Baby Shower

So who is throwing your baby shower and do you have any input?

Last night my mom said something to me casually about showers costing too much money and that everyone will buy you gifts when the baby is born anyway.

This is our first and I really would like a baby shower, but I just don't know how to approach it now. Is it bad to throw your own baby shower? Since our baby is due in August, we could totally have it in our backyard. Is that cheesy?

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I don't think a backyard is cheesy at all. I actually worked out a guest list last night and will be giving it to my mom soon who will handle the rest. We will be doing it at a restaurant. I think it's fine to throw your own, in the showers I have been to I didn't even know who was officially in charge or planning/hosting it. It's about a celebration for your baby

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My mom is hosting and paying for my shower but I am planning the whole thing. She doesn't drive and barely speaks English, so logistically it wouldn't work.

I think you should totally have a shower. There was a part of me that didn't want one but this is the only one I will ever have and my mom really wanted me to have one too.

Don't deprive yourself just because it's not being done the traditional way. I think a summer backyard bbq sounds perfect. Are you planning on having DH and other guys too? I would've loved to do something like that, but it wouldn't have flown with my traditional family.

I say go for it because it sounds like you will regret it if you don't.

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My sister, mom, cousin, sister in law and mother in law are involved in the shower. I would love to get some input and I would love to help too cause I know how expensive things are...hopefully they will let me. I have requested to do my shower in my house. My family is huge and also I want a CoEd shower. My backyard is huge and the location is great it will be perfect because it will be at the beginning of June. The plan is to rent a tent with tables and chairs. We will have the food catered. I have seen outdoor showers and they look amazing!!!!! I have always wanted an outdoor shower from the beginning definitely not cheesy at all

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A baby shower isn't just about gifts. It's honestly about getting together with all your best friends and family and socializing. I had the best time at my shower and I know everyone had a good time too. If the weather is nice, I think a backyard shower is fine.

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my mom is throwing my shower and I didnt plan it or know anything about it other than the date and that it is at a hall. I originally wanted at a restaurant but it was expensive and then wouldnt be able to invite everyone I wanted..

backyard shower is Definately not cheesy at all!!! I would love to have it in my backyard if it was in the summer.. I am actually going to have the christening in my backyard cause we have a lot of space and want to invite everyone we could:) plus DH is a caterer so it will save tons of money! lol

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I do not think a backyard shower is cheesy at all! I'm due in August and my shower is going to be at my house. Shower is not about just gifts but the love and support of friends and family! My shower is being hosted by my Mom, Grandmother, and Mother In Law.

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It's funny, I initially wanted a personal in-home baby shower at my parent's house. It would be in the summer, I thought it would be pretty. But, it would be 50+ people and it is a lot on my father who would be cooking, my mom because it is her house, and with everything they have going on, I just felt bad.

We ended up talking about it and she asked me what I wanted, so I said it would be best to have it in a nice restaurant. We went together to look because I wanted to be involved - I'm not a surprise person, I'm very particular and she knows it lol. So we went with my sister and booked 21 Main in Sayville. They had the nicest menu with the prettiest room and most of all, it will just be my shower that day so there's nothing else going on at that time. We chose the date together based on MIL, SIL, my mom, my sister, and close family's availability... Being that it is summer, you run into vacations and things like that.

We are now looking into favors, invites, and some simple decor but I'm going to wait to see if it is a boy or a girl and then we'll take it from there.

As far as throwing it, my mother is paying for the entire shower in terms of the venue and everyone eating there. She had offered to then help with invites, decor, and favors but MIL offered to help with that part first. She is giving me money for that - anything above that (like if I get expensive invites or something for some reason) I'll pay for myself, but my mom is throwing the actual shower.

It was the same way for my bridal shower - I had to be involved I'm too controlling not to be!

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I think a backyard shower is a great idea. You can dress a backyard up with some decorations and make it a relaxing, casual day with your close family and friends.
My MIL is throwing my shower and I have enlisted my best friend to assist her because she is just as neurotic as I am.

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I don't think a backyard shower is cheesy! However, I do hope someone helps put it together for you! My MIL & SIL are mostly doing this one for me. My Mom and friends did 1st one. There is a 7 year gap between my 2 pregnancies.

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I think a backyard shower can be a really nice and intimate event! I would definitely do it and see if family and/or close friends would help you out in planning and getting things together.

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I through a backyard baby shower for my sil...it was soooo nice. We just were worried about the weather... we did have a tent tho

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Thnx for all the positive responses! I was talking to my brothers wife about it tonight and she told me not to worry about it, she's already started "pinning" ideas. She seemed excited over the idea that she would be able to take charge of planning it. I'm honestly relieved!