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Dulcinea
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Reluctant partner?
Anyone had trouble convincing their partner to participate in infertility treatments?
So far DH has been reluctant to go for an SA and it's going to be even more difficult when I tell him he needs to give a sample 3 times in the next few weeks - 2 for IUI and 1 for the SA. Ugh!
Did anyone else have to persuade their partner and how did you do it?
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Posted 5/4/13 12:49 PM  |
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LemonHead
Sour Girl
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Reluctant partner?
My DH was veru reluctant at the beginning of our journey, but as time goes on, he's become more interested and willing. When we did IVF for the first time, he was actually more involved bc he was giving me injections. Good luck!!
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| Posted 5/4/13 3:56 PM |
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Pumpkin
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Re: Reluctant partner?
It took my husband years to go for a SA he was in denial there was a problem. He finally went but a lot of times was wasted.
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| Posted 5/4/13 10:20 PM |
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IVFmiracle
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Re: Reluctant partner?
Why is he reluctant?
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| Posted 5/5/13 6:53 AM |
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PhyllisNJoe
My Box Is Broken
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Re: Reluctant partner?
My DH didn't want to do anything when it came to treatments. He was very "if it's not meant to be, I don't want to force it".
Over the course of these 2 years he has changed his opinion a bit. We did IUI's and have discussed the possibility of IVF. I think he saw what it was doing to me. The constant disappointment. And it opened his eyes a bit.
Right now we are TTC on our own for a little while (after our loss, I don't have it in me to go for treatments again just yet). But if I have to go back, I'm hoping he is still on board.
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| Posted 5/5/13 7:42 AM |
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Lala08
2 Princesses coming soon!
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Re: Reluctant partner?
My DH was reluctant to start trying in the beginning. Took me 4 years to convince him and now we are in our late 30s. When my OBGYN told me I need to go to an RE now he kind of had no choice to jump on board. He came to our first consult and likens our dr(unfortunately he left practice) so that helped. The SA was very difficult as was the first couple of IUIs. Now he is more comfortable with it. When he found out HE was ok I think it helped. It's a guy thing. Those little swimmers seem to define them(or so they think). Keep on him but gently. My DH has severe anxiety so I tread lightly. Only tell him things he needs to know. Put things positively when possible. That's how I get through it. GL!!!!
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| Posted 5/5/13 11:54 AM |
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My DH was reluctant to start trying in the beginning. Took me 4 years to convince him and now we are in our late 30s. [SNIP]
The SA was very difficult as was the first couple of IUIs. Now he is more comfortable with it. When he found out HE was ok I think it helped. It's a guy thing. Those little swimmers seem to define them(or so they think). Keep on him but gently. My DH has severe anxiety so I tread lightly. Only tell him things he needs to know. Put things positively when possible. That's how I get through it. GL!!!!
This. We got married when I was 34, then we tried on our own for about two years, now I'm coming up on 39... so it's shit or get off the pot.
We feel really optimistic about this IUI though, we'll see what happens.
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| Posted 5/5/13 1:41 PM |
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PitterPatter11
Baby Boy is Here!
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Re: Reluctant partner?
My DH was/is very reluctant to undergo IF treatments. He is doing it for me. Without IVF treatment, we have absolutely NO chance of getting pregnant. IF is different for men...
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| Posted 5/5/13 7:58 PM |
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DRMom
Two in Blue
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Re: Reluctant partner?
I had multiple losses and was told we should consider I've in case these were tubal. I did actually have an ectopic where I needed my tube removed and he got on board with ivf. He had no issue with fertility treatments just ivf
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| Posted 5/6/13 8:17 AM |
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starr
little whale on the way
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Reluctant partner?
the only thing my DH had anxieties over was the SA. which is understandable. I told him if I get things shoved up my vajayjayjay then he can do this too. put him right into perspective of things knowing that all of IF treatments are a much bigger physical stress on the woman. plus he is the one who is dying for a baby even more than me so he had no other choice but to participate actively (showing up for apt's, driving me, picking up, injecting me, monitoring my vitamin intake)
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| Posted 5/6/13 4:02 PM |
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MrsM429
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Reluctant partner?
At the beginning, DH was VERY reluctant going to an RE- he believed if it was meant to be it would happen naturally for us. After bringing him along to a gyn appointment and the dr telling us " your chances are slim to none getting pregnant on your own", he finally agreed to go for a consult. I think it finally clicked after the first negative IUI and when he saw how visibly upset I was, that he started becoming more involved. Now, he's the one initiating conversations about treatment, asking when our appointments are etc... It took him a while to get to the point he is at now though
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| Posted 5/7/13 11:19 AM |
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