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Hofstra26
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Re: Help settle a debate
Honestly? Never. After work he's tired and just wants to come home and we like to spend our weekends together with the kids. We usually see our friends as couples, on occasion I have dinner with just the girls.
ETA - We really just enjoy hanging out at home with each other more than anything but we've been that way since both school.
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BriBri2u
L'amore vince sempre
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Help settle a debate
DH rarely goes out, maybe once every few months he will meet up with friends for some drinks or dinner. Once a year they all get together and go golfing for the day followed by dinner.
Other than that, he is home. I guess I shouldn't complain when he does go out after reading some of these posts  I only say that because when he does go out, it is always for these crazy long hours. He will leave the house at 7 and won't get home until 2 or 3 am. I could care less about that, but the fact that it leaves him useless the next day with the kids pisses me off a bit. I work all week long and having to do all the errands, chores and take care of the kids by myself the next day is just not fair.
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| Posted 11/12/15 9:43 PM |
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babydreams21
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Help settle a debate
DH went to go watch a sports game once in October. Besides that he hasn't been out without us in I can't remember how long. He doesn't go to work happy hours etc. He does have some holiday party thing coming up which he has to make an appearance at.
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| Posted 11/12/15 9:59 PM |
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b2b777
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Help settle a debate
My DH goes out every Monday for beers with the guys - this is all year. During the spring and summer he plays softball on Sunday nights, and basketball Saturday mornings. So depending on the season it can be 1-3x a week. And if something comes up at work, like a bday or special event he will attend but it is rare. Same goes for rare weekend nights out with friends or sporting events like going to a football baseball or basketball game.
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| Posted 11/12/15 10:04 PM |
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gina409
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Re: Help settle a debate
Maybe twice a month?
He is up super early (starts work at 6 am) and works Saturdays so Friday nights he is in bed early
He also plays hockey in the spring
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| Posted 11/12/15 10:10 PM |
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EandF
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Re: Help settle a debate
DH makes time to work out. Right now, while I'm on maternity leave, it's before work while the kids and I are in bed. When it's warm out, he plays golf and goes to the range pretty regularly, one or the other weekly. A work event on occasion, maybe every couple of months. Out with a friend maybe once a month.
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| Posted 11/12/15 10:46 PM |
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PitterPatter11
Baby Boy is Here!
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Help settle a debate
Both of us do not go out enough. Although we moved 8 years ago to our new town, we both have not made a ton of friends. Whenever we go "home", I meet up with my friends so maybe once every other month. My DH sees his friends way less frequently. DH has a work event maybe once a month.
We both workout 6 days a week.
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| Posted 11/13/15 6:17 AM |
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summerBaby10
let's be nice
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Re: Help settle a debate
Practally none. My poor husband :( He never has a problem when I want a night out & I always tell him to go out with a friend too but he prefers to relax at home.
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| Posted 11/13/15 10:00 AM |
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bunnyluck
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Help settle a debate
As expected, I feel like my DH is the front runner!
He works out M-F 6am-7am
Has a class till midnight twice a week (doesn't really count because it's a class for work/career)
Plays softball once a week.
Usuallly has a work event, HH or goes to a sports event, once a week or at least every other week.
And I wake up every 1-2 hours because I have a 7 month old who doesn't sleep and the only thing that calms him is the boob (another post for another day).
This is a vent but I feel like I do 80% of the childcare on top of working full time!
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| Posted 11/13/15 10:16 AM |
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ineedababynow
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Re: Help settle a debate
rarely. He'll play poker every so often on a Saturday night, but even that's rare.
During the summer he'll go out to his friends house (sometimes we'll all go and I'll leave with kids) and he'll stay and sleep it off.
I don't mind at all. I'll take kids home and he can stay and hang out.
My dh NEVER goes out so when he does he enjoys himself.
And I'm ok with it.
My dh is fine with sitting at home playing video games and saving money.
No complaints here.
