Is it really possible to be a rehabbed yeller?

I'm a yeller and I don't want to be. It's not all that effective and only makes all of us feel bad. I know why I shouldn't do it; I know what I should do instead of yelling. But in the heat of the moment, I don't think of any of that. I just react. I see a lot of posts about not yelling anymore/trying to yell less. Has it really worked for anyone? I'm really curious.

Is it really possible to be a rehabbed yeller?

this is me word for word. I was never a yeller UNTIL I became a mom. Now I yell constantly..it's my first reaction. I don't want to yell but I can't help it. So I hear you. I really need to learn to calm down but it's soo hard!

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Definitely possible. I think changing behavior is a lot, lot, lot of hard work though. I was never a yeller, until I had DD. And I HATE it. I hate the way I feel, I hate the way her face looks, I hate when she tells me - "mommy, I don't like your voice like that", etc. SO, lately when I really want to yell, I literally have to either leave the room, or bite my lip, or turn my head to distract myself, or even cover my mouth (as silly as that sounds).
It's really tough because us moms get frustrated. It's a hard freaking job.

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Is it really possible to be a rehabbed yeller?

I wish I could be one of those moms that don't yell! DH tells me all the time I need to stop. I feel so bad afterwards also.

Is it really possible to be a rehabbed yeller?

I wouldn't be a yeller if DS would just listen to the first 5 times I said something. :p

I hate yelling too - never yelled until I had DS, but seriously I'm so freakin annoyed that he won't listen to anything. I'm actually jealous when people say bath time is their favorite time with their child bc getting him out and settled to get ready for bed would be my eternal Hell.

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Look into the rubber band trick. A friend said it worked for her


I'm Sicilian. I yell naturally.

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Posted by gina409

I'm Sicilian. I yell naturally.

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I don't get this whole 'don't yell @ your kids' thing ........

Do I feel good about yelling? No
Do my kids look hurt and upset when I yell? Yes ........

Do I calmly, and politely ask or tell them same thing literally 5 TIMES BEFORE I yell? Yes ......
I turn off TV
I take away iPads
I remove all distractions (although I STILL find this ridiculous and don't think I should have to coddle them and put THAT much effort into getting another human being to respond to me)
REAL Life is not going to be that way - OTHER people outside of 'Mommy' aren't going to coddle them that way -

So, no guilt when I get to the point of yelling ........

"Sean, please put your shoes on" .....
"Sean, put your shoes on please we have to go" ....
"Sean, buddy, go get your shoes and put them on now"
"Sean, please put on your shoes we're going to be late"
"Sean, you don't have your shoes on, please, get it done"

....

"SEAN!! PUT YOUR SHOES ON NOW! COME ON !!! ???"

I'm not a doormat.
You're a person, yes. But you're a child, not the freaking king. You are not 'better' than me, or anyone else in this house. Your time, what you want to do and when etc. does not take precedence over the rest of the family -

You have responsibilities the same way we all do.

Asking you to put your shoes on or clean up your toys or brush your teeth or make your bed isn't going to land you in therapy.
So, listen to me one of the first 5 TIMES, and we're all good.

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I actually LOVE this. I don't want to yell as quickly as I do, but I also don't want to coddle DS. School thinks he might have some attention issues, so theres that too. But the shoe thing here- my EVERY morning! The only difference is my DS almost never looks hurt or upset, he just calmy talks back to me while I yell, and its just like hes in la la land. So I yell, and he just walks around instead of listening

Is it really possible to be a rehabbed yeller?

I yell after I have to ask 5x. My dd is very stubborn and listening is something she chooses not to do.

Is it really possible to be a rehabbed yeller?

Professional Yeller right here. Rehab= many trips to the supermarket or CVS sans-children

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Lol! I yell too. I don't think it's the worst thing.

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Yes, everyday I start out as a rehabbed yeller. But then DD gets up!

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Is it really possible to be a rehabbed yeller?

I yell. And I hate myself for it. my mom was a yeller and I swore I wouldn't do that to my kids. but It looks like i'm just like my mom :(
I try to stop myself. I walk out of the room, I take deep breaths. but I end up yelling and screaming. I swear the neighbors must think i'm the worst mom ever. And I fear my kids will hate me for it.
I would love some advice on how to really stop.