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Cindyrella
LIF Toddler
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Cindy
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Re: I am so fing mad right now
if the ceremony is somewhere other than the reception site than why not have kids there? If my kids aren't invited to a wedding but there is a church ceremony I bring my kids to that - they just don't go to the reception. Even people that aren't invited to the reception go to the church sometimes.... you really cant say who does and doesn't go to the church. she should definitely leave the kids in the ceremony if she already asked them.
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FirstMate
My lil cowboy
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Re: I am so fing mad right now
Is she for real? What a dipsh!t. Excuse my French. All of that stuff should have been hashed out BEFORE getting your DD super excited like that. Come on! That's just wrong.
Personally, I'm vindictive so I would kamikaze her next time you are all together and set her up so she is forced to tell your DD herself. However, if your preference is the high road, I guess I would say there was some confusion and she isn't IN the wedding but gets to wear a pretty dress TO the wedding (she's allowed to go the church, right?).
As for you, I think she's a good example of a bridezilla but I don't think you should exclude yourself. I get that your feelings are hurt, and rightfully so, but I think you will regret that later on.
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| Posted 1/24/14 3:29 PM |
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JDubs
different, not less
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Re: I am so fing mad right now
Why can't she just include them in the ceremony at least? They do not have to be at the reception but I think it would be nice of her to honor her promise to your DD at and least have her take part in the ceremony and maybe have a sitter afterwards
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| Posted 1/24/14 3:36 PM |
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jellybean78
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Re: I am so fing mad right now
Posted by nferrandi
I would be beyond pissed! I also think that having a wedding child-free is fine, but I think it's sh1tty that she decided that after asking your dd. our wedding was child-free with the exception of the flower girl and ring bearer. No one had an issue with that.
I agree I would be pissed off too. DD is the flower girl for my cousins wedding and she will be the only child there. I don't understand what the big deal is.
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| Posted 1/24/14 4:11 PM |
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Kath14
LIF Infant
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Re: I am so fing mad right now
What an unbelievably mean thing to do to children. And excluding you was just hurtful. I'm sorry you have to deal with this. If you don't want to back out of the BP, then only do what works for you. If that means no Bach party then so be it. Do not go out of your way. Sorry for you!
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| Posted 1/24/14 4:27 PM |
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AllyMally
LIF Adolescent
Member since 1/13 881 total posts
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Alyson
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I am so fing mad right now
I am going to cool my heels for a bit, and if this continues i'm going to just tell her that I can't be in the bridal party. With the things she wants and expects I just can't provide that amount of money or travel. I understand i'm older, settled, and will have 3 kids, but I am hurt for my kids. I am also so hurt that she doesn't want me included in anything it seems. Just call or text and ask if I want to go look at dresses. When we talked last she was doing a color and all the girls could pick a different style for our bodies. I thought awesome I can work it around nursing. Well now it's all high collar custom made dresses at $500 a pop. I just can't.
At this point i'm not mad anymore just feeling really sad and very left out. I found out they picked a date on facebook! On fing FACEBOOK! Same way I found out they were engaged. I understand she is in a different time then me, but have things really changed so much you can't call or text someone before you post on the internet? I just don't have the time, money, or energy for the cluster that is already this wedding that is 10 months away. Oh and the kicker, she asked me if we would cater the wedding! WTF WTF NOOOOOOOOOO I am not catering a wedding for 400 people if you want me in the wedding also. I dabble in it. 100 max with LOTS of help. I am NOT an actual caterer. Ugh
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LIRascal
drama. daily.
Member since 3/11 7287 total posts
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Michelle
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I am so fing mad right now
She won't get it until she has kids.
Spell it out for her and don't hold back. You'll be glad you did. She only THINKS she knows what she wants. She has no idea.
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| Posted 1/24/14 9:24 PM |
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Kath14
LIF Infant
Member since 8/09 88 total posts
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I am so fing mad right now
There is no way I could swing a $500 dress plus all the other stuff. Do whatever causes the least stress for you and your family. I guess I would tell my daughter if it were me... but it would make me furious. It sounds like she's only 5 years younger than you, so unless you were a child-bride, she is old enough to know better.
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| Posted 1/25/14 8:17 AM |
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Ltdentway99
LIF Adult
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Re: I am so fing mad right now
Uhg, how rude!! She sounds like she is acting like a child. You may have to step back and let her make her own mistakes. You can let her know your kids were looking forward to it and see if it induces guilt. If not, just detach yourself.
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| Posted 1/25/14 9:21 AM |
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mlny
blessed <3
Member since 10/09 2113 total posts
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Re: I am so fing mad right now
I would bail out of the bridal party. I don't care if it's right or wrong. There is no way that I could leave my daughter devastated and go and be a part of the bridal party when she was supposed to be in it too.
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| Posted 1/26/14 1:00 AM |
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Kitten1929
LIF Adult
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I am so fing mad right now
I'm sorry but this wedding sounds like a shitshow. Who asks for $500 custom dresses but can't afford a catering hall? I'm sorry you're hurt but I think in the long run you Nd your kids are going to be much better off not being involved. Hugs 
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| Posted 1/26/14 7:43 AM |
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LIMomma
LIF Adolescent
Member since 6/12 523 total posts
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I am so fing mad right now
All things aside with your sister -- can you dress your daughter up and take her to a tea place -- tell them what's going on and let her be a princess for the day?
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