Why is it so hard to take the next step?

DH and I have been trying for #2 for the last 14 months now. Several months ago I went to my OBGYN and he prescribed me Clomid. My cycles are regular and according to OPKs I ovulate regularly so there was no real reason other than the fact that we had been trying for about 10 months at the time. I was hesitant to start taking it considering ovulation didn’t seem to be the problem but 2 months ago I was desperate and began taking it. Still nothing. I only have one month left on my prescription and if it doesn’t work, I have to move on to a RE per my OB.

Im just at loss. We conceived #1 with no help in 5 months. Making the decision to move forward with that initial RE appointment seems so difficult and overwhelming. The thought of it gives and anxiety but going through month after month of disappointment is not easy either.

I guess I’m just looking for some support and maybe hear some stories from other woman who have dealt with or are dealing with secondary infertility.

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Are they monitoring you on the Clomid?? How do you know you're ovulating on your own? I find that Drs prescribe clomid just to give you a better/stronger ovulation. You have to be very careful though taking clomid because it can thin your lining.

Honestly since it's been over a year, I highly recommend you be tested and consult with a RE. The issue may not even be with you and you can take all the clomid you want and it won't do anything.

Good luck!!

Why is it so hard to take the next step?

Make sure you are monitored on Clomid. Going to a RE isn't that bad. I was happy to get some answers and have a plan in place. I suggest going to a RE asap and not using Clomid with your OB. A RE is a specialist and will be able to have you and your DH tested to see what the problem is and provide treatment. GL

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For me making the decision to see an RE was actually a BIG anxiety reliever. After the 2 mc's I just want answers and I am so confident that I'm going to get them with the RE.

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Thanks ladies. I guess its the accepting the reality of it and the fact that it could cost us a mint that is causing anxiety.

I made an appointment for next week.

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Good luck at the RE!! At least you know that this is their specialty in trying to get people pregnant and you are monitored.

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So maybe I missed this when I scanned the replies, but has your DH had a sperm analysis?

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I had the same issues you did.... I have a DS that was conceived within about 3/4 months with no issues.... DC#2 has been in the works for 2 solid years now and nothing... We finally went to an RE after about 18 months. It was hard making the appointment because I felt like it was admitting I had failed...

However, I really wish I hadn't wasted the 18 months.... You are monitored much closer and I just felt more comfortable knowing that I was doing much more to try to conceive.

DH and I did our 3rd IUI and got pregnant, but it ended in an ectopic so now we are just waiting for our numbers to taper so that we can try again. We're probably going to ride out the rest of the year on IUIs (hopefully we won't have too...) and then switch to his coverage for IVF coverage.

I'm hoping it won't get to the IVF level, but at this point, I'll do anything....

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On a side note...I know you said your OB started you on clomid, do they check to see how many follicles you have made each cycle?

Also, are you taking anything to help you ovulate?

I kept refusing the trigger shot (HCG) because I ovulate on my own without an issue.....however, what I didn't realize is that I made about 3/4 follicles each cycle on clomid, but may not necessarily ovulate all 4 follicles. If you take the trigger shot, it will help to ovulate ALL of the follicles you have made.

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I had nno issues conceiving dd1. It took us 5 months for her. This time around we were tryin for about 9-10 months n i made the decsion to make an appt with an RE. They do all sorts of tests. It turns out my dh was the issue. I went on clomid n when it was the right time we did an iui. I got pregnant first try n we r expecting in dec! Good luck

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Its is a hard step to take. its the stigma that its an IF dr. This was my big hurdle and i wish i had thought of it as a specialist like an ENT or something. Once I went and digested the fact that we had a plan I felt so much better. Its a process and each step is a hard one. Good luck to you. Sometimes it just takes a specialist.

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So maybe I missed this when I scanned the replies, but has your DH had a sperm analysis?

He has not. That will be one of the first steps we take with the RE; however he feels since we have one DS, the issue is no with him but we know thats not always the case.