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Please weigh in on this registry "situation" (super long)

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YOLO13
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Please weigh in on this registry

If you are upset then you are upset. No one should be telling you how to feel about this. IMO you should use what you have, set it up, get yourself comfortable. If your mom gives you something say thank you and return later if you don't need it. Try and put it into perspective that she originally was trying to do something nice for you and it got twisted. Good luck.

Posted 7/16/13 6:21 PM
 
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AScottWolf
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Re: Please weigh in on this registry "situation" (super long)

I think you should have just said thank you after opening the gift and returned what you didn't want or got doubles of w/o letting anyone know. If its from your registry you wouldn't need a receipt. And if for some strange reason you did then you have your receipt for things that were doubles.

And no, I wouldn't ask your mom to return her things.

If you still wanted your moms gifts to be a surprise then you should have never led on that you knew she bought the gift given to you by your MIL. I think playing dumb about all of it might have been the better option.

Sorry.

Posted 7/16/13 8:56 PM
 

BetterVersion
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Re: Please weigh in on this registry "situation" (super long)

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Posted by Kidsaplenty

Posted by BetterVersion

I honestly think you are being ridiculous. Yes the registry is "just for you" but your mother, and therefore your MIL, knew about it, and it's not at all unreasonable to think that people would give this new baby gifts AND its even NICER that they were considerate enough to get things off your registry. If you didn't want them they shouldn't have been on there and you do sound quite ungrateful and bratty. Plus you don't even need a receipt to return to BBB if its on your registry.

Take a step back and look at it from your mothers point of view. It seems like she is hurt. Maybe SHE was even the one who suggested to MIL what she should buy and that is another reason why she's taking this personally.



I totally agree. Your post does comes across as ungrateful, and I can't understand being upset because someone was kind enough to buy my new baby everything he/she needs.



What I can't understand is where I said that I was upset someone (my parents) bought me everything for this new baby. If someone could just point this out to me it would be appreciated.Chat Icon

Upset about the way my mom basically told me about it = yes.
Upset that I was called ungrateful by my own parents bc I wasn't thrilled about Dreft spray and soothies from MIL = yes.

Seriously, I wish people would read carefully before responding.



Did you want us to "weigh in" or not? If you wanted us to only respond if we were going to take your side then you should have said so.

You came across TO YOUR MOM as ungrateful. Why don't her feelings count in this situation too? Why is it only yours? And as the PP said if the registry was only for you why did other people know about it? And if they did WHY would you put things on there that you didn't want? That makes no sense. Your MOM probably thought she was being considerate suggesting things for your MIL to buy for you, and then you turn around and the FIRST THING you do after receiving them is ask your mom for a receipt. You REALLY can't see how that comes across as ungrateful - or how your mom might internalize that? Or be concerned that her doing something nice and purchasing everything else on the registry might be met with the same attitude?

Take a step back. Look at this from HER SIDE. Not just yours.

Posted 7/16/13 9:29 PM
 
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