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PearlJamChick
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Re: Do these type of Parties irk you?
The party itself wouldn't bother me; the fact that those two key points weren't made when the invite was extended would.
I never mind bringing food. I wouldn't mind bringing a gift for a swap. I would mind not being told about that until I RSVP...time is tight around the holidays, man!
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CSK
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Do these type of Parties irk you?
I'm surprised so many people are irked about this.
The gift thing is an annoying tradition people do at some holiday parties, but I think its perfectly acceptable to show up the day of without one and say, hey sorry forgot soo much going on this season, or hey, I'm not going to participate in that, but I'll be there.
The app thing, I think people are blowing out of proportion. We host things a few times of year with friends. I didn't realize I was offending everyone by asking some people to bring apps so I don't get a dozen cookie plates or bottles of wine. People like to bring things to a party either for the host or for the party, this just puts some organization to it.
As a host, I'd be perfectly happy if my friend who I asked for X, told me, hey I'm slammed with hosting the day before or whatever, can I just bring a bottle?
I'm pretty sure your friend was asking, not ordering you to do XYZ
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| Posted 12/19/16 9:37 AM |
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NervousNell
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Re: Do these type of Parties irk you?
Posted by CSK
I'm surprised so many people are irked about this.
The gift thing is an annoying tradition people do at some holiday parties, but I think its perfectly acceptable to show up the day of without one and say, hey sorry forgot soo much going on this season, or hey, I'm not going to participate in that, but I'll be there.
The app thing, I think people are blowing out of proportion. We host things a few times of year with friends. I didn't realize I was offending everyone by asking some people to bring apps so I don't get a dozen cookie plates or bottles of wine. People like to bring things to a party either for the host or for the party, this just puts some organization to it.
As a host, I'd be perfectly happy if my friend who I asked for X, told me, hey I'm slammed with hosting the day before or whatever, can I just bring a bottle?
I'm pretty sure your friend was asking, not ordering you to do XYZ
I get what you are saying, but I think what irked the OP and the others on the thread who agreed, was the fact that she was kind of "ordered" to do it.
Like if she had asked- Hey what can I bring? And the host said- can you please bring an app, i have enough desserts? I feel like I'd be better with it.
But all she did was RSVP and she gets slammed with- come at this time and bring an appetizer. Oh and bring a gift too.
I feel like it was in poor taste.
When people RSVP to my parties all I say is- great, so glad you can come! I never say- and this is what you are assigned to bring.
They always ask though- and it's at that point that I am honest about what I need.
It's just a matter of how it was gone about IMO
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PennyCat
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Re: Do these type of Parties irk you?
If it were me, I'd bring one of those prepared fruit bowls or veggie plates.. or a cheese plate.. from the supermarket. If you invite me to a party like that under those conditions and you KNOW ME, you also know I'm not cooking.
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| Posted 12/19/16 10:00 AM |
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MrsQ0520
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Re: Do these type of Parties irk you?
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by CSK
I'm surprised so many people are irked about this.
The gift thing is an annoying tradition people do at some holiday parties, but I think its perfectly acceptable to show up the day of without one and say, hey sorry forgot soo much going on this season, or hey, I'm not going to participate in that, but I'll be there.
The app thing, I think people are blowing out of proportion. We host things a few times of year with friends. I didn't realize I was offending everyone by asking some people to bring apps so I don't get a dozen cookie plates or bottles of wine. People like to bring things to a party either for the host or for the party, this just puts some organization to it.
As a host, I'd be perfectly happy if my friend who I asked for X, told me, hey I'm slammed with hosting the day before or whatever, can I just bring a bottle?
I'm pretty sure your friend was asking, not ordering you to do XYZ
I get what you are saying, but I think what irked the OP and the others on the thread who agreed, was the fact that she was kind of "ordered" to do it.
Like if she had asked- Hey what can I bring? And the host said- can you please bring an app, i have enough desserts? I feel like I'd be better with it.
But all she did was RSVP and she gets slammed with- come at this time and bring an appetizer. Oh and bring a gift too.
I feel like it was in poor taste.
When people RSVP to my parties all I say is- great, so glad you can come! I never say- and this is what you are assigned to bring.
They always ask though- and it's at that point that I am honest about what I need.
It's just a matter of how it was gone about IMO
This. and also if the gift swap was stated on the invite i wouldn't mind either. its kind of short notice when you RSVP that you need to get a gift then too... I never show up empty handed and always ask the host what I can bring.
I think like Nell said - It was how it was handled by the host that would get to me i feel.
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| Posted 12/19/16 10:02 AM |
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bunnyluck
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Do these type of Parties irk you?
I think the swap and potluck should've been stated on the invite. But in any case it wouldn't bother me because I pretty much learned to just go with the flow and try not to get irked about minor stuff. You can always back out if you're finding this stressful or dont think youll enjoy it. ...Otherwise just pick up something already made or even chips and dip. A $25 gift card to wherever and call it a day.
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| Posted 12/19/16 10:04 AM |
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DiamondGirl
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Do these type of Parties irk you?
I would keep it simple, GC and buy an app that's already made, I agree that I do not need more work this time of year but I also thing it is very easy to do this without making it a chosre
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| Posted 12/19/16 10:05 AM |
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eroxgirl
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Re: Do these type of Parties irk you?
Posted by gina409
To each their own
Every holiday party I've ever been too,probably 9 out of 10 had a grab bag,Chinese auction,gift card swap. Something
I agree with this, although I would say there's a solid 50/50 chance a Christmas party is going to come with a gift swap of some sort rather than 9 out of 10 
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| Posted 12/19/16 10:28 AM |
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Re: Do these type of Parties irk you?
No, that type of party doesn't bother me, and I always bring a drink and an app or dessert anyway.
However, I do think these expectations should have been laid out upon the initial invitation. The "Oh! By the way, bring a present!" after the initial invitation would rub me the wrong way a little...UNLESS she decided after the fact to make it this type of party.
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| Posted 12/19/16 1:04 PM |
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MrsD121011
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Do these type of Parties irk you?
I agree the invite should have made it clear about what to bring, but that being said I enjoy these parties. Yummy snacks, a fun game and some socialization that doesn't involve Peppa Pig snorting or Paw Patrol yelping, I'm in!!
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