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Lauren82
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Vent!
Sorry, but I just need to vent to someone...If my mother in law or sister in law ask me if I am going to have another baby again, I am going to scream! I wish it was that easy, but honestly, I can only afford a 12 week maternity leave and I'm not sure I can afford to put an infant in daycare since I know I am not going to have family help babysit with this one! And really, this is baby #4, which I can't take lightly...kids are a lot of work!
And saying we'll have another 9 months after my sister in law has her baby makes me feel like she thinks we just copy her...our last baby was born 9 months after her first because we had a miscarriage 2 months before that and we tried the first month the doctor okayed it, which happened to be the month my SIL gave birth...and they all know about the miscarriage!
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Posted 3/8/15 5:52 PM  |
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Re: Vent!
People need to mind their own business. Are they going to take care of the child, mentally, physically, emotionally, financially? NOPE.
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| Posted 3/8/15 7:00 PM |
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Lauren82
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Re: Vent!
Posted by afternoondelight828
People need to mind their own business. Are they going to take care of the child, mentally, physically, emotionally, financially? NOPE.
I said to my husband last week that if she asked me again, I was going to speak up and ask if she was going to support us the way she supports my SIL's family, because if so, I'll have another baby for sure, but I chickened out...I need to shut her down next time, because it does bother us that we just aren't sure we can swing another baby financially thought we really do want one.
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| Posted 3/8/15 7:02 PM |
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Re: Vent!
Posted by Lauren82
Posted by afternoondelight828
People need to mind their own business. Are they going to take care of the child, mentally, physically, emotionally, financially? NOPE.
I said to my husband last week that if she asked me again, I was going to speak up and ask if she was going to support us the way she supports my SIL's family, because if so, I'll have another baby for sure, but I chickened out...I need to shut her down next time, because it does bother us that we just aren't sure we can swing another baby financially thought we really do want one.
Yep, I would do that and it WILL shut her up. We waited 5 years in between children mostly because of finances. No one was going to change our mind, unless of course, they were going to give us money and no one will ever say yes if you ask them that lol.
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| Posted 3/8/15 7:12 PM |
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Mom0710
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Re: Vent!
Wait, you are having baby #4 and she wants more?? Or is she just harassing you about having kids? No judgement really. I'm just confused by your post.
We had #2 and my mil thought we would "wait a while" then go for 3. Ha! I told her right then and there shop is closed, no more. And really myob.
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| Posted 3/8/15 7:54 PM |
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Lauren82
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Re: Vent!
Posted by Mom0710
Wait, you are having baby #4 and she wants more?? Or is she just harassing you about having kids? No judgement really. I'm just confused by your post.
We had #2 and my mil thought we would "wait a while" then go for 3. Ha! I told her right then and there shop is closed, no more. And really myob.
We have 3, she wants to know when we are having another...I do want another, but I'm just shocked at her boldness in asking!
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| Posted 3/8/15 8:03 PM |
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NervousNell
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Re: Vent!
Posted by Lauren82
Posted by Mom0710
Wait, you are having baby #4 and she wants more?? Or is she just harassing you about having kids? No judgement really. I'm just confused by your post.
We had #2 and my mil thought we would "wait a while" then go for 3. Ha! I told her right then and there shop is closed, no more. And really myob.
We have 3, she wants to know when we are having another...I do want another, but I'm just shocked at her boldness in asking!
What? ?? You have 3 and she is asking when you will have a FOURTH?
really????
That is some set of balls. She is lucky I am not her daughter in law. It wouldn't be pretty.
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| Posted 3/8/15 8:25 PM |
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Mom0710
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Re: Vent!
Posted by Lauren82
Posted by Mom0710
Wait, you are having baby #4 and she wants more?? Or is she just harassing you about having kids? No judgement really. I'm just confused by your post.
We had #2 and my mil thought we would "wait a while" then go for 3. Ha! I told her right then and there shop is closed, no more. And really myob.
We have 3, she wants to know when we are having another...I do want another, but I'm just shocked at her boldness in asking!
But yet she won't watch them because her dd is having kids!?!? Holy crap lady.. The balls that takes... That's crazy really. Tell her to go scratch.
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| Posted 3/8/15 9:56 PM |
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Xelindrya
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Re: Vent!
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by Lauren82
Posted by Mom0710
Wait, you are having baby #4 and she wants more?? Or is she just harassing you about having kids? No judgement really. I'm just confused by your post.
We had #2 and my mil thought we would "wait a while" then go for 3. Ha! I told her right then and there shop is closed, no more. And really myob.
We have 3, she wants to know when we are having another...I do want another, but I'm just shocked at her boldness in asking!
What? ?? You have 3 and she is asking when you will have a FOURTH?
really????
That is some set of balls. She is lucky I am not her daughter in law. It wouldn't be pretty.
riiiiiiiiiiiiiiight!??!?!??
NO way my mother in law would ask me more than once if I was having more kids. I wanted 2, hubby wanted 3.. we have one and we are VERY one and done. Those who are dumb enough to ask us if we were having more (when we were younger) learned quickly that I don't talk about my vagina in public, what my uterus can or can't hold, how my nipples drip or if I'm getting ****. CLOSED doors people.. my life, GTFO.
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NervousNell
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Re: Vent!
Posted by Xelindrya
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by Lauren82
Posted by Mom0710
Wait, you are having baby #4 and she wants more?? Or is she just harassing you about having kids? No judgement really. I'm just confused by your post.
We had #2 and my mil thought we would "wait a while" then go for 3. Ha! I told her right then and there shop is closed, no more. And really myob.
We have 3, she wants to know when we are having another...I do want another, but I'm just shocked at her boldness in asking!
What? ?? You have 3 and she is asking when you will have a FOURTH?
really????
That is some set of balls. She is lucky I am not her daughter in law. It wouldn't be pretty.
riiiiiiiiiiiiiiight!??!?!??
NO way my mother in law would ask me more than once if I was having more kids. I wanted 2, hubby wanted 3.. we have one and we are VERY one and done. Those who are dumb enough to ask us if we were having more (when we were younger) learned quickly that I don't talk about my vagina in public, what my uterus can or can't hold, how my nipples drip or if I'm getting ****. CLOSED doors people.. my life, GTFO.
I truly believe I must be considered a HUGE Biitch and people must be scared to death of me because nobody ever asked me such personal, inappropriate questions.
I hear horror stories about people asking about when you are having kids, when you are having more kids, if you are breastfeeding etc and I never once heard that from anyone.
Even the nurses in the hosptial (where i hear from others they harrass you to breastfeed) never ONCE pushed me to try it. I was like NOPE! and that was it. They were briging me cases of the Enfamil nursettes! 
It must be my resting bitchface!
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Annie91606
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Re: Vent!
My DH's family used to ask us when/if we were having a third.
We are the only ones in the family with "only" two kids.
I am never bored, and our house is lively as can be.
I just replied that we were happy with the family we had. You don't owe anybody an explanation as to the number of kids you decide to have! (Finances, size of house, family help, etc).
They will stop asking eventually.
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