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| Posted 11/13/15 10:38 AM |
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mnmsoinlove
Mommy to 2 sweet girls!
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Re: Help settle a debate
In the summer he plays golf about 2x a month. In past years he has played on a basketball league and that was 1x a week.
He has a lot of work functions which can range from 1-3 a week. A lot of his business is getting clients or meeting with clients o. This time of the year is hectic since everyone is taking everyone out for dinners. When we were first married I use to get upset when he was never home now I don't mind it. I know he is doing it to earn more money for us and because of that I get to be a sahm.
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| Posted 11/13/15 10:55 AM |
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DiamondGirl
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Re: Help settle a debate
DH has a pretty long commute from JC to Queens so he tries not to go and only does if he feels he needs to bc his boss is in town but that is rare. He never goes out for happy hour w work friends, if it were closer I think he would like to but since it takes so long to get home and everything he would rather come home and have a drink and see the kids while they are awake.
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| Posted 11/13/15 12:14 PM |
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DiamondGirl
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Re: Help settle a debate
Posted by bunnyluck
As expected, I feel like my DH is the front runner!
He works out M-F 6am-7am
Has a class till midnight twice a week (doesn't really count because it's a class for work/career)
Plays softball once a week.
Usuallly has a work event, HH or goes to a sports event, once a week or at least every other week.
And I wake up every 1-2 hours because I have a 7 month old who doesn't sleep and the only thing that calms him is the boob (another post for another day).
This is a vent but I feel like I do 80% of the childcare on top of working full time!
at a minimum he is out of the house 4 nights a week and you are the sole care giver on top of a full time job? totally not fair at all. My husband is studying for an exam also so a lot of the child care falls on me, which okay it is for work and to advance his career so I try to keep that in mind BUT if on top of that he was going out 2x's a week?? oh hell no!
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| Posted 11/13/15 12:17 PM |
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Budjeg11
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Help settle a debate
DH doesn't really go out on the weekends or during the week unless it is for work. He will go golfing or to a sporting event on a weekend once every few months. He does go out after work often (especially during the holidays) but it is for work events.
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| Posted 11/13/15 1:01 PM |
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Pomegranate5
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Re: Help settle a debate
Posted by bunnyluck
As expected, I feel like my DH is the front runner!
He works out M-F 6am-7am
Has a class till midnight twice a week (doesn't really count because it's a class for work/career)
Plays softball once a week.
Usuallly has a work event, HH or goes to a sports event, once a week or at least every other week.
And I wake up every 1-2 hours because I have a 7 month old who doesn't sleep and the only thing that calms him is the boob (another post for another day).
This is a vent but I feel like I do 80% of the childcare on top of working full time!
While this schedule would probably not fly in my family, I'm not going to judge another family if this works for them.
With that said, it's NOT working for you, so something has got to give. In what world is it fair that he gets to go out and have some carefree fun twice a week while you spend all day working and then all night up caring for his baby? What is he doing to make your life a little bit easier, especially during these infant months which are roughest on the moms?
I'm sorry your DH is being so inconsiderate. I hope he realizes how unfair he's being and makes some changes ASAP. 
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| Posted 11/13/15 1:44 PM |
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DaniJude
You're My Home <3
Member since 11/06 14815 total posts
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Danielle
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Re: Help settle a debate
Posted by Pomegranate5
Posted by bunnyluck
As expected, I feel like my DH is the front runner!
He works out M-F 6am-7am
Has a class till midnight twice a week (doesn't really count because it's a class for work/career)
Plays softball once a week.
Usuallly has a work event, HH or goes to a sports event, once a week or at least every other week.
And I wake up every 1-2 hours because I have a 7 month old who doesn't sleep and the only thing that calms him is the boob (another post for another day).
This is a vent but I feel like I do 80% of the childcare on top of working full time!
While this schedule would probably not fly in my family, I'm not going to judge another family if this works for them.
