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gina409
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Re: animal rights activists with kids
Posted by BargainMama
Your kid, your rules, just say no, he cannot go!
I agree
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StarsStripes
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Re: animal rights activists with kids
Posted by star444
Seems pretty simple to me... just tell them you don't want your child to go. Seems like the point of this post was just to point out to others that you think these places are cruel...
That was rude. How about you respect her ideas and not get all bent out of shape because you feel offended.
For the record I do frequent these places.
To the OP, just tell them no. End of sorry, it's your kid!!
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| Posted 4/5/16 9:40 PM |
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LIRascal
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Re: animal rights activists with kids
Posted by SecretlyTTC14
Posted by LIRascal
Here's the thing: you sound like a caring loving person who doesn't want to upset relatives by saying no, and correct me if I'm wrong, you actually care what they think about you. I think this is admirable, thoughtful and something that some of my friends couldn't be bothered with (I don't give a crap what they think or screw them if they're insulted etc)
i have a hard time saying no to some things they think are "normal" because we have a nice relationship. I've learned to just explain my feelings and after some time, I have stopped being the "ridiculous" one, and my wishes are ultimately respected.
It's exactly this! Thank you... I'm so glad you understand. I do like them (even though they don't share my views on certain things) and I really want them to continue liking me. They think some of my views are nutty, which is fine, I just chalk it up to it being a generational thing. They also think recycling is nonsense. They aren't going to change now. I know there's always the option of putting my foot down and that's that. My kid.. my rules.
But I don't want to start a family fight and make it something it doesn't have to be. I don't want him to grow up dealing with family drama over me putting my foot down about things that the rest of the family considers to be perfectly normal. Which was why I was looking for a better/nicer way to handle the situation.
It sounds just like me and my in laws.... Politically opposite ends of the spectrum. It gets easier, trust me. The other day MIL called to ask if she could take them for fast food before she took them out to eat. We laughed after I answered, "none of the above" and they went for pizza instead. I'm sure that they grumble about me in the privacy of their own home, but they understand that I only want the best for my kids...
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| Posted 4/5/16 10:32 PM |
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Maybe-Baybe
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Re: animal rights activists with kids
I don't really have any advice, but I know how you feel. It's really hard to clash with the inlaws on anything, especially something you care a lot about. Just try to stay strong on your stance
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| Posted 4/5/16 11:30 PM |
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Sparrow
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Re: animal rights activists with kids
Posted by Siren77
I love the idea of previous poster about finding places that you are comfortable for them to take your child. Give them a entire list of ideas so that they don't feel limited in their choices. Maybe you can find something that they can make their "special outing." Something that they do every year that you feel fits with your beliefs. If you really think about it, it's not really the zoo or the aquarium per say. These are just places that are kid friendly. The entire idea is about the time spent together and creating memories. Personally, I love reminiscing about the places my grandmother took me year after year.
This was my suggestion also. Tell them where exactly they CAN take them so they can't say "Oh, you won't let us take them ANYWHERE!"
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| Posted 4/6/16 7:45 AM |
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Re: animal rights activists with kids
Posted by SecretlyTTC14
If you're a parent that is also an animal rights activist how do you handle it when family wants to take your child to zoo, the aquarium and sea world etc.? It is so against my core beliefs because I have seen the suffering first hand. I hate trying to explain it to people (like my in-laws) that just refuse to believe that the animals suffer in anyway. The summer is coming and they are going to want to take DS to these kinds of places. What do I do? I want to raise a kind and compassionate child who knows that animals suffering is wrong, and just because it happens behind closed doors, it doesn't make it ok.
I refuse to support these kinds of businesses in anyway. It's going to be so hard when his grandparents are the exact opposite way of thinking.
ETA- Please, no drama. If your not an animal rights activist, don't answer. I don't need to explain myself to you.
crashing, IMO if you and your spouse do not believe in supporting places such as those mentioned, then a conversation that includes you, your husband and in laws is all that is needed.
Simple say, we know how much you want to take ...to these places and we appreciate it the thought, but, we do not want (name) going there, give them a few examples and places that are acceptable to you for them to bring the kids. Without knowing how old your kids are, if you instilled in them your values they might not want to go to those places.
Message edited 4/6/2016 8:35:42 AM.
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prunepie
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Re: animal rights activists with kids
How do u deal with being in places that serve meat or sell animal products tgat you know aren't cruelty free? I would apply the same tactics if that's your belief system
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| Posted 4/6/16 8:41 AM |
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GoldenRod
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Re: animal rights activists with kids
Also, any time you (anybody) have a belief that has a wide range, you will most likely need to explain exactly where your line is drawn. There are vegetarians who are OK with eating shellfish, while others aren't. Some people are OK with aquariums, while others aren't. Some people won't go to any Disney/Six Flags/MGM parks or movies because of their history of animal cruelty, while most people are OK with that. Even fellow believers (of any type) don't always know what each other thinks is OK in their mind.
It's possible the grandparents have similar beliefs (I can't picture most people LIKING animal cruelty....  ), but they don't realize some of the facts about what goes on, or have only heard anecdotal evidence. It may take some education (in a good way, not demeaning or condescending) to explain to them why you believe what you do, and what you've learned about certain places that you don't want DC to visit. If brought up in the right way, they may be happy to learn something new.
I've had to teach my mom and ILs several things over the years, mainly about child safety ("I held you in my lap on the drive home from the hospital after you were born..." Yeah... times have changed, mom...  )
Sometimes, people mean well, and try to abide by what they think your beliefs are, but don't know enough to actually hit the mark. "Sorry, I can't really eat too much fruit, since I'm diabetic... " "But it's not sugar, it's just fruit...."
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