year old needs a list and just buys what he thinks they will like.
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| Posted 12/23/16 11:14 AM |
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BargainMama
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Re: Is there any nice way to bring up gifts you don't want?
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Posted by LSP2005
I would bring it up three or more months before a birthday. I will say the project mc2 show on Netflix is outstanding. My kids love it. It really is an amazing female empowerment, science based show. I would not write it off so quickly. I am giving my own dd a doll and one of the science kits for fingerprinting from that show.
I can't wait to tell my DD about this show. I got her some of the experiment kits for Xmas, I had no idea a show went along with them until I was reading the box. She's going to LOVE this!
There is also an app with spy stuff...we don't have Apple products, so it doesn't work for us, bummer!
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MrsDrMatt
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Re: Is there any nice way to bring up gifts you don't want?
unfortunately there is no nice way without sounding controlling or ungrateful (I am not saying you are either).
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| Posted 12/23/16 11:30 AM |
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Re: Is there any nice way to bring up gifts you don't want?
In laws will be in-laws!
Could be worse... trust me!
But I have to say... even my own mom gave the kids the toysrus catalog and asked what they like. I hate advertising guiding purchasing (she had very different rules for us as kids) and thank goodness my kids don't know what a hatchimal is.
The Barbie and mc dolls will be played with eventually. I had a kindergarten teacher ask me for an mc doll for her kid (and she's super conservative). The doll is beyond princess stage & I get what you are saying about it being racy... but even my little pony is heading there. I have a box for barbies and my DD takes them out when she wants. She loves the trucks and accessories! Even superheroes and horses go in there!
Does she come over your home? Too late for Christmas, but I'd take her to the play room and emphasize what she plays with. My DD (going on 5) is getting into Calico critters.
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LSP2005
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Re: Is there any nice way to bring up gifts you don't want?
Posted by MrsDrMatt
unfortunately there is no nice way without sounding controlling or ungrateful (I am not saying you are either).
I think if you say oh, Johnny loves playing with Thomas the tank engine. He cannot get enough of those toys. Or I know how much Johnny love thomas the tank engine so we are going on the train ride. By naturally bringing up something the child likes a couple of times well before a birthday or holiday that is vastly different from saying get Johnny a Thomas toy.
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