Struggling with Second Pregnancy

I hate to admit it but I really am not enjoying this pregnancy. I am completely grateful to have another little angel on the way, don't mistake that. I am due with DC #2 in July and the second pregnancy is SOOO different. Not only have I been much more sick but I haven't been sleeping well and have been suffering from severe gallbladder attacks. It's really making me sad because I loved my first pregnancy. I knew that I would have a tougher time with the second because it's not just me anymore. I can't simply relax when I am not feeling well or tired- I have DD to take care of. Sometimes I think that if it weren't for being sick all the time, I would forget that I am pregnant. I don't know why, but I feel like because I am not enjoying this as much, that I will end up with PPD which really scares me. Please tell me I am not alone

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You're not alone. I am struggling too. I feel blessed and am soooo thankful to be having another little one, but I am SOOOOO sick (I was sick with my daughter, but this is worse and I have no time to rest because I have a toddler to run after). Even though I was sick with my dd, I felt like I enjoyed it more. I stopped feeling sick every day with my DD around 20 weeks. I am 18 weeks now, so I'm hoping I will enjoy this pregnancy more then.

I feel bad, but I feel like once LO is here, I will be happy and it will be all worth it. Pregnancy just does not agree with me and takes a big toll on my body.

(((HUGS))) Hope you feel better.

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I deffinitely feel you on this one!!!!! I've been a complete mess this time around; just a sick, miserable, whiny biach!

With DS, I felt sick till about 12 weeks. This one kept going till around 16-17 and I just feel like it was much worse (or I might have blocked the first time out). Also, like you said I have a toddler now to take care of (who is ON non stop by the way) and I just feel like i've been more irritated and generally neglected him for about 3 months. DH and my mom really did take care of everything till around a month ago. Now that I've reached the halfway mark my back is starting to hurt, I get achy and crampy all over... UGH

This pregnancy also has a ton of complications. I was high risk the first time around but it was more of a prophylactic sort of thing and nothing ever flared up. This time every two weeks when we go to get checked up I get more and more upset that my body is just not reacting well to the treatment and I'm at a high risk for delivering this peanut early...

I was really looking forward to this pregnancy, not just the having the baby part but to actually being pregnant, since I did enjoy it the first time around. So I feel a little jibed right now


Hopefully your morning sickness will go away by the end of the first trimester and you'll be more relaxed and able to enjoy this better!

Struggling with Second Pregnancy

you are not alone!!! with my first pregnancy everything was great from day one - no sickness and always feeling wonderful. i loved being pregnant and i made a little journal with updates and took photos weekly. this pregnancy i dont do any of that and was sick the first trimester. i DO forget i am pregnant bc i am busy running around with my 10 month old. im also trying to plan her 1st birthday party (in feb), pack and move (in April), plan a surprise party for DH (in may) and then have this baby late may. i just dont have time to "enjoy" this pregnancy. i was taking prenatal yoga religiously with dd - and i LOVED it. it was my down time and i truly believed it helped with my l&d. i wouldnt make plans until after my saturday morning class. now i can barely find time to go and i have guilt if i leave dd for yoga bc i feel im not going to give her as much attention as she deserves once the now baby arrives so i want to give her as much attention as i can now.

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I am completely with you guys!! I am glad to see I am not alone because I have been feeling guilty about it.

This pregnancy has been so different and much more challenging!

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I'm on my third pregnancy and not enjoying it at all. I really have no time to even think about it . The first pregnancy is so nice. Well other then morning sickness that I had in first trimester with all three. You get to rest. Read all the pregnancy books. Register and look forward to a shower, etc.. After that pregnancy is just hard.
With my second I started to enjoy it more after 20 weeks. Once I really felt and saw the baby move around a lot and had a big belly, and when I knew the sex and started buying stuff. But nothing compares to first pregnancy. I also started having issues with my second I never had with my first.

One thing I can say about having a second was I enjoyed having him way more then with my first. I was a disaster after I gave birth with my first. I was depressed, scared, and just didn't feel like myself. It took me a long time to adjust and enjoy my son. With my second, as soon as he came out I was in love and everything came back to me. I knew exactly what to do and was loving being with him. I know not everyone feels this way, but this is my experience.

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SO not alone. I am truely blessed and I wanted this so badly but I am feeling alot more pressure and stress. Running around after a 18 mo old and family sickness is really getting to me. I was looking for and escape day just for me to unwind and DD got sick so that went out the window.

I had the best first pregnancy and I feel like this one is flying by and I am not able to enjoy it like I did before. After #2 is born I know I will look back and say it wasnt that bad but im knee deep in "Calgon take me away moments"

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I was in the same boat. I was so sick with my second dc and found it really difficult to enjoy my pregnancy. I had trouble sleeping and really feared I would have ppd. Well ds is about 2 weeks old and I feel great now. I miss certain parts of being pregnant but I am so much happier now that he is here and that I can get back to normal.

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You certainly are not alone. I'm expecting my third and we haven't announced it to our family yet and I've been so sick. It's really tough with two little ones. I'm struggling a lot with nausea all day. I pray it ends around 16 weeks like I had with my other pregnancies because I feel like such a bad mommy since it's torture preparing meals for my kids or even going to food store ugh. Hang in there! I can't wait to start enjoying this!

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I also loved being pregnant the first time. I had morning sickness at night which was bearable and not a big deal. But this time totally different pregnancy. Sick all day throwing up heart burn like nothing else and to top it horrible acne. Everything but acne started to imporove after 18 weeks. So I hope you start to feel better. I know it's tough sometimes and not everyone understands how's your feeling. Take some time for your self if you can.

Struggling with Second Pregnancy

It's so different being pregnant the second time around. I just feel like i didn't have time to enjoy it or bond with the baby in my belly. DS is almost 2 so I am always running around after him and he takes all my time and energy. I really have no time for myself - no time to lay around and relax and rub my belly lol!

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I was MISERABLE this time around in the beginning. I felt like the worst mother, worst wife. I was sick and vomiting all the time, zero energy, just laid on the couch. It was horrible. It slowly started getting better after 14w and then has gotten so amazing. I'm so busy with LO that I have no time to think of how fast this pregnancy is going or other little annoyances of pregnancy. It'll get better.

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I am glad to read this. I feel so blessed, but when I am up all night sick and cant sleep and then exhausted at work it makes me really sad that im not enjoying this time. I am hoping this ends soon (as this is my 1st baby), so i can start to enjoy this time.