2 year old tantrum - bad way to handle?

DD is really in her terrible 2s now. Anytime she does not get her way, she starts screaming and crying. She even does the lying on the ground and crying.

I've read different things online, some say to ignore the tantrum (so you don't validate them throwing it) others say not to ignore the child, etc..

What I did recently is when she is on the ground crying, I drop down next to her and look and her and make crying sounds too. She'll start to laugh. Then I'll do other things to make her laugh, etc.

Is this the wrong thing to do?
Part of me is worried I am doing the whole "You're teaching her that if she throws a tantrum, then daddy will play games with her"

2 year old tantrum - bad way to handle?

We ignore tIll dd calms down and then we talk to her and ask her why she got so upset. While.she is in the throws of one there is no talking to her. If it's somewhere where she can harm herself we move her till she is done.

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My kids were not big tantrum throwers but on the occasion they had a meltdown I simply ignored them and would say, "That's nice, you let me know when you're done and ready to behave properly". Thankfully my kids took a hint pretty quickly, as soon as they realized nobody was paying any attention to them they tired of their tantrum quickly and moved on.

I wouldn't engage your DD UNLESS you're in a public place where she is disrupting others, like if you're out to eat. Then I would remove her from the situation, deal with her outside, and then return once she's calmed down.

2 year old tantrum - bad way to handle?

I ignore the tantrum when were at home. I make sure shes in a safe place so she doesnt hurt herself so while shes on the floor I pick her up place her in another room and then I walk away. I do not give her whatever shes tantruming for. I tell her very calmly that she can scream and cry, but that is not how you express yourself and it is not the way to get what you want. I tell her to use her words. And walk away.
Sometimes she follows me out and continues her tantrum. I continue to ignore it. And at times repeat what Ive said before calmly.

If were out somewhere then i remove her. I take her outside and talk to her.

When my dd is calm whether its 10 min later or an hour later or even that night or next day, we talk about it. I explain to her its ok to feel frustrated. Its ok to feel mad. But how she expresses it is what I want her to work on.
My dd is 3.5 now so its getting easier for her to really understand me. But since 2 thats how I handled it until she got it. It didnt work the 1st time but it started to after a few times of a consistent reaction from me. My best advice is stay calm do not yell try not to raise your voice. Weve all yelled and lost our cool, none of us are perfect. I just find it makes it worse with my dd if i yell.

Message edited 2/8/2016 5:12:46 PM.

2 year old tantrum - bad way to handle?

Hi everyone.
Thanks for the replies and the thoughts.

But what do you all think about this:
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What I did recently is when she is on the ground crying, I drop down next to her and look and her and make crying sounds too. She'll start to laugh. Then I'll do other things to make her laugh, etc. (and get over her tantrum)

Is this the wrong thing to do?
Part of me is worried I am doing the whole "You're teaching her that if she throws a tantrum, then daddy will play games with her"
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2 year old tantrum - bad way to handle?

I would not make a joke of it..She will use it to get attention more and more. My 2 year old is a big tantrum thrower and we just ignore her. They are doing it for attention and if you don't give it the behavior will stop. I only acknowledge her after she stands up and calmly says what she wants. She is even starting to appologize after throwing a fit! I was shocked.

2 year old tantrum - bad way to handle?

I only joke if DS is really joking, like a fake whine with a smirk. If he is tantruming (like tonight at dinner when he wanted more corn bread and I said no), I ignore him. It (thankfully) doesn't last very long that way and he learns to calm himself down. Then we usually smile and hug it out. This is what I would do with my sister years ago too. If we are out or the situation could be dangerous (too close to stairs, stove, etc) I will hold and hug, until he calms down.

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One of my son's therapists always tells me not to engage them when they tantrum. She said make sure he doesn't hurt himself but other than that do not talk to him, no eye contact etc. otherwise you are feeding into the behavior and they continue to do it for attention. Once they realize there's no attention, they eventually learn to stop.

It wasn't easy in the beginning but we have been doing this the last few months and his tantrumming has decreased so much (he'll be 3 in May). The therapist said, see, I told you.

2 year old tantrum - bad way to handle?

I've done that with my daughter too. I say to her "oh are we playing the crying game?" And I start to cry too. Like a stupid fake loud obnoxious cry and she usually snaps out of it fast. It distracts them and I use it as an opportunity to redirect

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