With that said, it's NOT working for you, so something has got to give. In what world is it fair that he gets to go out and have some carefree fun twice a week while you spend all day working and then all night up caring for his baby? What is he doing to make your life a little bit easier, especially during these infant months which are roughest on the moms?
I'm sorry your DH is being so inconsiderate. I hope he realizes how unfair he's being and makes some changes ASAP.
And me going like that and my SO having the schedule yours does wouldn't work for him either -- he would feel bad for me. That's just how we are as a couple - we really try and see the other person's needs and feelings.
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| Posted 11/13/15 2:15 PM |
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Posted by DiamondGirl
Posted by bunnyluck
As expected, I feel like my DH is the front runner!
He works out M-F 6am-7am
Has a class till midnight twice a week (doesn't really count because it's a class for work/career)
Plays softball once a week.
Usuallly has a work event, HH or goes to a sports event, once a week or at least every other week.
And I wake up every 1-2 hours because I have a 7 month old who doesn't sleep and the only thing that calms him is the boob (another post for another day).
This is a vent but I feel like I do 80% of the childcare on top of working full time!
at a minimum he is out of the house 4 nights a week and you are the sole care giver on top of a full time job? totally not fair at all. My husband is studying for an exam also so a lot of the child care falls on me, which okay it is for work and to advance his career so I try to keep that in mind BUT if on top of that he was going out 2x's a week?? oh hell no!
I read it as 2-3 times a week but once a week is for school, not just hanging out.
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| Posted 11/13/15 2:27 PM |
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NYCGirl80
I love my kiddies!
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Re: Help settle a debate
Very rarely.
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| Posted 11/13/15 2:38 PM |
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FirstMate
My lil cowboy
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Re: Help settle a debate
Almost never. With the Mets in the playoffs and World Series, he went out a couple of times. Once in a blue moon he goes to happy hour. Honestly, I wish he would socialize more often.
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| Posted 11/13/15 2:48 PM |
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cowgirlkate
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Re: Help settle a debate
Posted by afternoondelight828
Posted by DiamondGirl
Posted by bunnyluck
As expected, I feel like my DH is the front runner!
He works out M-F 6am-7am
Has a class till midnight twice a week (doesn't really count because it's a class for work/career)
Plays softball once a week.
Usuallly has a work event, HH or goes to a sports event, once a week or at least every other week.
And I wake up every 1-2 hours because I have a 7 month old who doesn't sleep and the only thing that calms him is the boob (another post for another day).
This is a vent but I feel like I do 80% of the childcare on top of working full time!
at a minimum he is out of the house 4 nights a week and you are the sole care giver on top of a full time job? totally not fair at all. My husband is studying for an exam also so a lot of the child care falls on me, which okay it is for work and to advance his career so I try to keep that in mind BUT if on top of that he was going out 2x's a week?? oh hell no!
I read it as 2-3 times a week but once a week is for school, not just hanging out.
Twice a week for school, once a week for softball (personal), and another time for work or personal. So 4 times a week? I hope you are getting out at least once yourself? Its not a fair balance by any means.
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| Posted 11/14/15 1:25 PM |
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nferrandi
too excited for words
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Nicole
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Re: Help settle a debate
When the weather is nice he plays golf every Wednesday and maybe on a weekend once or twice a month. He probably grabs a few drinks or dinner with friends once a week.
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| Posted 11/14/15 8:24 PM |
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drpepper318
MIR MIR MIR!
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Re: Help settle a debate
very rarely, almost never. He goes for a short run every night but normally nothing other than that.
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| Posted 11/14/15 9:04 PM |
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Annie91606
Brotherly love
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Re: Help settle a debate
DH is a homebody. He goes to the gym maybe twice a week, or for a run.
After work, he always comes right home, unless he has a work dinner (about once every few months).
We go out with friends about once a month.
Neither of us go out too much, we would rather be with each other or our kids.
Neither of us feel like we are missing out, either. We got married and had our kids when we were older. So we had many, many years of going out and doing whatever we wanted!
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