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I have been having a lot of trouble with my 3 yr old DD. She talks back, hits me and throws tantrums daily. It's getting to the point where I don't even want to take her out. I'm getting so upset bc I was excited for the summer to do so many fun things with her. It's so stressful just getting her ready to go out. I have tried taking things away, time outs, and talking to her. She also started to urinate in her pants and even pooped in her pants tonight. I just feel so drained. I should add that we have a 4.5 month old DS. I was thinking she wanted attention but I spend a lot of time with her just the two of us. It's hard to have the baby with us in a store or park bc I can't carry her kicking and screaming and push the stroller. What can I do bc I feel so defeated

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It might be the new baby even though you are trying to spend time with her. IT s huge adjustment for a toddler. So even if you are spending time with her the baby is still in the house and there and not leaving.

I don't have advice on what to do but I will say I have a 3 yo that can be very tough and we don't even have the new baby. So it might be a combo of the age and the baby.

GL - stay strong and realize this can be very common with new babies.

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i went through this when my second daughter was born. My DD was 2 at the time and she had such a hard transition. They are confused and they don't know how to express themselves. I would talk to her and try to make her understand that even though there's a baby nothing is going to change. Try giving her jobs to do so that she can help. I got my daughter a doll and she practiced diapering etc. too.
Hang in there i promise it will get better! Keep making time for her and try to understand that her whole life just changed and that's not easy either for a little one.

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I could have wrote this exactly! Except my dd is turning 3 in September. I actually thought about writing this many times this summer already! I also have a 4.5 month old ds. It's been crazy! I was going out and doing a ton of fun stuff, and this week I just stopped because I couldn't take it anymore. She even told me tonight "I don't like you". Ugh I'm hoping it's just the age and a phase!

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OMG I just posted a very similar post about what I am going through with my son.

Hang in there...

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Im going through this too with my 3 year old and I dont even have a new baby. Its just her. I go through that word for word. Some days are better than others but when their bad i end the day with a headache my back aching and im in a foul mood. I feel like im doing something wrong as a mother. But i think its just something they go through. I hear so many moms going through it.
My dd laughs at every punishment thrown at her. I try positive reinforcement and still get nowhere some days.

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Thanks everyone! Yesterday was probably the worst day I ever had with her. Thankfully, today is MUCH better. I started the day giving her lots of hugs and kisses and telling her I love her. I usually do that but today I did it even more. I have been trying to compliment her when she does something good. She seems happier with the extra attention but it's a little hard bc I need to leave DS in the crib for a little while so she has my full attention. She still hit me a few times today but I'm hoping it gets better. I just wish I knew exactly what set her off yesterday.

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