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so DHs cousing showed up at DH's party last night just to announce they were expecting their second.
then the comments and questions started. they all wanted when we would be next! it's so painful and frustrating.
no one knows we've been trying for almost 8 months. all of them seem to get pregnant without any thought into it. and the worst part is, we WANT a 2nd DC so badly and they are having one just because they are disappointed with the first. ( i know how mean that sounds but trust me when i say, it is true and everyone in the fmaily knows it)

how do you deal with the pain of knowing others are getting pregnant and it doesn't seem to work out for you when you want it so badly?

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I totally understand how you feel. I had 2 bf get preggo and give birth when I was going through IVF, and a co-worker get pregnant then miscarry then get pregnant again then give birth while I was still going through IVF. I would just remind myself IT WILL HAPPEN and it did! Have you contacted your ob/gyn about trying forv8 months??

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I know how you feel. DH and I have been married 4 years. We met later in life. DH didn't want to rush into having a baby because of our age. We are now on the same page and only our parents and a few others know we are trying. All of our friends and family have kids and are constantly asking. Even our little cousins and niece and nephews ask us. I tell them when it's our time it will happen. Deep down it kills me that we are not prego yet. It especially bothers me when a coworker terminated a pregnancy and here I am going to an RE to get pregnant. Keep the faith. It will happen!!

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Thanks LAdies.
I know I'm lucky because I have an incredible 2 1/2 year old DS, who is just amazing! But DH really wants a girl and DS loves babies and would be an amazing brother.
After so long (and especially since DS was conceived on the first try) it gets so frustrating. Especially when people who treat their children as status symbols and take vacations as often as they can "to get away from DC" get pregnant without even trying!

TyRese: I saw my doctor in December. She suggested using OPKs (which I will next month if i'm out again) and gave us 5 months before she wants to do testing. Five months is a long time, but then it's so short! hoping it'll happen soon!

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I totally understand how you feel. I'm in a playgroup and two of the other 3 girls are pregnant and due soon. I feel so jealous sometimes that they are getting the family I wanted (kids 2 years apart). But I am happy for them too.

Plus several people in my family have asked recently when we are having a 2nd. I just want to tell them what we've been through, but I don't because I'm very private.

We're also trying for #2 after having conceived our first on the first try. So I definitely understand how you feel.

I'd consider pushing your doctor for doing some testing earlier. Why waste more time if you've already been trying for 8 months?

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I can definitely relate too!! DH and I have been married and TTC 1 1/2 yrs. For me it's not so much people around me getting pregnant that bothers me, it's people's comments. My sister just had twins, one of my dearest friends is due next month with twins, and another dear friend is due in March. I am so happy for all of them that that doesn't effect me. It's all of the people who say/ask..."Why don't you have children yet?" "Are you waiting?" "It's good that you're waiting, just enjoy being married?" "Don't you want a family?" And my favorite..."If you just relax and stop stressing out it will happen!" Oh wait...my other favorite is when DH says..."Don't worry baby, it will happen." Besides that he's been great lol.

Another thing that really gets me going is people who abuse their children, bad parenting, when people complain about being parents, teen moms...stuff like that.

There's no easy answer and no easy way to deal. Sometimes it's really hard to stay positive. I'll be honest, I've had my breakdowns; sometimes it's good to be alone and just cry it out.

This board is what keeps me sane. So many women going through the same things. No one really understands as well as the ladies do on the board.

If you need a little laugh, check these out. Someone posted them on another board...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VY5ZDMLpXUU
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-5O-kpBFEmk

Best of Luck to you!!!!!