Gender Disappointment

Anyone who felt this - did it go away at any point?

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Yes, I was hoping for a girl this time around and have one of each and be done but god had other plans. It took a couple of weeks for it to fully sink in that i'm having another boy. But now I'm excited that my 1st is getting a little brother he can play with.

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I am having a girl but I desperately wanted a boy. I am so upset and just feel down. I also feel bad about myself for feeling this way. I hope it goes away soon.

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I felt the same way. Don't be down on yourself. It's all hormones. It will pass. It will take time to adjust to the news but you will fall in love.

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I'm worried that this will happen to me so I'm going to be team green. My hope is that when the lo is in my arms (boy or girl) ill be so overjoyed the sex won't matter

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I'm not disappointed...but I'm sitting here in disbelief. I LOVE having a boy. I've always felt more comfortable with boys. I was afraid to deal with the "girl sass and drama" if I had a girl...but I still would have loves to experience having a girl.

I think what i'm really feeling is scared. I know DH and I would like a girl...which means we are more likely to try for a 3rd now. It adds a little more pressure bc if this were a girl our attitude was more "let's see how we handle two and let's see how our finances can handle two and go from there" but now it's more likely we will go for a third...and that in and of itself can be a little scary. Also...what if we DO go for a 3rd and thats a boy too?

Gender Disappointment

I'm having a gender reveal on Sunday and I am terrified that I will feel like this. Above all, I just want a healthy baby whether it's a boy or a girl, especially since it took 2 1/2 years to conceive. However, I've always pictured myself with a baby girl and this may be our only child and I just don't want to be disappointed if it's a boy (which I actually think it is!) and I will feel absolutely terrible if I am. It makes me really sad actually to think I will be disappointed.

Gender Disappointment

With ds 2 I did not want to find out the sex. the week I was due, the sonogram tech accidentally told me it was a boy. I cried hysterically. I don't know if I cried more bc it was another boy or bc I waited so long only for my surprise to be ruined. I was def sad and disappointed. With this baby, I do not know the sex again. I am actually very afraid for the reaction I will have if it is a third boy. Of course I will be happt he is healthy but I want a girl so I can feel my family is complete. My mom is my beat friend and I want a girl so I can have a best friend when I am older. Selfish, yes. Unreasonable, no.

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Gender Disappointment

My DH wanted a boy so bad....but we are having a girl...I think he would be more interested in everything going on if it were a boy but I know once she's in his arms he will be different.

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Just for starters...I am NOT upset about being Team .

BUT....there have been baby girls as first borns for 2 generations on both sides of our families...and a part of me secretly wanted to break the pattern.

That being said...as SOON as I knew she was a little girl...there was NO dissapointment at all.

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I wasn't disappointed as much as nervous...there are very few boys in my family and I feel unsure how to raise one. That said, we've known for a few weeks now and at this point I am so excited for my baby boy. I think your feeling will change over time and if not, when the baby is in your arms you're going to be in love.

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I had a bit of it when I found out bc I thought it was a boy and had been talking and thinking about a boy. When they told me it was a girl I was a little shocked. I'm due today and couldn't imagine having a boy right now. So excited for my little princess. It takes some time but that disappointment will def go away when you embrace the gender baby you're having.

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All I can say is that when your baby is here, its the single best thing in life. I have three boys and I got more sad that OTHER people thought I'd be disappointed. I can honestly say that he is the sweetest, best thing ever and I know that God knows what he's doing...

Babies are a blessing and an amazing gift. I'm not saying people aren't entitled to their feelings, but if anyone is seriously disappointed, just remember that your baby will be the best thing ever..boy OR girl. Doesn't matter.

This is also coming from someone who never really had a crazy gender preference...I just figured I'd get what I'm supposed to have. Does that make sense?? I love love love my three boys, to me it's the perfect family

Gender Disappointment

We found out a few weeks ago that we are having another boy. DH was really disappointed, I went back and forth. As much as I would love a little girl, I know it will be nice for DS to have a brother. I keep saying maybe we will try again in a few years, if we can afford it, but DH says he is done! Plus, as a previous poster said, we could have a 3rd boy! I know once we have LO in our arms, all will be fine. Now all we need to do is come up with a name!

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I went through this when I found out we were having a 2nd DS. It was really difficult and still hasn't really gone completely away. I'm absolutely thrilled with my new son and ecstatic that older DS has a brother to play with, but I still long to have a girl.

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We dont find out for like almost 6 more weeks but we have a girl and I want another girl and am nervous that it will be a boy. I just tell myself that if we have a boy I'll have someone who will always love his mommy and will help me feel better when when DD is going thru her i hate my mom teenage years.

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Posted by Ma-n-Pa2008

We found out a few weeks ago that we are having another boy. DH was really disappointed, I went back and forth. As much as I would love a little girl, I know it will be nice for DS to have a brother. I keep saying maybe we will try again in a few years, if we can afford it, but DH says he is done! Plus, as a previous poster said, we could have a 3rd boy! I know once we have LO in our arms, all will be fine. Now all we need to do is come up with a name!

Why is everyone hating on 3 boys??? LOL!! (JK).

I'd love a fourth boy if we could afford it!! LOL! Maybe I'm insane..I just adore having boys. Seeing them together and loving on their baby brother is so awesome to me!

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