Re: What haven't you done since having kids?

DH and I use to always have "lazy Sundays". We'd grocery shop and run all our errands early then spend the rest of the day back in pj's relaxing, , watching movies, napping, and having a nice homemade dinner. While we might sometimes be home all day on a Sunday it's FAR from relaxing, quiet, and lazy. "Lazy Sundays" have a new meaning now with 2 kids!

Go on vacation alone. I don't foresee this changing anytime soon as our youngest is only 2. Maybe in a few years. I miss having days upon days of relaxing alone time with DH.

Pee alone. Seriously, I always have an entourage with me in this house. There is no such thing as privacy anymore.

Sit down right away and enjoy a nice, hot meal. I always have to serve everyone else first, cut up the kids food, cool things off, refill drinks, get someone a napkin, etc. etc. etc. By the time I sit down to eat the kids are almost done and my food is almost cold. I LOOOOOOOVE when we get a date night, nothing better than a quiet night out where I can eat a hot meal uninterrupted.

SO many things have changed since having kids BUT I wouldn't change it for the world. One day they will be older and more independent and we'll get our "old life" back.

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i haven't been able to fully relax since having children. yes, i go to the very occasional movie, meet friends for dinner once in a while, i even spent one night in atlantic city with my DH a few months ago. but i can never really relax and let go. i am always worried "are they ok?" or "i should really get home, my parents (babysitters) are probably tired". i really really REALLY miss that feeling of being only responsible for myself, of going out freely and not always feeling like i have a time limit on me. i am never fully and completely relaxed, and i imagine i never really will be again, as i am a chronic worrier.

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The only thing I've seen listed here that I haven't done is been to an ocean beach. I don't feel the beach is all that kid friendly, especially with more than one. You have one kid trying to eat sand/whatever other debris he can find, the other refusing to stay away from the water. We take the kids to the north shore beaches (which I don't consider real beaches and I hate) because they think it's fun but it's really a big hassle for DH and I. I would never take them alone, I would be way too afraid.

I am surprised by how many people don't go to the bathroom alone. I can't imagine using the bathroom with one of my kids in there.

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Listened to Metallica on the volume level it should be listened to in my car.

DS actually likes it so I do still listen to it - but at a reasonable/child ear-friendly volume. He loves Until It Sleeps... as does his mother

But yeah before him it was like blasting lol.

I have to say, in terms of sleeping - I sleep great because DS is a good sleeper so I don't have the "I don't get to sleep in anymore" problems. I'm super blessed on that front.

I have been able to still take a trip away so that's good. I went back to the size I was and I'm lucky all of my clothes from before still fit. Yeah, so a lot of stuff is the same and not a lot has changed. I had to really think about it for a few minutes and then the whole Metallica thing dawned on me

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Gone on a real vacation- like on a plane.

Gone away alone together for more than one night.

What haven't you done since having kids?

Gone into the city - we used to go on a weeknight to see a band play, or on a weekend for dinner and a show, or during the holidays to see the tree and go shopping. DD is 18 mos old.

What haven't you done since having kids?

I was always an earlier riser, but I miss continuous sleep (although DS has had a good 2 nights...)

I miss working out like I used to. Right now, I try to get to the gym 4-5 days a week and run about 20 miles. This is a lot less than what I used to do. Once I am done nursing, I'm hoping to get back to running more since I'll be able to do it before work. It'll also be easier once outside is no longer a frozen tundra and I can put DS in the running stroller.

Also I'd like to get be able to have more than one glass of wine. How many more months til nursing is over?

What haven't you done since having kids?

The only thing we haven't done is sleep in and go on a plane which we will be doing next week when we are off to the DR. DS is about 2.5 and we still have date nights, i workout in the early early am, i read on the LIRR etc... Certain things like date nights and running are very important to me so me make the time for it. We def dont do things as much as we used to but we still squeeze it in.

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Posted by whoababy11

Posted by BriBri2u

Posted by whoababy11

i haven't been able to fully relax since having children. yes, i go to the very occasional movie, meet friends for dinner once in a while, i even spent one night in atlantic city with my DH a few months ago. but i can never really relax and let go. i am always worried "are they ok?" or "i should really get home, my parents (babysitters) are probably tired". i really really REALLY miss that feeling of being only responsible for myself, of going out freely and not always feeling like i have a time limit on me. i am never fully and completely relaxed, and i imagine i never really will be again, as i am a chronic worrier.

We sound exactly the same. I am always worrying and thinking about them. I always think I have to get home to them, one of them may not be feeling well, or is crying or my mom needs a break - that one really makes me feel on edge.

I was starting to ease up a bit and spending some time on me once DS turned 3 - going to the gym, reading, manicure every couple of weeks etc. Then I got pregnant and we now have a 1 year old DD. So I'm tensed about all over again.

my kids are 3 and 1 too! maybe when theyre older we will be able to relax?? [/QUOTE

You get to relax about certain things but there is always something new to worry about lol

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Vacation.

We used to do that all the time. Since I got pregnant we haven't gone anywhere. We have moved 3 times though so technically we have just replaced vacations with moving... It's not the same.

What haven't you done since having kids?

We haven't gone on vacation, with or without them. We haven't gone to the beach or the pool, and we have never been to the mall.

What haven't you done since having kids?

We haven't gone on an exotic vacation like we used to in the past and i haven't read a book through its entirety in forever:(

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What haven't you done since having kids?

Gone to a casino! We used to love to sneak away to Belmont racetrack, Mohegan sun or AC for a night out or a weekend away. Not since LO has come. I miss it.

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Posted by ANewDayHasCome

Posted by IVFmiracle

Vacation.

We used to do that all the time. Since I got pregnant we haven't gone anywhere. We have moved 3 times though so technically we have just replaced vacations with moving... It's not the same.

You mean like Mohegsn Sun?

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We've had a few overnights with weddings, but we haven't had a child free vacation. Hoping to go somewhere in the summer or fall for our 10 year anniversary.

What haven't you done since having kids?

Sleep in
Get drunk out of my face
Put myself first

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Posted by ANewDayHasCome

Posted by IVFmiracle

Vacation.

We used to do that all the time. Since I got pregnant we haven't gone anywhere. We have moved 3 times though so technically we have just replaced vacations with moving... It's not the same.

You mean like Mohegsn Sun?

What haven't you done since having kids?

go to the gym.